SRS I'm having girl troubles v.notwhatyouthink

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  1. Mark

    Mark Diesel Junkie

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    I cant seem to master the art of the opposite sex. I have many close female friends, i just cant take the next step. So rather then whine to you guys about it i will ask your your recomendations on books, psycology and otherwise to improve my understanding and skillz.
     
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    I dated many different women for about 13 years and then got married. I've got 11 years in and, even after living with one for this long I still don't understand them. If you ever figure them out, PLEASE let us know.
     
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    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    IMO it's a waste of time trying to figure them out. Once you do they'll change the rules on ya.

    It's best to give up and just go with the flow. Oh and repeat after me...."Yes Dear". :)
     
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    I dont want to understand them so much as i'd like to learn how to play the mind games that the guys who get action seem to be so good at. I want to know how to entice, to spark interest.
     
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    Man there's so much i could tell you. Expand on your problems. Do you have trouble on the approach? Do you have trouble on showing intimacy and desire? I donno where your problems are.
     
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    Then the answer is "be a nice guy."

    I was a nice guy and dated a lot of women (and I mean dated...that's not a euphemism for 'had sex with'). Most of my friends were in it for the conquest but I didn't like that so I couldn't use women like that.

    Like I said, now I've been married 11 years and am happy. Most of them are still single, still using women, and have no idea why they can't find "the right girl" to marry. IMO you should be yourself and let the woman find you. Trying to be something you're not, especially if it's to "play the mind games" is only going to get you in a shitty place.
     
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    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    :werd: Mind games only attract the most worthless people available. If you want something "real," you have to BE real.
     
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    I am a 'nice guy'. I think thats why i have trouble. I am not gonna change from that, i just need to know how to entice their interest. Things like acting disinterested at strategic times, stuff like that.
     
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    I think my approach is OK. I have trouble because i end up in the friends zone with girls.
     
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    eh, mind games get you in the door i think.

    I'm not after lots of girls, or even a highly physical relationship so i dont need to be pimpin, i just need to understand how how to work it.
     
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    what is it you're looking for. someone to be in a relationship with, or someone to sleep with?
    that changes things.
     
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    Men follow what's logical and what's right.
    Women follow what feels right and what they feel is best.

    Don't look for logic or reason in them. Try to sway their feelings and understand those feelings if you're to understand them.

    AmIrite?
     
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    yeah, you are totally getting friendzoned.. that is because of the 'nice guy' thing. i have that problem too. The solution, as far as i have looked into it is not to be the nice guy when you are looking to meet girls, but take the cocky/funny approach. Google it to learn more. I know that for a nice guy, it can feel horrible to be cocky, because you think you are acting like a dick. In the few experiments i have tried, it is possible to be cocky/funny without being so cocky you are a dick.
     
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    relationship, no sex
     

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