If the SO passes out would you take matters into your own hands in the same room?

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  1. antihero

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    So my girl has this bad habit of just passing out come "bed time". Im, of course, a lot more interested in sex then sleep at that point and then spend an hour or two rolling around with an uncomfortable errection being irritated with her all night and sleep deprived in the morning.

    how far out there would it be to fire up some internet porno and take care of the erection issue with her sleeping accross the room? Im assuming it would be a good idea to talk this over prior rather then just have her be surprised.

    I must confess that on some level the idea of her finding internet porn threatening as sort of a punishment for her laziness is somewhat appealing, which makes me think that right there this is a terrible idea, but on the other hand this is a practical concern.

    You can go ahead and say that its not practical to expect sex every single night, but I want what I want and thats just how it is.
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I feel your pain, lol, except for me it's the other way around. My bf is always exhausted at night and passes out while I stay up bored, alone, and a lot of time horny. I've never felt the need to relieve the pressure...but I'm willing to bet you are even hornier than I :mamoru: However, if the tables were turned and I accidentally woke up to my SO watching porn I would be a little weirded out. Mostly because he probably didn't even try to wake me up.

    Have you tried waking her up or at least telling her that you want some?
     
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    Sometimes when my wife doesn't feel like fucking and I'm horny, I'll watch some porn in our bedroom while she sleeps. She's also given me the ok to fuck her while she's sleeping, too. :dunno:
     
  4. antihero

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    lol.. she always wants to cuddle, which just makes the problem worse and very very obvious, so im damn sure shes aware that I have other things then sleep on my mind.

    already sometimes I will just get up and play video games to chill out. Once I was so pissed i just left and slept on the couch and honestly at that point I was happy to just be able to get some sleep.

    edit: last night she even woke up around 5am and wanted to talk about this and that, but suddenly became very sleepy again when i started getting a bit grabby :squint:
     
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  5. antihero

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    ive heard of this many times and i still dont quite get it.

    Is she that heavy a sleeper that you can really just throw some lube on, go to town and not wake her?

    that just seems kinda odd to me, but props to your wife for being a good sport.
     
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    We have the same rules pretty much. I can do what I want, but most of the time she would rather wake up with me pulling off wahtever clothes she is wearing to bed. Its funny, it will take her and hour to get out of bed in the morning, but at 4am, I can wisper "lets fuck" in her ear and her eyes are wide open and ready to go :rofl:
     
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    see, thats me. Once i finally drift off to pissed off sleep, all she has to do is wiggle her ass just wrong and im all fired up, eyes wide open, heart rate up, and at least 30 minutes away from thinking about getting back to sleep. :wtc:

    this sucks, and it really wears me down spending a lot of energy trying not to to be angry with her.
     
  8. Marmot

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    Just jerk it while sleeping next to her. That takes the porn out of the equation.
     
  9. RedVsBlue

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    Done that too when im too tired to wake her up for sex, but at the same time she is laying there looking all sexy while she sleeps. Takes about 5 seconds for me to get myself off and get back to sleep :)
     
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    I do that all the damn time!
     
  11. iwishyouwerebeer

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    Hmm, have you talked to her about this? I mean while it's a simple question of everything it's really your best option. The other night I got super grumpy when I was all horny and my bf was spooning me and just as I was thinking "yes, let do it" he starts snoring :rofl: But when I bring it up he immediately feels kind of guilty and makes it up to me.
     
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    how often do you guys have sex? something seems weird if she is awake but then suddenly tired as soon as things start getting more interesting :naughty:

    i think that jerking off yourself to fall asleep would just be a bandaid on the problem... talk to her and let her know you're unsatisfied. if she's not willing to change then get the hell out lol
     
  13. antihero

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    right now we are at like 1 time every other day, which for me is like living on bread crust and water. Im definitely more of a 2 times a day kinda guy, maybe 3+ on weekends. I know thats on the high side, so i try to be accomodating.

    We are 1 month in and got kind of a rocky start sexually so im going to see if i cant steer things quietly more in the direction i want them more then having an "im not satisfied" talk.

    Some of it is my fault. like I know if we have been drinking shes going to pass out, and i know if I feed her late at night shes definitely going to pass out... but I love drunk sex and i eat 6 meals a day so of course im eating right before bed. She even told me its fine if i tell her she cant have any :rofl:
     
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    I crank one if my girlfriend falls asleep, no problem. If it really bugs her, maybe she's the wrong girl.
     
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    damn brotater,

    I know exactly how you feel. 2 hour erection with the wife asleep ftl


    I usually just chill till I can get it to go away and hope I can get some loving the next day
     
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    Can't you go into the bathroom?
     
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    Not in the same room, no. :o
     
  18. antihero

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    thats pathetic. This is my home. what am i going to do, bring my laptop and set it on the toilet tank? :rofl:
     
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    one month in and you're only having it every other day?? :eek4: you guys shouldn't be able to keep your hands off each other at this point.

    and it's not your fault... it should be a compromise, not you being accomodating and her passing out every night. have you tried getting busy in other parts of the house besides bed? maybe if you sat on the couch to talk/watch TV and then started getting busy she wouldn't be able to use falling asleep as an excuse :mamoru:
     
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    sounds like your talking about a caged animal :rofl:
     
  21. antihero

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    so glad to hear you say that. Shes already layed the whole "you make such a big deal about sex" and "do you expect sex every time we see each other?" guilt trips on me.

    nope, she falls asleep just fine on the couch too.
     
  22. kiri

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    :ugh: i understand not wanting to have a "talk" about it this early on in the relationship... but i mean it's better to get something this important out of the way. you obviously aren't making a big deal about sex, you just have a healthy sexual appetite and she doesn't. are you good in bed? :mamoru:

    maybe you could just tell her that you can't be with someone who doesn't enjoy sex as much as you do :dunno:
     
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    basically Im going to put off the talk as long as possible. we have only been having sex for three weeks so patterns and habits really arnt that set in stone. I would much rather try to mold things for the better, because there are just some things you cant unsay.

    You really think i could be happy knowing that the reason i get a satisfactory ammount of sex is because i threatened to leave her if i don't? Thats not an outcome I consider acceptable.

    I'd say most other girls ive ever been with have considered me somewhere between really good and the best they have ever had...
    definitely not the case here... :hs: but thats really a whole nother thread in itself. Its not horrible and its steadily improving. Which to me is more motivation to do it till I get it right.
     
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    that would be fucking hot :o


    why not do it during the day when she's not sleepy?
     
  25. kiri

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    i don't think you should threaten her with anything... i'm just saying that sexual incompatibility is a significant issue in relationships. if it's improving i guess just wait and see :dunno:
     

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