LGBT in love with my best friend

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  1. skreid

    skreid New Member

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    and it's driving me crazy.

    i've known this kid since we were both... 7. so 13 years now ive known him. he's the only person i've known that long (besides the family of course) and the only person i can really call my best friend. we literally spend most of our time together when he's not at school. i mean, my entire summer can be summed up as me hanging out with him.

    he knows i'm gay and has no problem with it, but i really have no idea about him. he has had a few girlfriends, but during the time he was with them, he was so different...and not in a happy way.

    anyway. it's driving me crazy. and i don't just want to go out and ask him because i don't want it to be awkward.

    ahhh there's so much more but i'm about to pass out sooooo.......:noes:


    aggghhh
     
  2. TheMustafa

    TheMustafa hook 'em

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    man, dont touch that with a 10 foot pole, unless you're willing to lose the friendship.
     
  3. geniks

    geniks king of the hill

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    true 100%
     
  4. skreid

    skreid New Member

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    I've kept it to myself for 3 years now, and I don't think I could come close to telling him any time soon.
     
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    ugh...please dont get in the situation im into...ive dug myslef a hole I dont know if ill ever get out of :(
     
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    :eek3:

    edit: now i can't sleep because i keep thinking about it =\
     
  7. TheMustafa

    TheMustafa hook 'em

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    no, your situation just involves you not having enough balls to come out to your friend who already knows your gay. totally different from telling a straight friend that already knows and accepts your homosexuality that you are attracted to him.
     
  8. TheMustafa

    TheMustafa hook 'em

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    what you need to do is stop substituting your friendship in lieu of a real relationship. go out and meet (gay) people.
     
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    been there done that it sucks and is def not worth losing a friend over. But it sucks hardcore
     
  10. skreid

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    Tried. Anytime I was with someone all I could think about was "I wish it was him instead of so and so..."

    Indeed.
     
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    I so cant concentrate on a reply now, tomorrow.
     
  12. Bib-Lettuce

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    Been there, kind of. Was in love with a friend and I told him too, nothing changed at all, he was literally that great that it wasn't awkward, still couldn't be around him though and it's over, haven't spoken to him in months and probably won't again.

    It hurts sometimes, I do miss him, even have a dream on occasion that we are still friends but in the end I still think it's the better way to be. If I was dating I assume I would go through the whole 'why can't it be him' thing.

    I think what you need to do is tell him, if you can tell him your gay there's no reason this should be secret? I mean it's an important thing that keeping a secret is tearing you up, that's what's so important about coming out. Keeping it a secret is obviously not helping, been 3 years and you aren't over it, time won't heal it, actions (dating) won't heal it, so you have to take it further. If you know 100% he's straight then at least you can move past this, what's holding you there is hope that maybe there's a chance, you're living in a fantasy, his rejection will crush it and bring you back to reality and you have a chance at getting better. Course this is just IMO.
     
  13. Sam Gamgee

    Sam Gamgee Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. OT Supporter

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    awwww... I remember when I was in love with my best friend... weren't we all?

    He's straight, dude... so he won't return your affection.

    So, get over him now before this turns ugly.
     
  14. skreid

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    I think the only reason it has lasted this long (3 years) is because I really don't think he is straight.
     
  15. Sam Gamgee

    Sam Gamgee Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. OT Supporter

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    that's what I used to think/hope/convince myself to believe.

    We all thought our best friend wasn't straight and would fall for us too.

    Really... tread carefully on this one. You likely don't want to lose your best friend... and you don't want to break your heart.
     
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    geniks king of the hill

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    friends are friends, even if he is gay he would most likely say "I thought we were just friends"
     
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    A reply isnt needed now, everyone covered everything. :)
     
  18. I see hot guys all the time but then realize they are most likely straight so I don't do anything...it sucks, but yea....I wouldn't do anything with him or it WILL ruin your relationship and then you have nothing with him.
     
  19. Bib-Lettuce

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    There is it then, it's the false hope keeping you in this cycle and you need to find a way to break that.
     
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    i'm in lust with all my bffs :mamoru:
     
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    Go for being the extra in the 3somes after he's married.
     
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    i coulda sworn i replied to this. but been there done that. got over it. it sucks :squint:
     
  23. skreid

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    :wtc: going crazy tonight. we climbed up to the top of a fire tower in town and just laid down and watched the sky for about three hours.

    bah. he goes back to school next week.

    :eek3:
     
  24. Me and my friends climb on top of our elementary school roof which is actually very comfortable whenever we want to relax...so fun on a warm-but-still-cool night.
     
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    reminds me....i need to climb to the roof of my elem schools gym roof :mamoru: the roof of the school is easy (chainlink fence to a platform, then a short hop to the roof....unless they fixed that) but from the roof to the gym roof is by way of a 15' wall and two electrical conduit pipes
     

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