Interpreting Women: What Is She Really Saying?

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  1. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    I found this to be a good read

    From Yahoo Personals By David Wygant

    What is up with women? When they say something, should we take them literally? Ever since there have been men and women, men have been trying to answer these questions. Relax! I am here to give you the key to interpreting women.
    When interacting with women, and especially when meeting a woman for the first time, most men are not aware of the language that takes place on a deeper level.
    Don't worry, you are not alone. For years, I also just listened and responded to women -- and ultimately complied with them -- without considering their deeper level of communication. Of course, when I did this, I wasn't very successful with women.
    If you want to be successful with women, you need to tune into what they are really saying. This is a simple skill to master, and when you do, you will be amazed at the ways you naturally start to interact differently with women. More important,
    you will be amazed at the way women start reacting to you!

    Let me illustrate how this works with an all-too-common scenario. I met this attractive woman in the lounge of a fancy restaurant during the dinner hour on a Friday night. I decided that I would like to get to know her better. After a short, playful interaction (three or four minutes), which included talking her into singing "Happy Birthday" to me even though she knew it wasn't my birthday, I asked her for her phone number.
    At this crucial juncture, most people make the mistake of thinking that since the interaction went well they can easily get her number. She responded to my request by saying, "Why don't you give me your number?"
    Does this sound familiar? We have all been there before. This is where most guys interpret what she says literally, instead of seizing it as an opportunity to interact and truly demonstrate your value. Interpreting her literally and responding with your number puts you in a place in her mind where you quickly blend with every other Tom, Dick and Harry who complied with her simple request. If you make the mistake of responding with your number, in her mind she's already dismissed you because she's instantly visualized having a boring and predictable relationship with you.
    Here's what to do
    Luckily, there's an easy way to turn this situation around. When she asked for my phone number, I immediately responded using a tone of conviction: "No. I just met you and you think I am going to give you my number? What kind of guy do you think I am?" The look of happy amazement on her face showed me everything I needed to know, so I continued by saying, "Don't assume I am like all the other guys. You may be cute, but you had better be a good person if you hope to get to know me better," and then I shot her a playful smile.
    I could tell that I had broken though her wall by her smile. I told her I had to leave and let her know that I enjoyed meeting her. Once she could see that I was going to leave without trying to get anything from her, she volunteered her number. So, I gave her mine as well, and in less than an hour after I left I received this text message:
    "Happy B-day David!!! Let me buy U a b-day drink. We are now at Houston's."
    So, what did I do? I headed to Houston's for my "birthday drink" and instant connection.
    How to keep your power
    You can make this scenario work for you by remembering a few key points. By not offering her phone number and instead asking for mine, she was giving me an indirect "no." It will usually be indirect because most women are polite and subtle when they reject us, but it doesn't mean that she isn't attracted and interested. On a deeper level, it just means that she needed help deciding what kind of man I am. She formed her opinion based on how I reacted.
    My reaction showed her that I wasn't willing to give her my power despite the fact that she was the best-looking woman in the place. Most of you know that giving your number in this situation is likely a blow-off.

    Giving your number here equals giving away your power. Always keep your power.
    When I responded "no" to her request in a tone of conviction, it was something that she was not used to hearing. I communicated that I am not like other men. It let her know that I am worth getting to know, and I am wise to her game of trying to get my number and blow me off. Saying "no" showed confidence and made her feel an increased level of attraction towards me.
    Next time you find yourself in this situation, look beneath the surface for what a woman is really saying. When she challenges you, make sure you keep your power by giving her what she subconsciously craves -- a man who will challenge her back. You will feel better about yourself, and she will feel more attracted to you
     
  2. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    wow....you guys should read the comments from people who posted. I think they are all definately "uptight" women.
     
  3. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    cool article, i skimmed it.

    About most of these dating advice columnists though... I wouldn't read them too much, most of them don't know what the hell they're talking about - do you honestly think that they somehow screen the writers and only allow in guys who have had massive success with women through conscious effort where they know what they're doing? A lot of the writing is total trash, so I would be a bit wary and stick to other sources for info
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Read:
    "You Just Don't Understand" -Deborah Tannen
     
  5. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    Cliff's?
     
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    Kalypso New Member

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    Look at me, Agree with what I say, Listen to my boring story

    That's about 95% of it, lol.
     
  7. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I've talked about this book many times before, just because I think a lot of guys would benefit from it. It's from a sociologist who studies how men and women talk to one another and the "hidden" meanings of what women really feel and mean when they say certain things, how to interpret, etc. Starts in childhood. I'd be willing to send you the book if you were interested, not sure if you can DL it online.
     
  8. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    Remember that thread where I was saying that reading psychologists' work in order to improve your social abilities is at best useless and at worst harmful? i feel the same way about this book - i haven't read it obviously, but i'm again willing to say that learning these sorts of things on a practical level is much more useful to the guys in this forum when it's learned from people in the self-help industry who have helped thousands to millions of people, not, for the most part, socioilists and psychologists sitting in a corner doing academic studies.

    There might still be plenty of value in the psych/soc textbooks, but on a practical level, i say stick to the tried and true - TR, Stephen covey, etc. I don't know, maybe you're right, but i'm still going to put my money on people whose accountability and professional reputation is based exclusively on actual practical results and changes in people's lives, instead of the level of education which they have
     
  9. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Well that's fine that you won't read it. I'm suggesting it to Falconer, the guy who reads every other book available that are sometimes written by people who haven't done 20 years of studies...So lets not debate it, shall we? I don't go into the PUA threads and tell everybody "Don't read that article! What a waste, I bet he has no idea what he's talking about." So I'm still going to suggest the book, because it's excellent; seeing as how you've never even read it :hsugh:
     
  10. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    cool man.. this is one of those opinion things...
     

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