It seems as though whenever I post on this forum, it is to whine about some aspect of my life that is going wrong. In fact, all of my 100 something posts on this forum have been me complaining about some aspect of my life. I would like to first of all thank everyone who has answered my calls for help and say that your help really makes a difference. First of all, one of my biggest problems is my shyness towards the other sex, particularly when it comes to approaching. First of all, I'd like to point out that my progress is very gradual and I'm taking it one step at a time. Which is why I went for online dating. Met a few girls. Most were fat, unattractive or too demanding. But, it seems that living the stress of meeting someone and mostly going through a few rejections have made me stronger. Also, just yesterday, I was cyberrejected for a second date by a girl I met online. She said I'm apparently too much like her cousin... Also, I've been able to start a conversation with an attractive girl today. Ok, I've talked to attractive girls before, but this is the first time I managed to approach a total stranger of the female gender and converse. She even appeared interested. I didn't ask for her name of phone number, but this, I guess is now the next step for me. Note that, partially because of the help of this forum, I went from unable to talk to anyone, to being able to talk to people, to being a leader, to being able to start conversation with random men, to now being able to start conversations with women without being intimidated. I now see social interactions as a game full of challenges, instead of a minefield for my fragile ego. I'll probably keep coming here and complaining when I get low and hit a new problem. But, sometimes in times of need, this is the only place where I can vent my emotions. Just know that your help is appreciated and helpful. Cliff's notes: Thanks for helping me make progress. And I managed to hold a conversation with a random attractive lady today.