I'm in a bit of a conflict with myself...to some extent.

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  1. Cheeks

    Cheeks New Member

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    Well, my wife and I have been separated for about 5 months now, and I finally told her that I had enough, and I wanted a divorce. Now, this conversation took place last week; yet, with the extent of time we've been separated, I want to move on and not let this whole situation eat me alive in the inside. Here's the interesting part - I've met this other woman who's interested in me, and I've reciprocated in kind (mainly flirtation and extended eye contact). Now, I finally got nerve to ask this person out, and she accepted. Am I wrong for doing this? I figured I’m not because my wife and I are about to get divorced, and we’ve been separated for some time now…but, until then, I guess I am still married – but separated…soon to be divorced. Should I feel like shit for doing this? Oh, and if a conversation about relationships is stricken between this new person and I, I am most definitely telling her my current situation. Not trying to lead anyone astray here.

    ...what do you think?


    Update:

    -Broke up with the gf in february
    -the ex wife is now calling me crying that she doesn't think that the divorce was the right decision :ugh:
     
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  2. 04JETTA

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    not at all
     
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    you're broken up. just because you're not legally divorced yet doesnt mean you can't date other people :hsd:
     
  5. kiri

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    no, but if it starts to get more serious with the other woman you should tell her about your situation
     
  6. antihero

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    its a matter of paperwork at this point, a formality. you are no longer physically or emotionally with your ex-wife and both of you know that.
     
  7. noodle

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    go for it. but you might want to tell her about the not yet divorced thing at some point, though.
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Just be honest to the new woman.
     
  9. JohnJohnJohnson

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  10. Cheeks

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    That's what I intend to do.
     
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    I think you have it pretty much down packed.

    And no you should not feel guilty. You're accepting what's going to happen and you are moving on; it's what you should do.

    good luck with everything :)
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    the phrase is "down pat"
     
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    :dunno: ok
     
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    i meant no sass
     
  15. Cheeks

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    why bump? You got your answer...
     
  17. Cheeks

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    So she knows...and she's cool with it.
     
  18. Cheeks

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    Well, the soon to be ex found out about my gf. She is not pleased to say the least. She asked me how I could've found someone so soon, and my explination was that I was tired of beating myself up about our situation, so I took the initiative to do something about it. She's really hurt about all of this, and is angry at me. But, I'm not understand why she even cares?! My ex is the one who has pushed me away, not without my faults I might add, but she's the one that put the last nail in the coffin; now she's upset at me because I found someone who wants me when she "didn't"? Man...what a mess.
     
  19. jonno

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    fuck her
     
  20. chlywly

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    Lol, umm you ARE divorced... What difference does it make what the PAPER says? That's a false security blanket... No you're not in the wrong, and YES you should be moving on.
     
  21. chlywly

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    What legal ramifications? lol, they are separated, besides that only further qualifies for an easier divorce.
     
  22. chlywly

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    Well I'm certainly no contractual expert, I stand corrected... In which case he should def let it be known........
     
  23. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    you better not let your wife know. she will try to fcuk you even harder in the divorce.
     
  24. Justin636

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    Not at all. You are legally seperated? (some states require you to file a court document i believe). Just be honest with the new "friend" about it.
     
  25. Justin636

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    This brings up a funny story... unfortunately.

    When my ex-wife and I were seperated, I decided to go on a date with a girl I had met. The ex was cheating on me, but had somehow figured out that I was on a date with someone else that night. She came to my apt, kicked in the door basically, and then introduced herself to my date as my wife :ugh:. Of course, at the time, it was our first date and I hadn'y yet told the new girl about my ex or my situation.

    Lesson learned though. :o
     

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