SRS if youre seeing a girl for about 2months...

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  1. LS Boy

    LS Boy OT Supporter

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    .....do you let her call you all the time? or you call her first? and how often? :hs:


    ive been seeing this girl and she always calls me everyday (at least twice a day) and if she doesnt i get lil worried :o

    i see her every weekend at work....and until last week, i used to see her every other day and go out to have dinner or just chill at her apt. now i havent seen her for a week :hsugh:



    since beginninng we already let out our feelings towards each other (she was the one that mentioned it first). that she likes me alot and no one else...yet shes not ready for relationship coz she just got out of 1year4months relationship.

    we our really close to each other and she always likes holding my hands and kissing me before (but not lately)....we had our first sex 2weeks after we were seeing each other.....but that was it- so yea, ive been in dry spot with her since then.
    i brought it up last night and she said coz she has alot of things in her mind and sex is the last thing. which is true coz shes going through alot with work and family stuff.

    also she always talks to her mom about me and tells me how much her mom loves me and wants to meet me.

    but yet her exbf still calls her and she cant cut him loose coz he is suicidal. and she doesnt wanna be responsible if something happens to him.
    yet, she gets jealous when other bartenders are hitting on me.
    i think im thinking too much into it.
    i really like this girl alot..and hell, even our co-workers noticed it.



    the only time i fucked up with her was when i flipped out on her two weeks ago for no reason....then did it again couple days later. which i apologized. i pretty looked into things too much and accused her of something (i have a hard time trusting girls ever since my exgf)




    im just wondering how long should i stick up with this.
     
  2. kingtoad

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    obligatory black guy comment here.
     
  3. LS Boy

    LS Boy OT Supporter

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    i hope you get banned.


    i posted this in assylum for a reason, you idiot
     
  4. Lateralus

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    It sounds like she has a lot going on in her life right now, but she may have also lost some interest. I can't say I would look into her not calling you more than two times a day, consider yourself lucky I'd love to have a girlfriend that didn't want to be up my ass all day.
     
  5. LS Boy

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    i love hanging out and talking to her thats why i dont mind it at all.

    shes a great girl, but i think shes got not so perfect past like a typical girl.



    thats why im asking if i should just end it now.




    her bday is coming up and im actually picking up a ticket to take her out for her bday.... now, im contemplating if i should do it.
     
  6. Redneck Shinobi

    Redneck Shinobi Well Jules, the funny thing about my back is that

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    Funny your relationship sounds like mine lol. Well although we did have sex up till about a week and a bit ago after I fucked up but LOL (won't be getting any in the near foreseeable future.. infact today she wouldn't even give me a hug.. wtf)

    My girlfriend out of the blue said she wanted her space. I guess it wasn't so out of the blue, but she kinda flipped out and asked that we spend less time together. We used to talk for like 5+ hours on the phone or spend days together, so I understand why she got annoyed with me. It sucks when you want the contact with someone and they draw away. Just bring it up with her and let her know that you are not comfertable with her drawing away and would like to know why. Maybe you have, but just watch out LOL.
     
  7. LS Boy

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    yea i brought it all up already.

    she mentioned that she still likes me.....thing is, two weeks ago, she told me she loved me which was OUT OF THE FUCKING BLUE!!!

    and what really got me was, she broke up with her exbf--coz she couldnt say i love you to him and he never said i love you to her for the 1yr4mths they were together!!!! but she was somewhat intoxicated when she said it---but i brought it up the next day and she was quiet about it.


    i told her that we prolly just need space from each other for now and she respect it.

    but how long should i do it?

    i miss hanging out with her... and i told her im taking her somewhere where she always wants to go for her bday (next weekend)



    am i doing too much here?
     
  8. beanolo

    beanolo It does a body good!!!1

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    I think you might be overanalyzing the situation a bit much, just enjoy yourself. Do what makes you happy.
     
  9. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    ^ I agree
     
  10. LS Boy

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    i finally cut her off after saturday.

    i dont need this shit. things happen for a reason and shes being a fucking whore
     
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    Details?
     
  12. LS Boy

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    well, everything was fine.. i was happy and tired that day coz i bought a new car......but i was working at the door checking IDs that night...she wasnt bartending so she was there drinking.

