SRS I'm starting to hate all women

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  1. Swedish Boost

    Swedish Boost New Member

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    or atleast all of them here at college. Their self-absorption drives me so crazy. They don't seem to want to give me space in public. As a result they just run into me. One of my female co-workers can't get my name right after 6 months. I went through the trouble of remembering her name, why can't she give me the same courtesy. I try to start a converstation but I get the "I'm so much better than you" bullshit vibe/look. Sometimes I just want to grap their necks and squeeze. I'm starting to turn into a mean sexiest bastard. /rant
     
  2. Darketernal

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    What is our attraction to the other sexe then a flie going into the light and being electrocuted? :dunno:

    Well once struck by lightning you'll see that these people aren't out there to make you happy, most people are selfish and self centered. People who live for themselves cannot make other people happy. Its not woman, its humanity as a whole that lives in darkness and hatred.

    Just as a mirror reflects a person's image. People reflect their own hearts. So if you love, smile and be happy to other people then hopefully this positive energy will be reflected back to you.

    One more advice, don't expect other people to make your life happy, make the most of it yourself because you are the only person who has yourself in hand, you can't control what other people do, so don't be disturbed when a co worker still can't remember your name after 6 months, is it a very difficult name you have by the way?
     
  3. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    I'm in the same boat...I wish they would know what the fuck they want. It makes me so fuckin mad.

    Tryin to figure them out makes me sick.

    Sometimes I do feel like grabbing them by their necks also and snapping it.
    Sometimes I feel like grabbing them by their head and forcing them to have sex.

    These images have only increased as I have gone through two different but almost similar relationships.
     
  4. BradUF

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    You must be hardcore anti-social for a girl not to remember your name after 6 months or she is a super bitch. Is she friendly with other guys and just ignore you?
     
  5. sportsjunkie

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    speak up! give these women a piece of your mind.

    I hear so many guys say "I can't figure women out. I don't know what they're thinking."

    how bout you ASK them! talk to them, open up a bit, get them to open up. Women are catty and majority of them are dense, sometimes a confrontation is necessary; be frank
     
  6. 7960

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    This will be difficult but answer this question honestly from someone else's persepective.......... what is wrong with you?

    Do you not know how to act in public?
    Are you dirty/messy/unkept?
    Are you overly aggressive or passive?
    Are you rude/overbearing?

    ...seriously, take a personal inventory and see what you find. It may be that you never comb your hair and have nasty teeth, or that you tend to corner people and get too close when you talk, or something else that's keeping people at a distance not wanting to talk to you.

    It's really easy to think "there's nothing wrong with me!" and blame everyone else...but 99% of the time EVERYONE else is acting a certain way usually it's you who's to blame, not all of them.
     
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    Is the OP male or female?
     
  8. Pringles

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    I used to have the same problem as you. Im not a ladies man now, but Im learning the ropes. I'm also in a fraternity on campus so you can trust me when I say I've seem my fair share or stuck-ups. But I've learned you just need to be blunt and direct. If you get affection or attraction in return go for it. If not walk away. Dont waste your time on something thats dieing.
     
  9. Swedish Boost

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    I'm 21 and never had any real contact with women. Last fall I was walking with a group of people and this extremely physical girl (by that I mean she had to be touching someone all of the time) grabbed me by the arm and said "What's the matter, you don't know how to escort a girl?" I was like "no.":hsugh:

    I think she is just a super bitch. I seem to know a lot of them. The other day I saw her talking on her cell phone. She looked up at me but just continued talking without any acknowledgement of my existence. I have similar experiences with other women.

    If I was frank with my co-worker I would get fired. Sometimes I want I just want to yell at them (women in general, not just my co-workers.) That would get me arrested for assualt.

    I think I know how to act public. I don't think I break any social norms. I have good hygenie and wear clean clothes. Sometimes I'm very aggressive to people but, most often I am passive. I cannot find a median between these extremes. I don't want to be a beta male. Being passive has allowed me to be walked on by everyone. Sometimes I'm rude when my anger is at its highest. Once I saw this woman, about my age, approach the door. I thought to myself "I've let all of these bitches go first forever and it has done nothing for me" so I flung the door open and she jumped back, startled. I thought it was so funny as I walked through. I'm going to die a lonely man.
     
