I'm really not that bad looking; how do I get laid?

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  1. busydoingnothing

    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    I'm starting to be a bit more external and willing to talk to people instead of caring so much about myself. I've been extremely horny lately and am sick of letting it out on amateur porn pics of other people fucking. I want to be fucking. I'm not really part of the whole club/dance crowd, more the bar/indie rock crowd. How the hell do I get no strings attached sex?
     
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    nicklk New Member

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    Build your confidence, and you can get anything you want
     
  3. sportsjunkie

    sportsjunkie OT Supporter

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    go to the bars/indie rock places :dunno:
    network through friends.
    try online sites
    or simply just present yourself to a female you are attracted to
     
  4. busydoingnothing

    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    I guess to be more specific, what do I say and do to get from Point A to Point Fucking?
     
  5. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    see if the interest is mutual, then let things progress naturally. if it's not mutual then be cool about it. try the next girl. repeat

    will elaborate in a sec
     
  6. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    i'm not sure why i'm doing this but here is a very juicy post.

    the problem with giving advice to the question you asked is that i don't know what specific lines are congruent with your specific personality. that said, here is some stuff i and other people have done to good effect.

    "hi"
    >> turns.
    >> "hi.."
    "i always thought you were really cute. but i can't say that"
    >> "why not"
    cause i barely know you

    ...has worked for me as an opener. however it's also very cute, especially on paper. avoid being too clever in real life, because sometimes it sounds like you are doing just that - "being clever" - rather than showing interest. i had the right degree of playfulness / seriousness so it worked in this instance.

    "listen... i have no game... so i'm just going to say i think you're cute.. and ask your number... is that alright :)"
    ... has also worked for me as an opener.

    "i like you because i'm attracted to you"
    ...is congruent with my personality, haven't said this but it would work, particularly as an opener.

    "do you want to go on a date?"
    ...has worked for me twice in very early convo.

    "leave your bf and run away with me"
    ...has worked for me in light convo.

    when I say that saying these things "worked," I don't mean that three seconds later we were fucking. I mean that the vibe became sexually charged. after the vibe is sexually charged you can just chill and figure out logistics.

    here are some things that other people have done:

    guy: "i have to ask you a question" (big smile)
    girl: "ohhhhh noooo..."
    guy: "what do you say to coming back to my place and having sex"

    ...has worked

    " I couldnt notice (pause) ………but you got an amazing ass , do you work out?"
    ...has worked.

    the words you choose have to align with your delivery. i say things that are "natural" for me to say. all that "natural" means is that what I say requires minimal acting and that what I say extends from the way i genuinely am feeling in the moment.

    lastly, i would say that if you can combine the following two things
    - showing your sexuality, AND
    - being an otherwise normal, normal, normal conversationalist

    then that is a killer combo.

    being clever and getting the upper hand on the girl in conversation and all of that challenging stuff, is utterly unnecessary. i only mention that it is unnecessary because i don't particularly like it. if you like challenge stuff then go for it.
     
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    oddly enough JJJs "openers" seem pretty you. Find some little indie chick and talk her up about music, invite her on a date, let things progress. You're an attractive, interesting guy, just get yourself out there
     
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    If JJJ's openers work well for him that's great, but I personally don't ever open direct (showing sexual interest). I might move towards a sexual convo 30 seconds in if I'm calibrating it right, but I don't like to send her the message "I'm only talking to you because I think you're hot" right from the start. Because I'm not. I genuinely want to see if she's a crazy ass bitch first.

    Dress cool, do your hair, read the news and interesting shit and have stuff to talk about, figure out her signs of interest or disinterest, don't be eager or needy, compliment her when she's being a good girl, don't accept any bad behavior, never be afraid to talk sexually (but NOT CREEPILY), get some sort of touching going, SMILE, be a leader (have shit to do), and at no point should you ever be afraid to walk away from her or up to her. Give yourself permission for anything.

    Openers?

    Keep it simple with "hey what's up?"
     
  9. Abomb

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    the style ive gone with the past 6 months is basically going hey im abomb. damn you are really gorgeous baby. then ill go up to them later and start rubbing their back or giving them a behind their back hug. then i start making lots of sexual references about how i want to fuck the shit out of them.

    i am very in your face flirty and make it very clear what i want and when i want it. this requires good looks and a great smile.
     
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    Don't do this.
     
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    You have to open a set. Then you must throw some negs her way and gauge her IOI's. If you try to engage in physical contact, check for compliance. Also, try peacocking.

    http://www.themysterymethod.com/

    Forget buying that shit, just watch The Pick-Up Artist on VH1. I'm sure there will be marathons galore.
     
