i'm interested in a chick that doesn't want anything right now

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  1. moses

    moses OMGWTFBBQ

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    but likes me and still hangs out with me know that I completely dig her.

    what to do?

    small background she's recently divorced @ 23.
     
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    recently divorced

    run
     
  3. moses

    moses OMGWTFBBQ

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    yeah, i wish i could. i'm completely into this chick.
     
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    well sorry to say, if she dont want anything, you are not going to get anything, keep your options open. explore and see what you can find because you are going to end up wasting your time if not
     
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    I don't think it's that she doesn't want anything right now. It's that she doesn't want you.

    When the right person comes around, you change your life to include them.

    Well, MAYBE she's a little freaked out cuz she just got divorced.
     
  6. JJM Enterprises

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    Does she just not want a relationship?

    Does she just not want anything sexual right now?

    Take as much as you can get, and just keep yourself close. As long as you keep letting her know that you want her, that's the best thing you can do.
     
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    i make no initial contact with her for the reason that I don't want to be all on her shit. She'll IM me, or call me and we've spent the last 4 fridays going out and having a good time.

    So i dont' think its me, i'm pretty sure since she's recently divorced (less than 6 months) thats it.

    we've had sex already but it was way kinda early and i think that freaked her out a little bit. we're hanging out tonight at my place and i saw her last night for a little bit, and made plans for friday already... so i'm pretty sure she likes me around :dunno:
     
  8. RedVsBlue

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    You have put yourself in a bad bad situation, that has a very high likelyhood of ending very bad for you.

    No offence but do you have self esteem problems? Other past relationship problems? I cant think of any reason a logical man would get involved with a recently divorced female under these circumstances.

    You have become her rebound, dont expect anything more.
     
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    Sounds like she likes to be with you for comfort, but that she doesn't want to actually be with her.

    In other words, you're a band-aid. You help her wounds feel better, but once she doesn't need you anymore, you're gone.
     
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    moses OMGWTFBBQ

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    so just bail out now eh? damn, she was cool too :sad2:
     
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    moses OMGWTFBBQ

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    didn't know she was divorced until we already started seeing each other.
     
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    Even more of a reason to RUN and do so quickly before your emotional attachment becomes to strong.
     
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    moses OMGWTFBBQ

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    dammit.

    you're right and I know it too.
     
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    moses OMGWTFBBQ

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    she's cool enough where she may be a good chick in the future, so maybe a few months from now we can start hanging out again. But you two are right, get the fuck out now.
     
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    I would be willing to bet that since the divorce was recent, if you two got serious, and got into a fight, the phrase "you're just like my ex-husband" would come up. I've seen divorced women pull that...they project undesirable qualities on to other men that were in their exes.

    Also, some divorced women indoctrinate their daughters that men are evil. My first gf came from a divorced family....some of the uber feminist BS she would spew, I could tell came directly from the mom resenting men.

    I'm not making these claims about all divorced women, but some of them seriously begin to really resent men.
     
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    Definitely be her friend if you can manage to do so at the point your relationship is at now, but try to date other people and show her you are dating other people.

    There is no need to cut and run from a friendship if she is a cool woman, and she may very well need a friend. Just dont be her doormat, and dont go forward HOPING for a future with her, because that will show in the way you act around her and she will pick up on that.
     
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    i dunno, she started chasing me at first, it wasn't me. she says all the time how i'm good lucking, etc... and is always laughing when she's with me. which is confusing as hell because she acts like she likes me all the time.

    i've never dated a divorced woman at all, so i didn't know what to expect
     
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    Divorced or not you can never know what to expect from a woman, and they are all confusing as hell at time :rofl: Good luck though :bigthumb:
     
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    yeah i know, i'm not that naive :big grin:

    i'm not cutting her off completely, as i said she's so much fun to be around. but now is probably a bad time to try and start anything, and i know from previous experience once you stop "seeing" a chick and really just be her friend is when they always realize how awesome you are and then come back.

    edit: rereading that last piece made no effing sense. i think i was rambling.
     
  20. MattThom01

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    Sounds pretty clear to me. You're her good looking FRIEND.
     
  21. moses

    moses OMGWTFBBQ

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    you enjoy this, don't you.
     
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    a little, but you have to be harsh sometimes. I mean, we've all been in a situation where we like someone who doesn't like us back, but we still think she does....it takes a pretty firm shake to get us to open our eyes.
     

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