Im probably an asshole... v. Opinions needed/wanted

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  1. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    Okkkkk, so.

    Over the weekend I was swapping my transmission and had to run to a hardware store (harbor freight) to grab some shit... and saw someone I haven't seen in a while...

    Ran into a girl I use to 'mess' around with. Harmless flirting, kissing/making out, groping and grinding, etc etc. The reason it was 'messing' around and nothing more is cause the girl always wanted a 'relationship'. Well, I didnt want that at the time and it probably is the reason her and I just stopped out of no where and it ended.

    Well, I run into said girl Sunday at the store. She was working but didnt see me at all. On the way out I kinda tapped the counter she was at to give her a wave/acknowledgement that I saw her. She looked up, smiled and kept working.

    Finish up the transmission, check my phone, 3 texts from said girl. "Hey, it was nice running into you today", "How have things been", "Fine, you seem busy i'll let you go".

    I get home text her back, general chit chat/catching up, blah blah blah. Find out she has a boyfriend and is now living on her own, with out her boyfriend. We start talking and I notice she's dropping 'hun' and 'sweetie' a lot so I kind of play along.

    I know this girl likes me, I know she 'wants it'. She started texting about the way 'I kissed her' and the things I 'could do with my tongue' and all this other extremely hot and sexual jazz. But wtf, girl has a boyfriend. Kept making comments about 'Oh, maybe I shouldnt of said that, sorry', shit like 'im going to keep those thoughts to myself :)', 'Sometimes I wish I was single', shit like that.

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    So my question/reason to start this thread. Is she unhappy in the relationship and is flirting with me just to have happy thoughts? OR am I a home wrecker for trying to possibly pursue her? I dont think i'd want a relationship (although, for some reason, with her I wouldnt be 100% against it) with her and if she does actually 'want' me, I could be ruining a relationship just for the simple idea of sex.

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    Is it wrong that im pursuing a girl in a relationship while I know about it? They've been dating roughly 8~months.

    ***UPDATE ON PAGE TWO*** 5/17
     
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  2. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    And for the record, this girl has slept w/ 2 'boys' in her life.

    I met her cause I WORKED with her FIRST BOYFRIEND (who she lost virginity to), and I really didnt like him. So I KNOW shes not a whore, even though i'll get 10 responses saying she is.
     
  3. Abomb

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    you need to decide if you want to be that guy or not
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    :rofl:

    FUCK thats what I was hoping WASNT going to be the answer.

    Im at the point in life where I 'dont care' and just want to live. But at the same time, i've never been "that guy".
     
  5. D7

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    Be clear about what you want and realistic about whether you'll succeed.
     
  6. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Do I really need to say it?
     
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    vodkacollins New Member

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    yeah

    no other details really matter honestly.
     
  8. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    Makes 100% sense.
     
  9. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    why would you believe anything that comes out of her mouth that you can't verify when you know for a fact she is very deceptively flirting with you via text behind her boyfriend's back?
     
  10. Abomb

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    :bowdown:
     
  11. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    decide right now if you are going to fuck her or not

    then either fuck her or don't

    its that simple
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    OOOOO

    Another way to look at it.

    That makes a lot of sense. Reasoning behind me saying it, is cause my cousin is good friends w/ her and filled me in.

    How reliable/true it is, is another question.
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    Do I?

    Yes.

    Do I want to be 'that guy'?

    No.

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    Probably just going to leave it be.
     
  14. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    I despise it when girls use that just because they do it on an everyday basis with everyone, but you don't realize this when you meet them for the first time. /randomminirant

    back to your original question. I personally wouldn't. I've been that guy once in my life before, and after that I swore never again.
     
  15. Falconer

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    That's enough reason to not to hang out with her right there. It's "shouldn't have." :rofl:

    That sounds like something I would've said, and therefore must be correct.

    :werd: thank you.

    I always thought I was the only one who hated that/noticed that.

    It has flirtatious undertones and it makes me go :ugh: especially when girls who already have a bf say it to me. The logic there is that I wouldn't want my gf calling random people or her friends "sweetie" or "hun."

    The only time it wouldn't make me go :ugh: would be if I wanted to fuck the girl (regardless of if she has a bf or not), but even then it's already excluded her from being classified as gf material.

    People will classify me as anal, but whatever. It annoys me for the same reason it annoys me when people say "i love you" to everyone. You don't love me, you (should) love your bf you crazy attention whore :ugh:







    Then again most women are whores (or maybe I'm just super fucking alpha :mamoru: ) so it doesn't surprise me.
     
  16. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    I have the same feeling about that too !! It drives me insane because 1) wtf? 2) No, I'm not going to say "I love you, too" because that would be insincere and wrong and 3) it would suck to be in an actual relationship with this girl due to never knowing when she actually means it when she uses "i love you" and/or "pet names".
     
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    +1 to the calling other dudes hun and sweetie not cool
     
  18. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    exactly

    its not verifiable

    and we already know she has no trouble being deceptive and possibly lying as well (or at least lies of ommission towards her bf)

    so I would lean towards not believing her
     
  19. Boudreaux

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    eh

    i've been that guy, and guess what, i stole her from a 6' even 210 lbs dude

    tall and lanky :rolleyes:







    :mamoru:
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    just_another_on New Member

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  23. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    I don't think there is anything wrong to call other guys hun sometimes, as long as they know the context. I mean I say it to my girl friends all the time and sometimes to one dear guy friend that I have because he knows that it does not mean I love him "in that way" but I love him as a friend and he is very close to me.
     
  24. Abomb

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    yeah but excessive use would make me :squint:
     
  25. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    yeah saying it to every random guy you just meet or some casual friend would be odd!
     

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