I'm seriously freaking out. I need help.

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  1. bdiddy

    bdiddy New Member

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    I've been dating a girl for a little while now and I'm having a serious problem that is causing lots of concern. Recently, when we've been fooling around, I haven't been able to get hard. This is really embarrassing and I feel awful because I really care about this girl and I just want to be able to make her happy. Has this ever happened to anyone?

    I don't know why this has started to happen all of a sudden, but about a month ago I developed a weird sleeping problem and I sleep about an hour and a half a night. I'm really hoping the problem is because my body is overtired or something. The only other thing I can think of is nerves. This is the first girl I've ever dated and I really care about her so I'm feeling a lot of pressure to be a good lover.

    I know this isn't normal and I really don't need to hear "you're probably gay" or "take viagra." I'm seriously looking for help so I can fix this problem ASAP and make my girl happy. Any help is really appreciated.
     
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    Between your lack of enough sleep and the pressure you are putting on yourself "to be a good lover," Willie is having some issues. First things first, go see your doctor and try and find out why you can't sleep any more than an hour and a half. For the other part, the best advice is to just relax and just go with the flow.

    Good luck!
     
  3. bdiddy

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    First of all, thanks for trying to help and not flaming me. I've been contemplating going to the doctor because I've been trying to fix my sleeping problem by myself for two weeks and nothing is working. I'm really hoping it's just lack of sleep and stress, but it's really frustrating for the time being.
     
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    What changed when the sleeping problem started? Start there.

    But go see a doctor...

    As far the problem down below, it's due to the pressure you are putting on yourself, been there, probably happen again, unfortunatly.

    You're probably young and not used to this type of thing, right?
     
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    your age??
     
  6. bdiddy

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    I'm 19 and yes, I know it's sad that this is the first time I've dated a girl.
     
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    haha. come on man....your lack of confidence is spilling from the bedroom onto the OT forums! dont be ashamed man! there are still 40 year old men out there that havent touched a tit...ya know? you are you...everyone is different...bla bla bla......dont worry about when you do what. just be happy that you have found someone you like and are able to do this with.

    anyway, good point was made...did something recently change for you to be unable to get a decent nights sleep? i'd assume even if you go to a physician the same thing will be asked.

    good luck and get that shit figured out quick...your sleeping pattern is unhealthy for you!
     
  8. bdiddy

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    Yeah, I know my sleeping habits are horrible. Once winter break started, my sleeping drastically changed. I start classes up again tomorrow, so hopefully I will be able to get back on the right track and get everything fixed.
     
  9. bdiddy

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    Someone must have some kind of advice for me.
     
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    CBurgerjr League leading 49 HR in 1986.

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    I think your just a little scared...Play it cool...You may want to sit in front of each other and masterbate....before you start to play around with each other...That should get you hard as a baseball bat.
     
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    I'd be willing to bet this is exactly what the problem is. In young people your age, stress is the #1 reason for erection problems (by a wide margin). Go see a doctor if you think it will help, but I can almost guarantee that he'll tell you the same thing. Do you exercise at all? Seriously, it's a great way to relieve stress, and it could also help you get sleep because you will be more tired.

    One other question I have: how is your girl treating this situation? Is she supportive of you, or is she making jokes and teasing you? I would hope she's supportive...if not, then that only makes the problem worse.

    You're not alone, bro. I've been there before. Twice, actually. The first time was after the last day of finals, and I hadn't had ANY sleep in about 3 days. My girlfriend at the time wanted to have sex, but I was just exhausted, and I couldn't get it up. The next morning, after I got some sleep, I didn't have any problems. The other time was with a different ex. We had been having sex for a while with no problems for a couple of months, but all of a sudden for about 2 weeks I had problems staying hard, seemingly for no reason. I went to the doctor about it, and he basically told me it was stress. After I thought about it, I realized he was right...I was under a lot of stress at work at the time, and soon after that the problem went away.

    Good luck, man. I'm sure you'll be fine.
     
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    i just started a related thread, i know what your going through, i found a girl i really like and i think i'm putting to much pressure on my self to make sure i'm a good lover too.
     
  13. bdiddy

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    Thanks a lot Teh Octagon and everyone else. I appreciate you guys taking time and trying to help me out. I do exercise and last night I got a full night's sleep, so I hope I'm on my way to recovery. Thanks again.
     
  14. Trblmkr

    Trblmkr Tap that Ass

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    stress is probably going to be the #1 problem for you.. alot of good information here, but until you or your doctor can pin point the problem, it's not going to get any better.

    Women and MEN as well think that just because us guys think about sex all the time, that the body is just as willing. Well it's not true. Stress at work, stress at home, classes etc all play into how a man reacts when it comes to having sex. As long as your G/F understands that it's not about her, and that you really do care about her, then things are gonna be cool.

    ALSO... you know, there are other ways to have sex with your g/f without you having an erection. These can be some fun times if you approach sex the way it should be "as something fun and enjoyable" not as work.
     
  15. BTA

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    It happens, I had trouble at first a bit too.

    You'll be amazed how easy you'll get hard once you really get into your relationship with her. My GF just has to touch me a bit or talk about something sexual with me and I'm ready to go anymore hehe. Used to take a good deal more than that because i was so worried about it, just like you are now.

    I'd take the other people's advice in this thread, it's all good stuff, and just rest assured you'll be fine.

    Btw nothin wrong with the 19 thing.

    Good luck
     
  16. bdiddy

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    Bad news...it happened again. We were going at it and everything was good until I got up to look for a condom and that's when it all went downhill. My roommate came in the room and wouldn't leave and when he finally did, he came back five minutes later and totally killed the mood. After that, I couldn't get ready again. I'm getting really concerned and I'm thinking about going to the doctor because I can't handle this anymore. Please help me.
     
  17. Unite My Hatred

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    hey man shit happens, that same thing has happened to me, just dont think about it so much and you'll be fine. you should try and sleep more.
     
  18. hello pedro

    hello pedro Guest

    the same thing happened to me the first time i had sex...couldn't get it up for the condom. it's ok, it happens to the best of us. :)
     
  19. adam17

    adam17 now im gonna sing the doom song! doom doom doom do

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    holy fuckin shit!!! i never thought about doing that before!!!
    i kinda have the same problem with getting it up. i think it has alot to do with nerves but getting naked doesnt bother me nor masterbating :naughty:
     

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