If your gf wanted major plastic surgery...

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  1. ethyl

    ethyl R-CH2-CH3

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    ... and she desperately wanted your opinion on if she should do it, would you tell her anything? I figured such decisions should be left solely up to the individual and not decided by others, especially not the significant other (me).

    For example, my girl wants an abdominoplasty to correct for all her weight loss back in the day, but her family is against it because she hasn't had kids yet. Of course I want her to have the surgery.. so she can look good, up her self esteem and be happy, but if I finally gave in and gave my opinion would it seem like I'm contradicting the family's wishes and fawking myself over for the future?
     
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    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    she want's your honest opinion and you think she can handle it, then give it.

    She will decide on her own either way.
     
  3. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Who cares if you contradict the family's wishes? They gave their opinion and you have the right to give yours too if you want to.
     
  4. antihero

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    same boat. only worse.. my GF talks about breast implants from time to time and while i salivate at the thought of great big hooters, it just doesnt seem right.. So i just tell her I think shes beautiful the way she is and doesnt need to change a thing, but that ill support whatever decision she makes. :dunno:
     
  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Honestly? I think it depends on the situation. In your girlfriends situation I can understand completely how that surgery would change her life and forever hopefully make her feel infinitely better about herself. I'm sure with or without your opinions she'll still want to get it as well. The best thing you can say is tell her you'll love her either way (which hopefully you do feel that way).

    The situations where I would applaud you for not giving your opinion are those women who are obsessed with getting breaset enlagements. But not just a comfortable size for their body, no, I mean the girls who want that pornstar rack and care about them because they think that's what every guy wants.
     
  6. sportsjunkie

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    she asked for your opinion, you gave it, that's that.

    she will ultimately make up her mind and decide what she wants.

    now, if she makes the decision based on what everyone else/you thinks, then she's obviously shouldn't have the surgery.
     
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    id tell her to shut the fuck up with the plastic surgery nonsense
     
  8. Leah

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    She's a grown woman and she asked for your opinion. I don't see a problem with you supporting something she really wants for herself.

    Her parents might be a little miffed about it, especially if she goes ahead with the operation and they still disapprove...and they're only concerned for her, they wouldn't go against something that they knew was in her best interest.

    If she wants to be 100% happy with her decision, she'll make it on her own.
     
  9. Falconer

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    My ex used to talk about getting implants. She was dumb, tho :rofl: Her boobs were perfect.

    In all honesty I'd probably break up with a chick if she got breast implants. I hear that precedes cheating in 100% of cases, anyway.

    As for an abdominoplasty... I'm not sure exactly what that entails, altho I have a guess based on the name. I'd say sure dude, if it's something she's self-conscious about, why not support her. But you mentioned she hasn't had kids yet. What are the pros and cons of a chick getting an abdominoplasty before vs. after having kids?
     
  10. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    just make sure she knows the risks....and make 100% sure the doctor is board certified. By being BC you ensure that they know what they are doing, yes doctors sometimes dont know what they are doing.

    Advice comes from my dad, who is a now retired doc
     
  11. ethyl

    ethyl R-CH2-CH3

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    Thanks for the replies, I'll probably give her my opinion... she seemed pretty frustrated I wouldn't tell her anything. Another concern is she wants to go to Colombia for the surgery too. Yeah, Bogata is becoming a capital for plastic surgery at less than half the cost and they have certifications and organizations that supposedly ensure experience... but I'd be worried to death about her being so far from home doing that kind of surgery.

    From what I've read, post-abdominoplasty pregnancies don't endanger the baby. It would be probably another 5 years till she plans on having a baby. The big downside is she may need another abdominoplasty due to the newly stretched skin from pregnancy. What I'm not sure about is how successful a second abdominoplasty can be... eg. did the first procedure and the pregnancy thin out the skin, resulting in a second procedure to be difficult due to less skin to work with?
     
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    Umm she wants plastic surgery in a country known for cocaine, kidnappings, and having one of the highest murder rates in the world. Sounds like a fantastic plan :ugh2:
     
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    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    wow, have fun w/ her not having all her kidneys. what a horrible plan. Watch that episode of Friday night lights (in the 2nd season) with her on NBC.com.

    its about going to mexico for surgery.

    USA> any other medical services in the world. thanks to us NOT having nationalized healthcare (from the son of a doctor, i believe a doctor would know) Id go into the reasons but this is the wrong forum.

    But yea hospitals outside U.S. are FTL.
     
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    ethyl R-CH2-CH3

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    Hopefully my opinion will convince her the ease of mind from having it done in the states is worth the extra cost.
     
