SRS I'm actually making some progress

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  1. Kerberos

    Kerberos New Member

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    It seems as though whenever I post on this forum, it is to whine about some aspect of my life that is going wrong. In fact, all of my 100 something posts on this forum have been me complaining about some aspect of my life. I would like to first of all thank everyone who has answered my calls for help and say that your help really makes a difference.


    First of all, one of my biggest problems is my shyness towards the other sex, particularly when it comes to approaching. First of all, I'd like to point out that my progress is very gradual and I'm taking it one step at a time. Which is why I went for online dating. Met a few girls. Most were fat, unattractive or too demanding. But, it seems that living the stress of meeting someone and mostly going through a few rejections have made me stronger. Also, just yesterday, I was cyberrejected for a second date by a girl I met online. She said I'm apparently too much like her cousin...

    Also, I've been able to start a conversation with an attractive girl today. Ok, I've talked to attractive girls before, but this is the first time I managed to approach a total stranger of the female gender and converse. She even appeared interested. I didn't ask for her name of phone number, but this, I guess is now the next step for me.

    Note that, partially because of the help of this forum, I went from unable to talk to anyone, to being able to talk to people, to being a leader, to being able to start conversation with random men, to now being able to start conversations with women without being intimidated. I now see social interactions as a game full of challenges, instead of a minefield for my fragile ego. I'll probably keep coming here and complaining when I get low and hit a new problem. But, sometimes in times of need, this is the only place where I can vent my emotions. Just know that your help is appreciated and helpful.:)


    Cliff's notes: Thanks for helping me make progress. And I managed to hold a conversation with a random attractive lady today.
     
  2. teo

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    Keep up the good work! :)
     
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    congradulations keep up the good work
     
  4. Akumasun

    Akumasun Follow the Light.

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    congrats indeed

    Keep on it and you will be so much better off
     
  5. PureEnergy

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    I wish I was like you. Some people can change and some people won't be able to change no matter what they do, so I guess I'll just make the best out of it.
     
  6. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    Woot!! Talking to a total stranger takes guts babe! That's super brave of you :bigthumb: Good for you!
     
  7. Kerberos

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    It took me like forever to get to this point: like 6 years. Probably what helped me out the most though was regular exercise. First of all, exercise makes you more attractive to everyone and second of all, you gain more energy and become less emotional because of the increase in testosterone. Also, when your working out, you're not only working on your muscles, your also working on your determination and pain tolerance. I suggest you try it out.:)

    Edit: I read your post and I have to say I'm pretty much in the same situation as you. Except that I'm 24, I've never been with an escort, way too expensive, and I've sort of had a girlfriend once for about a month, though nothing sexual.
     
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  8. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    Congrats on your success. I hope you continue to progress to whatever ends you choose.

    You know....it isn't a requirement that your posts in The Asylum must be negative or whiney, you can actually share what you've learned and reach back and try to help others. If found that after a period of growth, I usually want to help others. This is partly to help reinforce the lessons but also to clarify what I've learned.

    Nothing tests an idea quite like providing it as helpful advice to another person. It really can help to clarify the idea...particularly when they think you're full of shit....which may or may not be true.
     
  9. Kerberos

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    You're totally right. I shall try to put this in practice.


    BTW, today I went to buy condoms at a pharmacy for the first time. :) Another small thing I was scared to do. :)

    Plus I talked to 3 new people at the gym...
     
  10. PureEnergy

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    thanks for the kind words :bigthumb:
     

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