i dunno..it seems like this has been going on forever. I go to school overseas (med school) and i come back to the states occasionally for vacation. Whenever i come home, i always get blamed for something or other...especially by my dad, but somewhat by my mom. And when that happens, my dad goes into this wierd mode where he doesnt talk to me, or just talks to me in short sentences or words. Its really frustrating because he just shuts down..doesnt yell or anything, just shuts down, which in my view is worse. My mom tries to be on my side but eventually she has to go along with my dad because she will get yelled at by my dad. Like the latest example..i have to go back early because my 3rd year is starting next week. But my dad is upset because he thinks he's wasted his money on air fare because ive come for such a short time (12 days) and it would have been best if i had stayed back. What is the problem of me coming home? its like a crime or something...Every time i come home, something or other happens, i get shit for it..whether or not its my fault. Ok dont get me wrong i love my parents and im so gratefull for all their help and support, especially from my dad, but they just need to learn to let go! im not a baby anymore and i can handle things on my own..but they dont seem to think so . How can i make them realize this..!!!