If you consistently fail to attract quality partners, the problem lies with you

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  1. demosnat

    demosnat New Member

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    Not 50% of the worlds population.

    We all see threads, and hear friends complain about how all women suck, or all men suck depending on gender preference.

    There are quality members of both sexes, and both sexes exhibit (largely similar) negative traits in certain individuals.

    If you are unable to attract a quality partner, it is either you, or the way you are going about meeting/picking up potential partners.
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I will just say


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    Unfortunately no one wants to accept that. Everyone wants someone or something to blame.
     
  3. Yail Bloor

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    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    thats our society

    we are all rockstars, and nothing is our fault

    in truth, we are all 100% responsible for where we are. our situation is a direct result of our choices
     
  5. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    the way you've phrased this post, i don't think anyone is going to disagree with you.
     
  6. demosnat

    demosnat New Member

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    In word no, in deed yes. I just want us all to agree superficially so we can agree meaningfully next time it come up.
     
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    ledzep73 New Member

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    So what prompted you to make this thread.
     
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    I want to meet a hot, funny, smart, wonderful, giving, stable, fabulous woman and make eleven or two babies with her.
     
  9. Viper

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    I agree with everything you said here.

    The trouble *I* am finding in my own experience, however, is that the women I am meeting are not wanting "quality" men. It's almost like I'm going to have to come DOWN and be LESS than what I am now to catch an attractive woman's eye.

    I realize that i still have a long way to go, and all that, but it's still sort of disgusting to watch women go back to the same shit day in and day out. I can think of four different, attractive girls I know right now who have boyfriends who are either complete wastes of life or who treat them like shit. Two of those girls are fairly "quality" girls. I dated one of them. And yet, they just can't seem to leave these loser guys.

    I realize that that is probably a sign that I am not doing SOMETHING right, but I still refuse to blame myself entirely for their idiotic decisions. I think it's slightly ridiculous to blame myself entirely because someone wants to return to the same piece of shit relationship they just left. If it WERE my fault, they would just reject ME...but they don't. They get sucked back into their old relationships instead of moving on with another guy.
     
  10. focalBlur

    focalBlur your does not equal you're

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    Add to that where you are going to meet said people

    I have found the where plays a HUGE role
     
  11. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    I agree...isn't this obvious? :dunno:
     
  12. demosnat

    demosnat New Member

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    I've been thinking about it for awhile. Every day or so I see a new thread in here or the asylum saying somethign to the extent of "zomg all men/women suck I'm awesome and yet can't meet anyone who isn't a lowlife"
     
  13. ChaCha

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    less threads

    more meat
     
  14. Boudreaux

    Boudreaux Active Member

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    i disagree with this, not 100% disagree, but i think it can be a blanket statement
     
  15. Boudreaux

    Boudreaux Active Member

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    impart your knowledge...
     
  16. Maffy29

    Maffy29 Active Member

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    I say this all the time to women who say they only have guy friends "because all women are bitches and catty" or whatever. No they aren't.
     
  17. uwofrost

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    the statment is not based on a case by case basis. if you consistantly fail to find a quality partner then you are the problem. there is no other way to look at it. if every girl i fuck is bad in bed its probably not them then is it. when what you find is always bad you need to look in the mirror to find the problem
     
  18. Elphaba

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    The bolded statement is false. If they were really "quality" girls they would be self-aware enough to not go back to these douchebags.
     
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    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    This is sofa king true!


    They seem quality cause what you know of them is attractive and yet we are blind to the obvious that was stated by Elphaba
     
  20. Viper

    Viper OT Supporter

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    I'm talking "quality" in the sense that:

    1. They don't have a lot of baggage
    2. They aren't drama whores in any other area of their life
    3. They are well read, intelligent, and can hold a decent conversation
    4. They are attractive

    Aside from the others, who are attractive, but trashy.
     
  21. Elphaba

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    I just think you might want to rethink you're definitions of "quality". Yes, its a personal preference, but you seem to be making a lot of excuses or exceptions your definitions...
     
  22. Viper

    Viper OT Supporter

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    Nah, I just realize that perfection is not a pre-requisite to quality. :rofl: :hsugh:
     
  23. Alaya

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    I completely agree, and think this every time one of those threads come up.

    It also applies to people that aren't attracting low-quality people per se, but they same kind of people. The types of people that never work out for them. That reflects something that they are like/doing/etc. that they should work on if it's not the type of people they want to be dating.
     
  24. Boudreaux

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    we're misscommunicating

    i was commenting only on the part i quoted
     
  25. uwofrost

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    My bad
     

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