ideas on how to be less lonely? :(

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  1. SovietRussia

    SovietRussia What? You pooped in the refrigerator? OT Supporter

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    so i have been feeling pretty lonely lately. i actually feel needy, and i dont really like it. i have been trying to keep myself busy, with work and working out and shit...i have been trying to hang with my friends, but they are bums and dont do anything interesting. plus i kind of neglected them when i was with my ex.

    any other ideas about how to be less lonely?

    i know i am a huge pussy and stuff. :hsugh:
     
  2. Tan_Man

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    join a rec league for a sport?
     
  3. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    Make new friends who do interesting things?
     
  4. Acciaio

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    I have a hard time finding stand up friends, too. I meet somewhat cool people but they end up either being a fucking mooch or are into drugs, are sexist/racist, or are unreliable. I'm tempted to start fucking seeking female friends because so far guys are a wash :hsugh:
     
  5. Falconer

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    i know what u mean.

    meet someone cool... oh snap they do drugs.

    meet someone cool... oh snap theyre secretly a wannabe thug or a nazi or something

    meet someone cool... oh snap theyre an unreliable POS

    meet someone cool... oh snap they are needy as fuck and call you 50 times a day

    meet someone cool... oh snap they're whatever

    i seriously can count my number of friends (actual friends, not acquaintances) on fewer than 10 fingers. only a few even still live in my state.
     
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  6. Falconer

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    i don't mean like funny sexist/racist. i mean like *seriously* racist, like you're sitting there having a beer and a black dude walks in and the guy is like "wtf, now there's ngrs in here? i wish it was legal to fuckin kill ngrs" outta nowhere.

    :ugh2:
     
  7. Kinks

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    ^^ so you prefer the passive aggressive racist who pretends he's playing when prejudices slip out rather than the racist who has the balls to speak his mind?

    racism has nothing to do with it you just like being friends with pussies.
     
  8. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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  9. Kev07

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    actually, yes

    everyone has stereotypes built into their heads, the only thing you can really do to prevent judging people is keeping it to yourself
     
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    Can we get back to topic, I'd like to know as well :o
     
  11. Kyoko

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    Booze has always worked for me.
     
  12. Mr. November

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    I'm right there with you. It sucks.
     
  13. Montoya

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    join clubs, take night classes, just push yourself to do something, you only get 1 chance at this shit
     
  14. SovietRussia

    SovietRussia What? You pooped in the refrigerator? OT Supporter

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    i dont really think its a matter of friends...its more like i feel like i really want/need a gf. i obviously want my ex back, but that looks unlikely. so i want to find out how to not feel like i really want/need a gf. :hsugh:

    edit: another pesky feeling that keeps coming up is i will think about having sex with her, and then i will get all bummed out and shit. :wtc:
     
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    ROFL where the fuck do you meet people?

    You seriously have an issue with 99.9% of human beings you talk about.
     
  16. Rellik

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    you're just saying that to appear less racist.. its okay man
     
  17. lauren

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    brilliant!



    :ugh:
     
  18. JohnJohnJohnson

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  19. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Where are you living? I make friends in NYC pretty easily, it can happen anywhere. On the subway sometimes :o
     
  20. BlazinBlazer Guy

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    I don't see where the "how" is so hard, I guess. Go places where people do something you find interesting, talk to them, and become their friends.
     
  21. DTR rex

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    Sounds like it's less about loneliness and more-so about you being depressed over not having your ex in your life.
    This can make you feel lonely, which is why it's imperative that you get out and keep yourself busy.

    As for how to get the point where you feel like you don't want/need a g/f........ That's something you have to figure out. Stop focusing on the positive and what you miss from the relationship and focus on the negative things she brought to your life; focus on the freedom you now have to move in any path/direction you want.

    That feeling of not needing a g/f is something that just happens and it's something you have to fix within yourself first.
     
  22. giz

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    check your local newspaper for events. go to events like art shows or anything that interests you and TALK TO PEOPLE while you are there
     
  23. peoplescar

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    Get into some hobbies. My mom is 48 and she was getting down about breaking up with her boyfriend and now she joined a hiking group that goes out 3 times a week and one of the days they all go get dinner afterwards. its like 20 people. she's met some cool people and gained friends in the process. she also lost 30 lbs. she also goes dancing with a group as well. you are young dude what are you doing at home being depressed about your life. start a new thing for yourself and meet some people. be active in finding friends and you will.

    I honestly think I only have 5-6 friends. as you get older and mature more the younger acting people start to annoy you. 1 of those people i consider a great friend. He actually calls me to just chill, not when there's a need at hand :rofl:

    I can't count the amount of acquaintances I have.
     
  24. iwishyouwerebeer

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    You still talking to the ex all the time?

    BTW, you'll always feel lonely until you resolve your emotional attachment issues.
     
  25. JohnJohnJohnson

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    By means of therapy?
     

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