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    I'm not aggressive but I don't get walked on. These are completely different issues.

    And speaking of issues:
    Yes, yes you are.
     
  11. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    *WARNING: NO SUGAR COATING GOING ON HERE*

    Why are you so angry? Acting this way is no way to attract people, whether for friendships or relationships.

    Every one of your posts has mean and selfish vibe to it. You say that you can be very aggressive and rude to the people around you, just because you're angry. What gives you the right to take your anger out on others, whether you feel they provoked you or not? No wonder the people around you act the way they do.

    You've brought this upon yourself. If you have no respect for yourself and others, then no one will give you the time of day.

    You need to change your attitude, pronto. All this, "I want to take some bitch by the neck and squeeze it" shit has to stop. You need to figure out why you're so angry. And by the way, it has nothing to do with other people. It does you no good to tell yourself that the reason you're so angry is because some chick was rude to you. Be honest with yourself.

    And stop taking your aggression out on others. It sucks for the rest of us.
     
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    ^^ Good points.

    After reading that one thread in the Vag I started experimenting with people and who moves out of whose way.

    Everyday I literally ram atleast 1 woman, simply because she won't get out of the way. Its not like I'm going at her, I move half way out of the way, and leave it up to her to give me the same courtesy. If she doesn't she gets a shoulder in the face. Today was really funny because she didn't move AT ALL, and it was a really solid bump. I kept walking but turned around and gave her a smirk, she gave me really dirty look back. It made my day. :)
    Many females seem to actually change their course just to play chicken.

    Males seem much more adept at avoiding each other, except the short ones for some reason. Males who are my height or taller always pay me the same courtesy as I pay them and we both move half way out of each others way.

    Point is, don't get all fussy about these things. And don't base your attitude on whether or not somebody achknowledges you. What they do should have no bearing on your emotions, unless they are your really close friend, family memeber , or SO. I would consider it pretty fuckin annoying if someone I barely knew was constantly begging for my attention, and getting depressed or angry because I didn't give it. We all want attention, but you can't demand it, thats insanely rude. Women can pick up on this sort of demanding body language very easily.
     
  13. Swedish Boost

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    Will you elborate on this.

    I'm angry because bitches (yes I call them that because that is what they are) have stomped on me all of my life. I say ENOUGH already. How do I not have respect for myself? My anger is caused by people who refuse to even ACKNOWLEDGE my existence. Again today that same co-worker screwed up my name again in an email. I called her out on it, I don't know if that was appropiate or not, but it has been done.

    My intimidation drives them away. You claim that they really do laugh, I thought I was just paranoid. How can I be the prize with all of my self-esteem issues? Fuck me.
     
  14. Yail Bloor

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    I know exactly what you mean about them running into you.

    I've stopped getting out of everyone's way for the most part.

    I'll move over to the right as far as is reasonable. And if a woman who is most likely smaller than me chooses to run into me, then thats fine.

    I clearly remember being in college, probably not even 21 yet. I was walking down an aisle in a Hastings (CD and book store), when two young girls turned the corner into my path. Instead of one of them slowing down and getting in behind the other (there was only enough room for 2 people to pass shoulder-to-shoulder), they stayed side-by-side and one of them ran smack into me.

    Fuck that, those bitches aren't any more important than me and they can kiss my ass.

    There are plenty of good girls with sense out there, then there are straight up bitches. When you meet a bitch, treat her as such. Its what she deserves.
     
  15. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    If people have stomped on you your whole life, that's no one's fault but your own. That's one way of not respecting yourself. Letting your anger get the best of you and taking it out on others- that's another way of not showing respect for yourself. Blaming your anger and insecurities on others and not taking responsibility for your own feelings and actions- again, not respecting yourself.

    Your anger is NOT caused by people who refuse to acknowledge your existence. Your anger is caused by your own feelings of loneliness, exclusion and low self esteem. No one can MAKE you feel anything. No one can make you feel happy or sad or pissed off unless you let them.

    Why do you care so so much that this co-worker gets your name wrong all the time? Why is it so important to you? It's not your fault. It doesn't mean that you did anything wrong or that you are not worthy of their time or attention. If she doesn't know and doesn't take the time to get to know you (and this goes for anyone, romantic or otherwise) then it's their loss.

