I'm more into my girlfriend than she is into me

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  1. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Could this ever change?
     
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    cupnoodle New Member

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    worst position to be in ever...i can relate
     
  3. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    so what the fuck should i do
    it seems retarded to jump ship ... she does love me
     
  4. Placebo

    Placebo New Member

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    Force yourself to take a small step back and stop acting so clingy.
     
  5. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    so stop being who she likes, stop doing what you are doing, change yourself. :ugh2:

    Dont step back or change anything about how you act in the relationship. Just because she doesnt show you love or affection the same way you want it or think she should, doesnt mean you should change how YOU do things. If you take a step back, she might see that as really negative and end the relationship.

    Unless the relationship has a problem, then dont change a thing. If you dont feel like you are getting enough from her, then either talk to her, or move on to a girl you do get enough love from :dunno:
     
  6. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    yeah. i think i should resist the urge to play hard to get
     
  7. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    you know that's impossible by the nature of the problem. i don't love her for how she treats me, i love her for who she is. if i loved her for how she treated me, moving on would be easy, but then, completely unnecessary.
     
  8. awlewis

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    All scenarios can change.
     
  9. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    there needs to be a pat on the back emoticon :rofl: Maybe there is.

    I do understand though, its so easy to say to someone else to move on, but its not that easy.

    I would just have a talk, maybe you two see the relationship differently? Maybe she sees you as overbearing while you see her as undercaring :dunno: Talk it out, find the middle ground that is right for you both, and move forward in your relationship closer together than ever before :bigthumb:
     
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    Change is sometimes necessary when what you are doing isn't getting optimal results. Just because a girl is with a guy doesn't mean he is doing everything right.
     
  11. SxyLambdaLady6

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    thats how it was with me and my bf when we first dated 2 yrs ago, altho it was a diff situation cuz he still had feelings for his ex, i was in love with him and he only loved me so...now we got back together and we are both on the same page so it can happen

    me and him took a long break, we didnt speak for many months, i dated other ppl, he got over his ex

    so now that we became friends again and then got back together we are on the same page.
    if u really see that u are putting more of ur part in the relationship than she is and trying harder than i do suggest talkin to her about it.

    if u both are not on the same page, close the book
     
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    i'm in the same situation bro - it can be tough... but when she gets back from Europe, hopefully we can either talk things out, or i can get myself over her.
     
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    Don't push her into anything by saying "are you ok?" "Is everything alright?" "What's on your mind?" Personally, I get scared away by guys who are too hot and heavy into me when the feeling isn't mutual. You can be more into her than she is you, just don't go to extremes about expressing it.
     
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    let us know how it goes!
     
  15. sk0rcher

    sk0rcher The universe is watching

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    Word, I would just talk about it as well.
     
  16. skitcy

    skitcy uhm title! ok

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    haha that sucks, currently im in a relationship and it's great cuz she's just as much into me as I am into her.. I've never experienced this ( yes i AM a bit clingy and not afraid to say ).. and well it's damn right awesome.
     
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    my relationship was the same way. i was more into him then he was more into me and now it's awesome. it's better than i imagined
     

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