If I'm making a lunch for work, do I make it for her too?

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  1. multiplexor

    multiplexor Intellectual

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    curious...

    if i know i need a lunch for tomorrow... should i also make it for her too or make another for her???

    her: being my gf...
     
  2. braaap

    braaap listen here, twinkletoes...

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    Make one for her, just in case :dunno:
     
  3. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    no, but you could.
     
  4. MattThom01

    MattThom01 New Member

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    no, why would you?

    She can take care of her own lunch accommodations, can she not?
     
  5. KindlyCuddly

    KindlyCuddly Irina Lazareanu

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    it'd be a pleasent little token :dunno:
     
  6. Elphaba

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    Of course you dont HAVE to, but yes, it'd be nice..especially if you know that she's going to need a lunch for the next day too...

    Is this something you're actually considering/wondering about out of the blue, or did this arise from a particular situation or conversation?
     
  7. Aronomy

    Aronomy Get your COME ON!

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    You could say something like, "Hey, I'm making lunch for work tomorrow, would you like me to make you one while I'm at it?"
     
  8. 2angelmd

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    Do not set that standard. Just don't go there.
     
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    rogueslg71 New Member

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    make sure shes not already planning a lunch with someone at work or something then do it =)
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Question, does this girlfriend of yours do anything for herself?
     
  11. JordanClarkson

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    if you want to always be expected to make her lunch from then on, by all means do it :)
     
  12. 2angelmd

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    Most women are sensible and would appreciate the gesture. She's not a nut job is she?

    A lot of these threads slowly reveal a nut job SO.

    If she's not a nut job or ruining your credit I'd actually say do it. I would.
     
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    She gets him into CC Debt.
     
  14. Elphaba

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    Spend his money?
     
  15. Viper

    Viper OT Supporter

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    She should be making YOUR lunch.
     
  16. multiplexor

    multiplexor Intellectual

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    hahaha i know ;-)

    reason is... because of this debt... this morning, for example, she didn't bother preparing anything to bring in...

    I... decided to make some pasta so i wouldn't have to buy a lunch...

    she's complaining that i'm not motivated in the relationship, that she's stuck cleaning up all the time.... and that i never have much to say....

    However, i feel that if i make my lunch for the next day, she'll get upset because she doesn't have a lunch, however, it's not my duty to make it, however, if i don't, i'll look bad because i should be considerate and make one...


    Basically she's saying that she feels alone in the relationship, in regards to affection and what we want...

    I... am working on projects the minute i get home, so that something can be done to get out of debt... She won't do that...

    On the bus today, she said, "do you want me to be super motivated and just do things" I'm thinking jesus christ, YES...

    however, there's 2 parts to that... there's being bitchy and for example, going to the gym without saying anything, or saying "i'm going to the gym, wanna come" instead of saying "I wish you were more motivated to do things..."... I say screw that, SHE should be motivated, without my help! Though if i said that, she'd again think i was selfish and that it wasn't a relationship at that point...

    yeah... issues... i know ;-) hehe
     
  17. Viper

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    Do you believe that you need to break up with this girl?
     
  18. multiplexor

    multiplexor Intellectual

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    well... i'm 50/50 on that... one part of me believes she can be more responsible...

    The other part of me is starting to get much more afraid....
     
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    Well, I see no problem with you TRYING to get her to be more responsibile.

    I think it's pointless but if you have to TRY then you have to try. Ideally, you probably should just end things with her because you are going to discover that people don't change major flaws like this usually without some sort of major catalyst.

    My main advice to you is that you DON'T move in with this girl (nor marry her if that's ever crossed your mind) until she's shown long term improvement or change (like a year or more).
     
  20. multiplexor

    multiplexor Intellectual

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    Unfortunatly because of my previous breakup, finding a place to live was rough and i never had any place concrete... I moved in with this girl last september. :-/

    she mentionned this morning about moving back home so she can cut out the rent to pay... and be able to go back to school full time to focus on a psychology degree... Surprisingly, she's fucking good at getting everyone else out of debt, except her and I... she's also fucking good at reading people... she'd be a great psychologist, however, it'll cost her some cash to get there...
     
  21. Viper

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    Honestly, it sounds like she is using you. :dunno:
     
  22. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Oh thank god, push her to do that and get out. Then you can break up with her. And no, don't give her any money obviously to get out of your place or for school. If her big Greek family won't help her out when they said they will then she can take care of it herself. I wish I would've known she was Greek in the beginning, would've made a lot of sense.

    BTW, glad you are waking up to the big issue :bigthumb:
     
  23. multiplexor

    multiplexor Intellectual

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    so in the end... should i make her lunch?

    j/k j/k j/k ;-)
     
  24. Viper

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    I know you are joking, but I can't reiterate this enough:

    NO, FUCK NO.
     
  25. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Why don't you say to her "hey, come make a lunch with me." This makes it an activity for the both of you and then she has a lunch so she won't go spend YOUR money on one AGAIN.
     

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