I'm having sex behind my girlfriend's back...

Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by 0zymandias, May 21, 2007.

  1. 0zymandias

    0zymandias Despair!

    Joined:
    Nov 5, 2006
    Messages:
    1,570
    Likes Received:
    0
    So I've been dating this girl for more than 2 years. She's dependable, loyal, all the "marriage material". I honestly do love her, and we're leaving in 4 weeks to live together in Boston.

    But I just met this other girl last week. As opposed to my girlfriend, she's willing to do ANYTHING in bed. She is totally down with the whole "fuck buddies" thing, but she doesn't know I have a long-term girlfriend. I feel a little guilty about this situation, but it also is kind of nice to get a little strange ass without anyone finding out.

    I guess I'm just feeling conflicted, and wanted to know if OT had any advice/ any people in a similar situation.
     
  2. NJGuy

    NJGuy "Fuckmefuckmefuckmefuckmef uckmefuckmefuckmefuckm OT Supporter

    Joined:
    May 19, 2005
    Messages:
    22,756
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    wtf, USA
    IF your current girl doesn't please you sexually she isnt marriage material.

    There in lies your fault. Your thinking is all screwed up just like most women.
    Get your own head strait and you wot have these problems.
     
  3. CPipes

    CPipes Shit definitely just got real!! OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Oct 12, 2004
    Messages:
    36,612
    Likes Received:
    1
    Yea it's nice to have a strange piece of ass on the side but that strange piece of ass is no contest to a "marragie material" girlfriend.
     
  4. Joshuaua

    Joshuaua OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Oct 28, 2003
    Messages:
    5,551
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    Wine Country
    Slowly transition your current GF to do freakier shit in bed. After 2 years, I'd assume there would be nothing to be ashamed of / hide from you in the sack.
     
  5. kackel champion

    kackel champion faces always are changing lies and disguise for th

    Joined:
    Jun 22, 2006
    Messages:
    79,467
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    home of the goon swagger
    .

    sit down with her and talk about it...especially before you move. if she's the marriage material you say she is, then she'll be willing to communicate and compromise to build your relationship with her
     
  6. FLY-FAST

    FLY-FAST OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Sep 30, 2003
    Messages:
    8,721
    Likes Received:
    3
    Location:
    boston, MA
    make sure you use lots of lube dude. giving it to your chickie from the rear= el groso
     
  7. GammaRadiation

    GammaRadiation Active Member

    Joined:
    Feb 15, 2007
    Messages:
    29,840
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Random Location.FL
    Fuck that, dont cheat on a girl if she is good to you.

    If your current girl doesnt like doing the dirtiest end of the dirty talk to her about it. My girl found she likes things she "didnt like" before. I know plenty of girls that would do fuck buddy but I dont run around on my girl.
     
  8. Mountain Dude

    Mountain Dude Here it comes, and there it goes, another day in d

    Joined:
    Aug 30, 2002
    Messages:
    20,356
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Calgary
    I hope your girlfriend cheats on you for no particular reason, because you deserve it.

    Tell your girlfriend that you've been cheating on her.
     
  9. AlextheDroog

    AlextheDroog Come and get one in the yarbles, if ya have any ya

    Joined:
    Oct 1, 2004
    Messages:
    24,689
    Likes Received:
    0
    why get married if you are prone to cheating?
     
  10. Anders 7

    Anders 7 I aim to misbehave OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Oct 14, 2003
    Messages:
    23,359
    Likes Received:
    0
    .
     
  11. MattThom01

    MattThom01 New Member

    Joined:
    Jan 2, 2006
    Messages:
    8,752
    Likes Received:
    0
    SHE may be marriage material...but you certainly aren't.
     
  12. onslaught61

    onslaught61 OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Mar 2, 2005
    Messages:
    1,226
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    socal
    wow, people's morals these days.
     
  13. Jimeigh

    Jimeigh Every rook and jay in the corvidae have been raven

    Joined:
    Nov 29, 2005
    Messages:
    20,304
    Likes Received:
    0
    if she doesnt satisfy you sexually, she isnt marriage material
     
  14. 2500

    2500 Guest

    leave your girlfriend before you move to boston. she deserves way better than you. you try to come here and say you feel a "little" guilty? your scum, and your girlfriend deserves better than you. tell her what you did, and leave her.
     
