SRS I'm addicted to pr0n methinks.

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  1. Mark

    Mark Diesel Junkie

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    And i really dont wanna be. I always feel really shallow and shit afterwards.

    What should i do?




    :sidenote: If you are just going to BS about how it is not a bad thing then i really dont wanna hear it.
     
  2. johan

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    I'm not going to make any moral judgements on this issue, you are your own judge in this matter anyways.
    What I think, what anyone else thinks is irrelevant.

    So dealing with addiction to pron is like any other psychological addiction.
    The answer: cold turkey. That's it. Slow weaning doesn't do it.

    If you have any slips or backsliding, remind yourself you're not a bad person, and just continue on with your efforts.

    Read this, it should provide you with more information on why cold turkey is necessary:

    What is an Addiction?

    What really is an addiction anyway? Surprisingly, even the experts give different definitions as to what constitutes addiction. For example, Stedman’s Medical Dictionary defines it as "habitual psychological and physiological dependence on a substance or practice that is beyond voluntary control."1 This definition is a good start.

    The most important aspect of an addiction is crystallized in Stedman’s definition where it speaks of a loss of control. This element of compulsion is the most critical aspect of addictive behaviors. For example, a person who decides to eat just one chocolate in a box but ends up eating half the box is likely demonstrating an addiction to chocolate based on this probable evidence of compulsive eating.

    True, the person may not go through a withdrawal syndrome if the use of chocolate is stopped; there may be no signs of desiring progressively larger amounts of chocolate-yet, the critical compulsive element is there. The same could be true of ice cream addicts or those who compulsively watch television. Of course, those who are addicted to nicotine, alcohol, or drugs will fit the classic addiction definitions more strictly.

    However, the truth is that any habit in your life that is not totally under your voluntary control displays an addictive element-whether or not it is called an addiction.


    The Problem with "Moderation"

    Why is a broader definition of addiction so important? It is crucial in view of the fact that many people never break free of their most ingrained habits because of the fallacy of "moderation." I find this true especially in the area of problem foods. Consider the example of the person who could not control the consumption of chocolate. Many health educators would say it is fine to use chocolate-if it is used in moderation. This advice misses an important point; that is, an individual who has a compulsive relationship to a food can no more use it moderately than an alcoholic can return to "moderate" drinking or a nicotine addict can return to "moderate" smoking. In dealing with any addictive habit, total abstinence for life is necessary.


    Need for Total Abstinence

    Some may think that this is a cruel and narrow-minded approach. In the short run, this may be a difficult concept to embrace. But if you have an addictive habit and really want success, you will need to make a clean break with it. The amazing thing is that in the long run, committing to an immediate change is actually the easiest approach. We actually have the capacity to choose what we will enjoy.

    If we habitually engage in certain behaviors, especially if they give us some reward (such as better health or increased feelings of satisfaction), we will tend to develop an enjoyment for those new habits; that is, we free ourselves to develop new enjoyments and new behaviors.

    If, however, we "reward" ourselves with the "bad habit" periodically, as some people advocate, we undermine our ability to develop enjoyment for a lifestyle that is free of that agent.
     
  3. scaryice

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    I decided to stop jacking off recently, at least for a little while, because whenever I finished it made me feel bad because I'm alone. Is what you're going through? You just need to do something with your life, so you have less time to waste with porn.
     
  4. Mark

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    it is a feeling of shallowness. not loneliness.
     
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