i'm a girl frustrated about not getting off

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  1. devildoll3584

    devildoll3584 New Member

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    so i've been sexually active for 4 years and i have still never been able to orgasm. i try different positions, oral, anal, masturbating, and nothing works. even though i don't get off i still love the feeling of just getting rammed rough and deep but i notice not cumming makes a difference in my relationships. currently the guy i'm with is feeling like it's his problem no matter how much i tell him it's not. any advice, tips, tricks would be much appreciated- i'm getting soooo frustrated with this
     
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    Its all about trial and error...thats half the fun. Dont neglect your clit either. Some women can only mainly cum thru clitoral stimulation, others, penetration. Ones gotta be your sweet spot. You just gotta find it. Buy some toys and play! Also, somethin that I learned helped was not lookin/waitin for the O to hit you, let it come to you, be patient. Also, try throwin on some porn....
     
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    sometimes i feel like i'm about to come, i'm not positive, but my arms and legs and hands start to tingle and thats it
     
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    when you cum, you'll know it :) when you get that feelin, CHANGE NOTHING!!!! Go with that flow, keep it constant and see what happens. Dont give up or get frustrated. You're in the verge, but somethin is holdin you back. You'll figure it out.
     
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    vibrator is a girl's best friend when the man fails in his mission ;)
     
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    Zemo n00b of the year

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    I had a girlfriend like you once.....she warned me, before we got into it, that she wouldn't come....well, the right techniques and ANYONE can come.

    I work on and off as a masseur in a local spa, so our first night together started with a 2 hour massage. The whole thing was, she wasn't focusing on the O, and neither was I....just having a good time. Well, after the massage, things progressed, and got heavier and heavier....and BAM. She went berserk. Biggest orgasm I've ever seen....she must have been writhing for well over 3 minutes.

    It took a whole lot of foreplay...a big part of it, I think, was getting her mind set for it...not thinking about anything but the feeling. After 3 or 4 hours of foreplay, without any "direct stimulation", she was getting pretty damn hot. A couple tricks I picked up along the way, and wow.

    I wouldn't worry if I were you...take it slow, enjoy the ride, and when you do release, it'll be intense.

    -Z
     
  8. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    30% of all women will never experience an orgasm in their life. Some times the right tech's don't work
     
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    you didn't need to post that :o

    some women are not capable of having an orgasm through no fault of their own or anyone elses.

    to the OP i say keep trying, but don't become obsessed with it. enjoy sex and don't think you HAVE to have an orgasm for it to be complete. there is 'lots of material online you can read for advice.

    good luck to ya. :)
     
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    whered u hear that??
     
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    like said above, trial and error.
     
  12. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    Sorry 15%!!

    http://www.unm.edu/~shc1/orgasmic.html

     
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    Ractoon Shibumi in progress...

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    It seems like the 15% who don't experience an orgasm isn't due to their inability to do so, they just haven't. Could be the guy/girl they're with, mentality toward sex, a whole slew of things but it does seem like they have the potential to orgasm.
     
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    Zemo n00b of the year

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    I'm still of the idea that any woman can have an orgasm given the right stimulation.

    -Z
     
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    I agree. Some women are just too insecure with their body and it sometimes takes the right man to make her feel comfortable and turned on enough to let herself go to the edge. And the other half of the time, the techniques being used are all wrong :o

    Many women are ignorant about whether or not they can acheive an orgasm. The 15% of women that never acheive orgasm have never had any of the right guys in their life and/or they don't own a vibrator :hsugh:
     
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    Not necessarily insecure with their bodies, but any sort of mental hangup will do it, whether its insecurity or even just plain worrying about not having an orgasm. If you spend the whole night worrying about whether or not youre going to have one, youre not going to have one.

    Just relax. let things happen. if hes doing something that feels good, make sure he keeps doing it.

    lastly, if you havent had one, how is it making a difference in your relationships? if yall are fine everywhere else, dont let something minor like this distract you from the relationship.
     
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    sexhaver420 Buying stuff I don't need, with money I don't have OT Supporter

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    mabye sex just doesnt get you off :dunno:

    its not normal, i read in a magazine somewhere that only 60% of the women can get off from just penetration.
     
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    Thanks for correcting me :hs:
     
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    can you get urself off?
     
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    nope
     
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    how old are ya? and did you already try and... ummm... if yes, what are you doing?!
     
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    i think its a question of time. It took me a good six months of orgasmless sex with my boy until one day it just happened and now i come 99% of the time.
    Good luck to you.
     

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