My gf and I fight about this. I will give you my thoughts in bullet point style: Note: This is all for an established relationship, NOT during early dating or courtship or whatever - My gf thinks the guy should pay because it's a sign of "respect" - I say that, if the girl has a job and is of similiar socio-economic status to the male, bills should be split. The reason men used to pay, back in the day, is because women didn't work. - I told my gf, point blank (after I paid for dinner and she made no effort to), that "if I always pay for everything, I can never be entirely sure you're dating me and not my money." That started a fight. After all, if I say, "hey, let's go out for sushi tonight," of course she'll say yes... after all, it would be a free meal. I know I would say yes if someone was going to buy me sushi... - I do not want to feel like I'm being used for money. - I don't want to feel like I'm "paying" for my gf's companionship - I'm not gonna lie, I'm naturally very frugal with money, and I don't want to go broke paying for things for my gf. - Honestly tho, it's just fair. In my previous LTRs (one was 3.5 years and one was 2.5 years), it was always assumed that we would split everything. It was never even an issue. I mean sometimes I might pick up the tab, sometimes she might, but it was never awkward, and it was usually split. My gf said I'm the first guy who hasn't automatically paid for everything. I told her she's the first gf I've had who has expected me to. My LTR exes would think it was rude to expect me to pay for everything. My gf and I have been together for about 8 months, and most of the time I don't pay for her, so I don't think she's with me because I always pay for her, but this is an issue that comes up a lot. I know she hates it, but fvck it, because I feel like I'm being taken advantage of if I always pay. What do you think? We're both in our mid 20s, and we both have corporate jobs and little/no debt. edit - oh, and one time, after she said the guy should pay, I said "well what if a male teacher ($30k/year) is dating a female attorney ($200k/year), should the guy still pay? She said "no." I said "fine, you've just proved my argument that it SHOULD be based on economic status and NOT on gender roles." Of course, she didn't like that because it was logical, and she's female. But for real, am I the only one that thinks relationships should be based on fairness and equal contribution (for the most part)?