Initial attraction and relationship success

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  1. NCS

    NCS Active Member

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    I've seemed to notice a certain trend and wanted to see what you gals and guys think about it.

    In the beginning of a relationship one party is usually the pursuer/chaser and the other one is the catch.

    Usually, no matter how long a relationship i see, the pursuer is not the one the one to initiate the break up. In other words, in a romantic relationship, the chaser will never really let go.

    Have you also noticed this? You'd think with time the equality would spread even and anyone could be the first to get bored/whatever with the other person but as i look at my own relationships and those i've been witness to, my theory holds...

    thanks for your input :)
     
  2. Magnum44

    Magnum44 New Member

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    No. I love the chase but i'm always the one to initiate the break up. Maybe just because I love the chase, or maybe because they get fat. I don't know I guess fat is a side effect of pregnancy.
     
  3. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Wait, I'm confused. What are you asking?
     
  4. XaPU!M

    XaPU!M Active Member

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    Once the chase is over I get bored :dunno:
     
  5. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    If the chase goes on for too long I get annoyed :dunno:
     
  6. Bugalu

    Bugalu OT Supporter

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    if your good the chase is only a day or two.
     
  7. XaPU!M

    XaPU!M Active Member

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    :rofl: That isn't a chase
     
  8. lauren

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    honestly, most of my relationships, i cant remember who pursued who much less outside relatoinships. :dunno:
     
  9. NCS

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    i'm asking if there is a significantly higher chance that the chasee (not the chaser) is the one who eventually ends the relationship
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Ahh ok. Yeah, I've never noticed that, in fact, those are the kind of things you really shouldn't put much faith into studying. It's all just based on who has the most initial attraction and at the end what happened to the relationship to make one of them dump the other. I understand the idea of the chasee seemingly having more power and less interest, but I do not think for a minute that most break-ups are done by them (considering there wasn't even a chase to begin with). I've been in plenty mature relationships that really did not have games or chasing of one another.
     
  11. NCS

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    i'm referring to chasing in the courtship only. i think we'll all agree that its not 50/50 in the beginning.

    i hear you loud and clear on 'not studying' this kind of thing but lets just call it curiosity
     
  12. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    That's no fun then. The chase is the best part, I hate when it's over too quickly cause then my interest starts dying down :o
     

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