  12. Abomb

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    are you crazy? its the GM style or whatever you 'pick up artists' refer to it as. its a very awesome style. hard to pull off though :bowdown:
     
  13. Abomb

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    blah blah blah too much work, too much thinking, too much rigidness.
     
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    Don't do this, either.

    Fuck, Mystery has assfucked the new guys coming to the community.

    Here's the deal. The only people who don't think Mystery is a joke these days are the people at Venusian Arts and TMM sackriders. Yes, it's a fantastic model. Yes, it's something community guys should know very well.

    But I also know of a lot of guys that Mystery has really fucked up in the head, almost as much as Ross Jeffries has to some of his students. It does NOT teach you self improvement, it teaches you the model of picking up [some types of] women.

    This is coming from a STUDENT of mystery method. I've talked to instructors, know Venusian Arts Handbook like the back of my hand (as well as Magic Bullets), saw the 2002 NYC bootcamp that Tyler and Papa were at, have his DVDs, interview series, blah blah blah.

    I thought MM was the key to success until I DROPPED EVERY ROUTINE for 2 weeks while on vacation. I just promised myself "if it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't... but I don't want to hide behind the canned stuff." And I had the most successful couple weeks.

    The new RSD stuff is where the community is shifting, and I'm sure Style knew that (hence why he talked shit about Tyler in The Game... hmm).

    Honestly, I'd watch Real Social Dynamics Foundations DVDs, read the newspaper, get a couple cool hobbies, new jeans and shoes, a cool haircut, and do ONE THOUSAND approaches before you touch enother product (besides some inner game shit).

    That's how you learn game. I'm EMBARRASSED to know as much theory as I do and a lot of other guys feel the same way. I wish I spent that time going out and just learning from mistakes and see what works.

    What do you think happens when you actually need to see her (God forbid) on a day 3 or 4 or 5 or 6 or WHAT IF YOU DATE HER?! Mystery decidedly can't help you there. Routines can't carry you that far, and eventually you're going to have to show her your true self. So why not have a cool true self to begin with?
     
  15. Abomb

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    im sorry blackice but the GM style is a very viable method. granted, ive twisted it around completely to suit my own needs and personality
     
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    ngaplz that style works for some people in only some situations
     
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    ballerman230 just a pale blue dot

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    in short, learn how to be a cooler person?
     
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    that style works for me in every situation. and if it doesnt, shes probably a boring prude anyways :hsugh:
     
  19. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    It depends on your personality. I like strong SOIs / openers because of the doggy dinner bowl eyes. Also make sure the reason you aren't being direct, is NOT because you're too scared to show interest.

    Showing your sentiments off the bat doesn't stop the conversation. Its more of a (sexually charged) "let's get to know each other"
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Although i dont use it, Mtstery's got a lot of useful stuff. Stop being such a fucking loser

    :ugh:
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    suffice to say for any field tested technique there are 10 people saying that shit will not work dude, I tried it myself and got wood
     
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    Mature. :rolleyes:

    Mystery's shit works. I never said it didn't. There's great stuff to take away from it. I was a strict MM follower and did very well, but it didn't get at what really made me tick.

    Look at the show. They're putting on a mask for these guys to get girls, but it does not tackle the psychological issues they face. They'll never understand why they hurt after a girl breaks up; they won't get the inner workings of good rapport or connection.

    Bottom line, Mystery will NOT teach you how to be a fucking man -- just how to fuck a female.

    Yeah, I'm being a real fucking loser because I care about how guys get into self improvement, rather than having the fearful, scarcity mentality that 99% of community guys have.

    Just look around. People deep down DON'T want others to succeed because it will take away from their own. But that's bullshit. Others' success just shows you another possibility for you.

    Then again your belief system won't allow you to agree with me at this point because we're beyond solid rapport, so I'm preaching to the chorus.
     
  23. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    Not kidding but "hey I'm bored, horny and it's fucking hot down here" has worked for me.


    not that big of a talker but have had luck. Best part seems to be finding the girl that is horny and wants to fuck.
     
  24. busydoingnothing

    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    :o Thanks. :big grin:

    And yes, thanks JJJ and everyone else who has given input. I think JJJ's lines would fit my personality. How about something like, "So I've been sitting over there trying to come up with some clever way to talk to you and this is the best I could come up with?"
     
  25. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I dunno, it all depends on delivery.. what you said is fine as long as it doesn't sound like an apology and as long as it doesn't come off as, "please forgive me for not being clever enough."
     

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