I read the stuff in FS and find myself longing for a chick that is as into sex as I am. My wife and I love each other, we're best friends, we'll be celebrating our 9th wedding anniversary in March, but she is nowhere near freaky enough for me. I wasn't always this way, of course, and I would never have considered even thinking about doing some of the things I do/want to do today when we first met. It's like she doesn't want sex, and when we do, she always wants this slow, tender love. That's fine too, dont get me wrong, but she's never in the mood to just fuck like animals. I figured out what I'm missing. You know when you first meet someone and you fuck the first time? You can't stand it, you rip each others clothes off and fuck and kiss each other's body all over and it's very intense. That's the kind of sex I want to have with her, but how do we get there after 9 years of marriage? Am I being unrealistic thinking that she's in the minority when it comes to not being interested in sex? I think maybe I read OT too much and think that a lot of chicks want to get fucked. But then when I talk to female friends, they tell me that they love sex just as much as a guy and want it every day too, or at least 4-5 times a week. At this point I'd settle for some good fucking once a week even. Granted we're both very busy, she's starting a new job next week, she's a social worker, so the job isn't exactly stress free, I work in a foster home, we both bring home a lot of mental baggage every day. Most importantly, we're expecting our first baby in June and I'm so so very happy about that, I love to rub her belly as it's just now starting to really show, it feels hard, it's so incredible, I love when she gets sonograms, it's the most amazing thing to see the baby moving around inside her like that, it blows my mind. OK long post, but I guess what I'm asking is 1) Do the majority of women want sex as much as men do? 2)Are the women of FS really that rare? I'm not even talking about doing the things FS women do, but just as horny as FS women, 3) Is there a way to ever get that feeling of lust that you have when you first meet someone? Thanks for your thoughts guys. I've thought about talking to my wife to see how she'd feel if I had a FWB, but I think she's never trust me again, I know you're going to say "just ask her," but you don't know her like I do, she'd say no way, and then I know that she'd think that I'm already doing it, and it would turn into this huge fight with her possibly leaving me. Even if I did say something to her, it won't be while she's pregnant, I don't want to cause her or the baby any stresss.