    Why do you care so much that some random chick didn't smile at you or move out of your way? The world doesn't revolve around you. Perhaps they have their own thing going on. Maybe they're having a tough day too. You need to take these things into consideration.

    Point is, these types of things, like getting all bent out of shape over some girl who didn't say hello back to you, don't matter. Don't let yourself get so hurt over some girl not talking to you or having a bad attitude. If it is not going to matter in 3 hours, 3 days or 3 weeks then it doesn't matter now. In three months you won't even remember who these random people are, so why give them so much of your power?

    You're giving your power away to people who don't matter. You're better than that. Cut it out.

    By the way, it was absolutely appropriate for you to correct your co-worker for addressing you by the wrong name... as long as you were polite about it. Being polite doesn't mean you let people walk all over you. You can be straight forward and firm and still be polite. It doesn't matter if you like the person or not, there's no reason to not be cordial.
     
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    What is there to elaborate on? I don't let people walk on me but I don't have to be aggressive to prevent it. Nearly any situation you can name that you *think* requires being "alpha" can be handled differently so as to prevent the situation entirely.

    I've got a bad combination...I'm pretty big, I laugh a lot, and don't mind pointing at things that I think are funny. I paid for a year of college by hustling pool and I worked construction with some not-so-savory characters. All that's resulted in more than my share of people taking a swing at me. But I've never hit anyone and none of those people has ever taken a second swing at me. It's very easy to diffuse a situation without resorting to "alpha."
     
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    I've tried, that doesn't work either
     
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    the irony is, its women giving the bad advice about women :mamoru:
     
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    yep, im well aware, i figured that one out a while ago

    of course, most women will deny that and get upset :mamoru:
     
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    Really "get to" a woman? :ugh:

    You might get her to pay attention to you for a few minutes but if your goal is to start a relationship (friendship, or more) then this is the worst thing you can do.
     
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    In general, it works best when the man escalates the relationship physically, and the woman escalates it emotionally.

    I'd say if a man is concerned with how to make the relationship happen, he is prone to doing things that will make her run away (supplication, putting her on a pedestal, seeking her approval, etc.)

    I've spent a lot of time on the issue of what women want from men, and here is my theory of what they want (at least initially):

    She wants a man who other women desire, and she wants to "win" him. She wants him to have other dating options, and she wants to be the special girl that he falls in love with.

    When a man meets an attractive woman and immediately starts buying her flowers, taking her to dinner, and showering her with praise, it communicates to the woman that she is not special, because the man hasn't had time to get to know her. He didn't keep her at arms length initially, and likely he doesn't have many other dating prospects.

    So when a man does these behaviors to show her she's special, it usually sends her the opposite message. She's not special, but he is desperate for her time, company, and attention.

    It doesn't matter if that last statement is actually true or not. But most of the time, that is how she will interpret these actions.
     
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    If all this is what you've observed then you're observing some pretty shallow women.

    All the women I've met who I felt were worth getting to know/dating/having a relationship with all wanted one thing... to be treated with respect. I bought flowers for some and didn't buy flowers for others. I took some out to dinner every weekend and made ramen at home for others whenever I could. I've bought expensive jewelry and I've given jewelry that I made for less than $1........ the only thing all those have in common was the woman appreciated that I was doing what I wanted to do for her and what I could do for her at the time.
     
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    You can do "courtship type behaviors" and be successful. Personally I avoid them.

    You did not at all address the issue of a woman wanting to "win" a man that other women want.

    I respect everyone, unless they show they are not worthy of my respect.

    Are you currently in a relationship?
     
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    Everything in a relationship is "courtship type behaviors." Nothing in a relationship is "courtship type behaviors."

    When I brought her out to dinner it was because I wanted to get away from the crowd and hang out with her (and because I had the money to do it).

    When I brought her home and made dinner it was because I wanted to get away from the crowd and hang out with her (and because I didn't have the money to go out).

    Sometimes I bought flowers or jewelry or dinner and sometimes I made paper flowers or made jewelry or made dinner........ that doesn't necessarily equate to courtship.

    Yes I did. I believe I called it shallow.

    Married 11 years next month.
     
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