Im trying to get him back what do i do??

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  1. mugen_princess

    mugen_princess chika chika

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    okay i have fallen really hard for this guy named larry and we use to talk and we were never boyfriend and girlfriend and i messed up and cheated on him and since then i have been trying to get him back and from march till now we have seen each other but just weekends and now we are hanging out and stuff and just Friday he went crazy cause he found out i was talking to a guy when me and him weren't talking ..and what i don't get is if he didn't care why would he get jealous and go on a rant then the next day he apologized to me and he seems like he still cares but he cant trust me and i just want to be with him. I mean we are okay now ..we are just friends now but i care for him a lot and i cant get over him. How can i get his trust back? i need to know because i want to get him back i have tried everything ...:wtc: I've tried leaving him alone but it didnt work he is all i think about. I've tried dating other guys but i just think about larry when i'm with other guys. and i hate that i cant move on! what do i do>>>:hs:
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    mugen_princess chika chika

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    yeah thats what i said but he still got mad at me and stop talking to me
     
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    If you cheated on him...why should he take you back?
     
  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :uh: You are incapable of explaining things.

    How is it cheating if you two weren't actually together? Were you just talking? Did he assume you were monogamous? Who did you cheat on him with? How many times? What did you do? How did he find out?

    Answer ALL of these questions please.
     
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    mugen_princess chika chika

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    i know but we wern't a couple he never asked me out offically so really i didnt cheat on him
     
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    mugen_princess chika chika

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    Okay yeah i guess he believed we were a couple . I only cheated once and it was a friend of mine and he found out because i brought that friend to a party where me and larry were and they got drunk and my friend told larry about us having sex .
     
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    yeah, I don't know what you want to hear, but you don't sound like that great of gf material.
     
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    mugen_princess chika chika

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    yeah i mean i know i messed up but like i said we wern't together and till this day im trying to get him back since march i have not been able to move on . i just cant get him out of my head.
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    If you've been trying to get him back since March then it sounds like a lost cause.

    After reading this thread by you
    http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=3806102
    it's obvious that you don't just pick the wrong kind of men, but you fuck your chances with the right kind of men. Hopefully this example will show you that and you will stop doing it.

    You can't get him out of your head because you most likely still contact him and see him all the time. Have you sat him down one on one and told him how you feel and asked to give you another try?
     
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    yankeeschick14 New Member

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    how old are you two?
     
  12. mugen_princess

    mugen_princess chika chika

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    Im 20 and his 21
     
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    mugen_princess chika chika

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    I guess i should do that ...i never tried sitting down one on one and telling him how i feel ...
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Well that's how adults communicate. So try it, see what he says. Tell him you are sorry and that you'd really like to give it another shot.

    If he tells you he wants nothing to do with you romantically then suck it up and move on. There's absolutely no reason to obsess over him when you are 20 years old and he doesn't want you. You have to live and learn sometimes, not grip onto what "could have been."
     
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    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    :rofl:

    This is doomed.
     
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    You only want him back, because now you can't have him.
     
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    Reading the first 3 "sentences" of that made my head hurt.

    :io:
     
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    XxvODvxX New Member

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    Both threads hurt my head.

    You cheat you lose. When your "talking" to someone you need to be clear that your not exclusive because one may think you are since your "talking" and the other might think your just talking and it's nothing more. Obviously you weren't clear and he feels you cheated on him. End of story. End of relationship.

    Too much drama for a 20YO...
     
  20. sapient

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    I'm still not clear on whether or not you were monogomous when you cheated on him. If so, one of two things will happen:

    1. He takes you back, because he has no spine. You'll end up walking all over him, and you will both be unhappy. Relationship will end, probably by one of you cheating.

    2. He actually has some self-respect, and tells you that you destroyed his ability to trust you, and that a relationship is out of the question.

    If indeed it was a monogomous relationship, just accept the fact that you lost control of yourself, fucked everything up, and move on. Don't cheat again, and don't make excuses for your past actions. Accept them and change your behavior.
     
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    I don't see how she did anything wrong? They weren't dating and she fucked someone. Unless I am missing something...

    Anyways, just move on, im sure you'll find someone better.
     
  22. Yail Bloor

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    apparently larry doesn't see it that way
     
  23. no lol today

    no lol today Soy la bailarina de la muerta. OT Supporter

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    Straighten your as out, girl. Stay single & study hard.

    Sounds like you've just given poor Larry a serious complex for life.
     

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