I've been off of OT for about 6-8 months or so. I used to come here and complain all the time about my problems but for some reason I wasn't able to see any truth to the advice I was given so i would just ignore it. I think I have a clearer mind now so I figure i'll try again. I was in a 14 month long relationship with my first girlfriend that ended about 3 months ago. I was an insecure asshole to her and she finally left me. Since hindsight is 20/20, I didn't' realize just how mean I was to her until after the relationship was over. I tried getting her back for a month after she broke it off with me. I finally gave up after I realized that she is better off without me since all I was ever giving her was an unhealthy relationship (Also she said she's started dating someone new). Today, I'm still feeling the blues but I think i'm finally starting to spring forward and move on.....hopefully never repeating the same mistakes with the next girl. Problem: I'm taking an EMT course so I can become a firefighter one day. The class is going pretty good, except I met this girl in there who I'm pretty sure digs me. I got to talk to her a little and found out that she's living with her dad (I'm not sure what happened to mom), she has a boyfriend, and she is really close with that boyfriend and his family. I'm contemplating asking her out but I can't because of the following reasons: I feel like it's still too early for me, the class i'm in is kind of tough and I need to concentrate on passing, and finally i'm kind of scared of getting involved with her only to repeat the same mistakes and ruining her good relationship with her current boyfriend and his family. I'll clarify anything. Please shoot and tell me what you all think. Thanks.