  15. solarian

    solarian ya heard

    Joined:
    Jan 12, 2006
    Messages:
    4,897
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Bay Area, CA
    i honestly dont think you do. considering you're cheating on her
     
  16. STENvoy

    STENvoy I plead the

    Joined:
    Apr 20, 2007
    Messages:
    289
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Chuck Taylor, Texas
    +1
     
  17. kiwi05

    kiwi05 New Member

    Joined:
    May 11, 2007
    Messages:
    76
    Likes Received:
    0
    Agreed. If you truly love someone the worst thing you can do to them is betray their trust and cheat on them. She deserves someone better than you.
     
  18. 0zymandias

    0zymandias Despair!

    Joined:
    Nov 5, 2006
    Messages:
    1,570
    Likes Received:
    0
    I'm pretty aware of the "OMG UR CHEATING YOU'RE SCUM" crew...

    I was kind of looking for experienced opinions on the matter. I believe that what is happening now with me isn't so much that I don't love her, but that the whole committment of moving somewhere with someone has me mindfucked.

    Anyway, thanks to everyone who at least TRIED to help. And I can always use some help from people who have been through this (or something like it) before.
     
  19. tehrealist

    tehrealist New Member

    Joined:
    May 16, 2007
    Messages:
    268
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Michigan
    no girl deserves to be cheated on. especially a girl that loyal and loving.
    that's just downright low.

    you can't keep her in the dark, so if you don't sit her down and try talking to her about your mistake, you don't deserve her and you don't trully love her.

    edit: and just because your girl doesn't satisfy you as completely as the other 'fuckbuddy' you've got, she shouldn't be cheated on, damn.
    sex shouldn't be one of the most important things in a relationship.
    you should concentrate way more on the compassion, and your willingness to sacrifice for her.
    it's called 'sacrificial love' and it's what marriage is all about.
     
  20. Guerilla Grower

    Guerilla Grower New Member

    Joined:
    Jun 17, 2006
    Messages:
    862
    Likes Received:
    0
    In reality people cheat on their significant others, it's a fact of life. Some will find out, others won't and will never realize it has happened. Just the way it is.
    I think at this point you should figure out if your girlfriend will be able to meet your sexual needs and would be willing to experiment. If not, and you can't get over that fact then move on.

    No one can tell you what to do, and chances are someone on a message board calling you an asshole isn't going to make you want to run out and tell your GF that you've been getting ass somewhere else. You have to make that call, I know a few friends that have no problem keeping such things from someone and moving on from it.
    Anyways, whatever happens just try to find someone that satisfy's you in all catagories and don't cut yourself short.
     
  21. northw3st

    northw3st New Member

    Joined:
    May 9, 2007
    Messages:
    2,144
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    KC MO
    i dont see how anyone can actually cheat on someone they love. i don't know what kind of love you're talking about, but the love I have for my girlfriend is unconditional, and it has been for years. true love is stronger than any sexual desire.

    you gotta stop. if she's marriage material, then you gotta do wahtever it takes to stay with her. don't try to keep it from her, it will eventually find it's way out.

    go watch the movie 'the last kiss', and do what he does.
     
  22. 04JETTA

    04JETTA OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Apr 18, 2007
    Messages:
    10,440
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    The Prarie State/The Hoosier State
    yea thas wat i was goin say if u really love her then talk to her about doin frekier things in the bedroom
     
  23. Supernova

    Supernova OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Dec 18, 2006
    Messages:
    17,720
    Likes Received:
    0
    Ask yourself this....
    How would I feel if my GF of more than 2 yrs. fucked another guy?

    There is your answer.

    I wish you both the best.
     
  24. infinite loop

    infinite loop Statistically speaking, the Yankees do indeed suck

    Joined:
    Feb 13, 2001
    Messages:
    25,275
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    La Crescenta, CA
    your relationship with your gf will never be the same. break it off and don't do this type of stuff in the future, it complicates things way too much.
     
  25. Zee

    Zee New Member

    Joined:
    Aug 25, 2002
    Messages:
    16,347
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Becker, MN
    Sounds like what happened to me, my ex and my current wife :dunno:

    My current wife is an Independent spirit, great in bed and is Bi-Sexual

    My ex was about as straight as a Razor, religious and horible in bed
     

Share This Page