I fix things. I have to fix stuff. I've just recognized this. I have a job that is mostly fixing problems. I was attracted to my wife becuase her heart was broken over another guy when we met and became friends and I wanted to fix her. Our marraige seemed to be good so subconsciously I was sabataging it to the point she left and bitterly hates me. I now want to fix my marriage but now I can't fix it on my own because it takes two people that want to fix it. I've screwed myself. So is it ever possible that I could ever have a "good" relationship with a woman without subconciously turning it into something I need to fix?