SRS I'm at a loss..

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  1. Zeff

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    Backstory: My parents divorced when I was 5 years old. My mother got custody and we moved across the country. My mother remarried. Through my childhood I would spend my summers with my dad, but as I grew older and started working at 16 I couldn't visit him anymore. After that he basically cut ties with me. I invited him to my highschool graduation and my grandparents (his parents) and his sister came but he didn't.

    Flash forward. It has been about 8 years since I've spoken to him. Through out this 8 years I went to college and got my band signed to a major label, our cd is coming out in April. I visited my grandparents over xmas and left them my newest cell number. About 2 weeks later I got a call from my real dad. It was the most akward thing ever. We chatted a little bit about my band and what I was doing with my life. He told me he was sorry that he was an asshole for not talking to me for this long. After that conversation I totally lost it. It was like that gotta cry joke from Dane Cook.

    It still feels really weird talking to him. he would like it if I could go see him but right now I'm about to go on a 4 month jaunt with my band. I feel like a vegetable whenever I think about this. I just don't know what to really talk to him about or how to go about mending things.
     
  2. kingtoad

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    Zeff, buddy. If you want to see your dad, then schedule a date after the 4 month thing with your band is over. Spend a weekend over there or something. Not too long, as it is awkward then you don't have to anticipate the day you go home.

    Take it easy on yourself.
     
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    I'd like to see him, but right now I don't know what the situation will be with the band. We're going to Europe and our management is trying to plan for a shitton of stuff in the fall. I haven't mentioned anything about this to my mom. I have a feeling she will freak out. Their divorce didn't end very well and for years I felt like my dad was a deadbeat that just didn't want to deal with having a child.
     
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    You have years to look forward to, man. When your band thing winds down a bit, I'm sure if you wanted to see him, you could figure out some time to do so. Just be patient.
     

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