  15. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    BTW, going to Columbia for the surgery because it is cheaper? No...horrible idea. If she doesn't have the sense to get the surgery from a place just as qualified and in the states then she needs to save up and work towards getting a surgery from a doctor that she can actually meet prior.
     
  16. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    its not going to be that much cheaper anyway. Plane ticket for both of you to columbia adds costs, hotels add costs. longer recovery adds costs too. you cant travel when recovering from surgery either, not to mention lowered immune defenses after surgery. Imagine getting a weird disease down there! can you say death sentence.
     
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    I am kind of in the same situation only reversed. I need to get a nose job (you can see from my pics why) I have a condition that actualy affects my breathing and was told when i was 13 that i will need a surgery to get that fixed. They didn't want to do the surgery before my face stoped developing so they said anytime after 18 will be good. That surgery is going to increase the notrils cavities which will allow for me to breath in/out more air and let my lungs capacity increase. However during the procedure i can get my nose shape fixed to something more normal and i really want to get it straighten. The shape of my nose has always been a huge issue for me and if i am going to go through a corective rhinoplasty I think i can at least get this taken care of.

    However my bf says that if i even touch my nose he would be very upset, my mom claims that nose makes me prettier and more nique ( yuck i know ugly duckling talk) and every one i know says i shouldn't do it.

    I am kind of mad because i know they are all just saying that to make me feel better.

    To answer your question don't think she is stupid and she doesn't know that you really want her to et the surgery and look better for you. She wants to know that you approve and you support her descsion.
    Her parents are right though. Unlike fascial plastic surgery the type of procedure she is doing is worthless if she is planning to have kids because after a pregnancy she will have to do it again mostlikely. Ifshe doesn't plan to have a baby in the next 5+ years then by all means go and do it but otherwise it will be just throwing money away.


    Edit: DO NOT GO out of USA to do that kind of procedure. Esp. in 3rd word country where the hygene and credebility of the medical staff are questionable. Look up ho many people have contracted HIV from hospitals in cuntries like columbia, libia, south affrica and etc. Its dangerous irresponsible and not to even mantion how traumatizing that whole travel will be.
     
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    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    I have also had my deviated septum repaired. Its not too bad. I head butted some asshole at a bar with my nose, instead of my forehead. I was bleeding so bad and i never even got punched! I never got the shape repaired but I do have the septum repaired (im a guy, and plastic surgery to fix a nose is, well :gay:)

    Has your girl considered trying to add some muscle?
     
  19. ethyl

    ethyl R-CH2-CH3

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    Doesn't matter how much she works out, she can't see any rewarding results without an abdominoplasty (or "belt tuck").

    Turns out her family is strongly opposed to her getting the surgery. I think she's basing her decision greatly on what I prefer... and of course I'm going to prefer that she get it done.
     
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    Its your nose, they will get over it.
    Would it be incredibly rude of me to ask for a pic? I was really fucking self conscious about my nose until I was an adult too.
     
  21. Barbie™

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    You know, i'm facing this same dilemma, at least the plastic surgery part.

    I want to get the same thing done as your girlfriend, but I actually don't want it done until after I have kids.

    My boyfriend fully supports me either way, and I love that.

    You should tell her your opinion. Regardless of what it is, in the end it's still her decision, not her family.


    I'm not sure what else to say, but PM me if you want to discuss it further.
     
  22. HuskiRuski

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    as a side note, whoever said that getting breast implants while already in a stable monogamous relation leads to a breakup was dead on.

    i read a study where that was actually THE best predictor of whether a girl will cheat.
     
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    So a girl will cheat if she gets breast implants?
     
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    Thats what I got out of that too, and I was almost offended for those women with implants...buuuuuuuuut...

    take a step back and think about it...not that all women who have/get implants are cheating whores, but I would put money on it that a larger portion of them DO cheat. If for nothing more you have to factor in the fat chicks that will never get implants and at the same time never get laid in the first place...theres hundreds of millions of those. then factor in strippers, hookers and your general hoes, i'd have to favor with the findings of said (not linked as a source, tisk tisk) study as well.

    On that note...my girlfriend has seriously PERFECT boobs, 34b, she is like 5'6" 125 lbs...perfect body, complete gym rat...for some reason she wants implants and has asked me multiple times about it, every time I've begged her not to do it. I felt like I shouldn't get involved and let her make the decision but my selfishness got in the way. My opinion, give yours and let them take it how they will.
     
  25. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    They say that the largest percent of women who get breast implants do it to "boost their confidence." They get the implants and it does boost their confidence. Even if they have an SO they think the excitement of their new breasts makes gives them the confidence to be more outgoing, flirty, and sometimes where more provocative clothing.

    It pretty much sounds like every chick I've ever met that got a boobjob.
     

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