Interesting Article: Why Women Play Mind Games

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  1. evh

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    I skimmed through it and it seems like good stuff. Saved for later
     
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    its all a test
     
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    It's impossible to talk about this subject without speaking in generalities. The problem with the above statement is not that it is *sometimes* false; it is USUALLY the opposite.

    I would say that IN GENERAL, the women who don't need a man to complete them don't go around saying it out loud like it's some kind of gospel.

    The women who actually say out loud, "You don't need a man to complete you," have dating issues. Almost INVARIABLY.
     
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    :rofl:

    Decent article but nothing eye-opening. Women like confident men with a spine? Who would have thought!

    The article claims that women play mind games to validate their sexuality. I would argue that half the times they play mind games is to gauge how interested the guy is in her and also to see if he meets her expectations.
     
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    good read
     
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    A good read...though I kept thinking "God I hope I don't do this.."
     
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    Accurate. My last ex-GF does alot of this stuff. That article confirms a lot things I had suspected, like girls who do this validation seeking and game playing are immature.
     
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    I absolutely agree a lot of my friends who do that and even I at one point did that before I had grown up and begun to have real confidence in myself. One of those sad truths for us women folk...:rolleyes:
     
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    The funny thing is I always knew what she was up to. Her games did not work on me and that drove her nuts. Now she is playing games with lots of guys....

    I'm the one person that can see right through her, but she needs to grow up first before I think she is ready for a relationship like this.
     
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    So you would be with her if she didn't play the games? What I think is funny/perplexing about all this is that women (myself included) often think that this is the way to get the man you want and to keep him interested.
     
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    Definitely a good read.
     
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    So here's my question. Do men consciously know that women are playing these games?
     
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    Take what people already "know," replay it for them verbosely, and you've got an excellent dating article.
     
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    I'd say I focus on what needs to get done for sex to happen
     
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    Yeah games are mostly in the girl's head... not my concern really.

    Also, as a male, I know that fast sex is the best way to achieve

    - one night stand

    - fuck buddy

    - marriage.

    So, it's not as HORRIBLE as it might sound. I'm not a bad monster of a man who just wants to fuck - godforbid. It's just that whatever I might want to do with a girl, sex is stop #1.
     
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    Some do, most don't.
     
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    Good article indeed, but nothing more than what everyone here in the Vag keeps saying to similar variations of that question.
     
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    I agree, but that's why I don't think it is a good article
     
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    I didn't mean to imply you were horrible at all. I do understand that sometimes ya just gotta get it :)
     
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    It's a good article for those that do not take the time to read up on the old threads in the Vag :mamoru:
     
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    I think a lot of old threads have some terrible advice, but it just goes to show that doing SOMETHING is so much better than doing NOTHING (which is what a lot of people do and just constantly live in a world of hurt)

    so in a sense any advice is good advice in some cases
     
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    I agree with it. At first I didn't agree with certain parts but it eventually made sense in a way. But guys need validation too. Everyone does. It's just that women need a lot more of it. For example a chick can have her BF and 5 guy friends and 5 girl friends, all of them giving her nearly constant validation. A guy just needs his gf and some occasional validation from friends and when he goes out, from girls as well. We just aren't as twisted to make up sob stories. And it seems like any relationship or friendship of any kind starts out with some form of mutual validation.

    edit: now that I think about it, I guess anyone male or female who gets enough attention can learn to eat it up.
     
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