    BUT......until i saw her rushing to the door trying to talk to someone on the phone....and i was like :ugh:

    then gave me a hug when she walked back in. but nothing else.....shes usually all clingy to me.

    she told me that people at the OTHER bar wanted her to go there (i know its the guy that she been talking to). hes a bouncer too.....(so yea, she loves fucking bouncers i guess:hs: )

    so she left 30min later...gave me a kiss in the lips and i thought everything was cool.



    not til i saw her walked back in to my bar WHEN WE WERE CLOSING and brought the guy with her :ugh:

    i didnt really care at first....til i saw the guy all over her!!!!
    and my co-security ask me wtf is this shit...


    so i confronted her and she told me "i dont wanna talk about this" and trying to avoid me...so i called her again and asked "wtf is going on..are you seeing this dude?"

    and she told me "im not seeing NOBODY"


    i was salty and just left the bar......


    havent talked to her since...
    she called me twice last night, i didnt bother picking up.


    im suppose to take her out for her bday tomorrow but im not wasting my time and money on her anymore.

    i deserve better after all this shit i did for her.
     
  13. Falconer

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    Aside from her being a whore, dump her for having bad grammar.

    Seriously dude, you made the right decision. You can find better.
     
  14. LS Boy

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    what sucks is that, we work together (but i know shes gonna be quitting soon) and its kinda uncomfortable for me to see her around :sad2:

    and also, my friend (other bartender) lives with her.... and its both of their bday this coming weekend.... i hate to diss the bday coz of her though.

    i dont know
     
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    I like how she called you twice. The more you ignore some women the more they want to be w/ you. Sounds to me like she likes to play games and likes attention (negative or positive).

    i see no reason why you should give her the time of day. you already slept w/ her and she is not giving it up now. so what's in it for you other then getting pissed off over her behavior?

    move on and good luck bro!
     
  16. LS Boy

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    thats exactly how ive been looking at it for the past 3 weeks!!!!!

    thats why i just pulled the plug.... it hurts now, but in the long run im better off without her :hs:
     
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    good move my man... you seem like a cool guy, im sure you'll have no issues getting someone else soon.
     
  18. LS Boy

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    aight.... since i havent been picking up her calls..

    i just got a myspace mssg from her:

    "did u stop talking to me?? or??? whats going on with u?"





    should i even bother replying or saying anything?
     
  19. LS Boy

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    thanks for the good words bro. i appreciate it. :bigthumb:
     
  20. THoC

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    the right answer is no. however, its tough to do. i would just be straight up w/ her and tell her that you are tired of the games. see how she reacts to that.
     
  21. LS Boy

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    as much as i didnt wanna reply to her mssg.

    i took your advice coz ive always wanted to say that to her and i think time is now.


    so yea, i replied with "im just tired of your games."
     
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    :bigthumb: Now go grab a beer and move on.
     
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    listen to this guy! he knows whats up! :cool:

    let us know how she replies if you feel like sharing.
     
  24. maskednegator

    maskednegator Kosmonaut, best we've got...

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    balls the size of texas, dude. if she didn't want you before, she definitely does now. sucks to be her!
     
  25. LS Boy

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    i dont mind sharing... i could careless.


    heres the mssg: (read from bottom to up)


    ME:
    i wasnt mad coz of that..... im the last person to be jealous. you know that! and you and i discussed this early on.......



    ----------------- Original Message -----------------
    From: HER
    Date: Feb 28, 2007 1:56 PM


    called twice monday actually. once u picked up & then hung up right away..second time u didnt even answer. as far as what I did on saturday....what is your problem with me? Youre mad at me because I've been hanging out with Nick. He's leaving in a month. Him & I click as friends but thats it. We wont be dating anytime soon.

    ----------------- Original Message -----------------
    From: ME
    Date: Feb 28, 2007 11:43 AM

    (she did call me twice but i ignored it....her fault for not leaving vm :o )
    never got a call from you.
    never got a voicemail either.

    what you did saturday was some shady moves....

    ----------------- Original Message -----------------
    From: HER
    Date: Feb 28, 2007 1:04 PM


    because u wont answer your phone...ive tried that.

    ----------------- Original Message -----------------
    From: ME
    Date: Feb 28, 2007 11:03 AM


    are you serious?
    if you wanted to talk about this......why did you do it thru myspace?
    ----------------- Original Message -----------------
    From: HER
    Date: Feb 28, 2007 12:56 PM


    thats crazy. ive been more than upfront with you.

    ----------------- Original Message -----------------
    From: ME
    Date: Feb 28, 2007 5:15 AM


    im just tired of your games.
     
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