LGBT Inadvertently "came out" to my client last night.

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  1. Sam Gamgee

    Sam Gamgee Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. OT Supporter

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    So, I work in a predominantly straight field... civil engineering.

    My clients are all these middle-aged straight, white, irish men who run the water and sewer departments in these little cities and towns.

    It's very male dominated and I'm I've only met one other gay civil engineer in New England.

    So, last night, Shawn and I decided to go out for dinner. We're walking into the restaurant, holding hands, and out comes one of my clients, with his wife and kids. He looks at me once and looks away and then does a double-take when he notices that it's me. I say "Hey!" and he says "Hi" while looking at us holding hands.

    I say "Are you going to be at the water conference next week?" He said "Most likely!" and turns away to walk to his car. I say "I'll see you there!" and go into the restaurant.

    So, I'm not sure if he's going to act differently toward me, but time will tell... eek!!

    Here's to being out, not only at work, but to your clients too!!!
     
  2. stubby77

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    don't forget, to ourselves and in our day to day lives!
     
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  4. Sam Gamgee

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    He just called my supervisor, and said

    "So, I saw one of your colleagues last night and he was holding hands with another MAN! I'm sure you know who I'm talking about, but I didn't know! Why didn't you tell me he was gay?"

    :rofl:

    Apparently he had no problem that I was gay, but he felt like he was out of the loop.

    Funny... As if my supervisor is supposed to out me to all of our clients or something...

    But, I'm glad he's ok with it.
     
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    This only becomes a problem when he finds your phone number and wants you to come hangout while his wife and kids are out of town. :hsugh:
     
  6. stubby77

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    That's strange that he thought he should be informed...like you're contagious or something.
     
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  8. cedric

    cedric I don't have a contract

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    I need to have that problem more often :o
     
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    lol at replies.

    its always a never ending process :hs:

    glad things are good :big grin: - its funny when ppl feel "out of the loop" cause they dont know.
     
  10. RedGoober4Life

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    I've met a handful of gay engineering students. I suppose this gets diluted in the field.
     
  11. Sam Gamgee

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    Well, I wouldn't say contagious... I just think he wanted to be in the loop with the gossip... like he felt like we were keeping it a secret... and so it surprised him
     
  12. cedric

    cedric I don't have a contract

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    the last person I came out to was a girl friend I only see like once or twice a year. She laughed and kept telling me to shut up like I was messing with her.

    After a good 5 minutes of convincing she screamed "I'm so happy for you!"...which if you knew her, meant "I'm so happy for me now that I have a gay friend/accessory."

    The last time we went out she made me have the anal sex discussion with her. I was oddly uncomfortable discussing that with a girl :sad2:
     
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    The "hysterical girl" is a classic, I remember this one I met on the Internets going all bananas.

    "OMG!! You're gay!! That's so cool! OMGOMG!"
     
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    :wavey:

    i knew maybe.... 3 out of 500 ppl.

    sad at my school.

    engineering side of campus was such a dull - dark - homophobic place :hs:
     
  15. aLwZjIttERy

    aLwZjIttERy Per vicis adveho verum...

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    It's true. I saw it on Tyra last week... :o
     
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    cedric I don't have a contract

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    bitches need to learn that ceddie is NOBODY'S Will to their Grace :mad:
     
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    Well what I meant is that...he thought your sexuality was something he had the right to know about. I wonder why? Would it have affected his decision to use your company? Does sexuality somehow determine how well one will work? Just thoughts and clarification, and the look on his face was priceless...PRICELESS!
     
  18. CoCo

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    ...I find it interesting that THAT was your interpretation.
     
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    That's the way I read it, too. I was starting to wonder if Stubby had some insider information.
    :mamoru:
     
  20. CoCo

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    LOL, I bet. :rofl:
     
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    I'm such a fag. I just realized I missed Tyra today (well it still has 16 minutes) and I got a little sad. :o
     
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    Oh. Not at my school. That sort of stuff isn't tolerated at all. It's a very diverse place.
     
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    I think it has to do with how the school is organized.

    our campus is in a big bubble - and in that bubble, engineering and sciences are separated from the rest of the campus - they are as far away as possible from any liberal/progressive sects/majors/people/thinkers.

    engineering is a big deal at our school too - it clearly brings in the most money and we have a lot of top notch people here... most of the engineering professors and people here dont really care much about social movements (thats not to say they have ill feelings - they just dont see a reason to waste time for such matters) - they're more involved with their research.

    Our school is also very homophobic - something I tried to combat my last few years after I came out. We were somewhat successful - but still, kinda sad - with a long way to go.

    you're lucky :)
     
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    I really don't like the word homophobe. :/
     
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    camarosrool yes i am

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    i really dont like the people that word is used to describe :\
     

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