FRK ideas for non-vaginal sex fun

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  1. themolsen

    themolsen New Member

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    The girl I'm seeing revealed to me she has genital herpes. We haven't had sex yet (nor have I given her oral). She's a really great girl and we get along really well. And we both have a similar sense of "adventure" in the bedroom (dirty talk, open mind, restraints, etc.). So I told her last night I'm not ready to walk away from someone I enjoy being with so much, but I don't want to be exposed, so I would love to engage in non-risky behaviors and enjoy the hell out of it. She's down for it and is very understanding.

    So.... ideas?

    Lube, restraints, whips, toys are on the list of things to do (or be done by :mamoru:)

    -edit- I'm big into HJs, enjoy restraining and being restrained, I like using toys on others (never have been toyed with myself, but I'm open to it)
     
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    Dont do it
     
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    Too risky for me, I'd stay away.

    You could restrain her and gag her, then use toys with condoms over them on her. I'd just be super careful.
     
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    we're not going to be having sex or sharing toys :hsugh:. We'll be specifically engaging in non-risky behaviors
     
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    mutual masturbation is safe and fun. just wash your hands after. if she is not currently having an outbreak and is taking antiviral medication like valtrex or acyclovir daily, and you don't have unprotected oral or vaginal sex, there's VERY little risk to you.
     
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    you could "play doctor" including the latex glove :)

    or just find a condom that goes over your balls as well and dive on in :mamoru:
     
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    roleplaying and dressing up :dunno:
     
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    man all of this effort for such little reward
     
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    What effort? :hsugh: and how can you possibly claim there's little reward? I've explained over and over that I really enjoy being with this girl and want to enjoy what I can... sorry I don't want to just give up and run away with my tail tucked because I can't fuck her.

    and dude WHAT is your deal? Why do you have to keep posting negative nancy crap in my threads? let up already!
     
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    i've read your other thread and think it's really admirable that you're being open minded about this situation are are willing to at least give it a shot. the people who automatically ditch someone special over something like hsv are the ones missing out.
     
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    Thanks :)
    I know it probably won't work out in the long-run, but that's OK. I enjoy spending time with this girl and don't want to ditch her just because we can't have sex. There are lots of other great ways to be intimate and I want to at least explore that option :dunno:
     
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    I agree you are a good man for staying. and a smart man for wanting to be safe. I would say have toys designated specifically for her and ones designated for you. then just have fun.
     
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    +1

    and +1 to abomb being a douche, but he's always been like that. just ignore him.
     
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    i seriously cannot believe the girl was upfront about it. (especially if she was without symptoms..) are most people this honest? definitely not...

    if i were in your shoes (considering you're still in the clear), i would start planning an exit strategy out from the relationship. (of course, make it clear its not because of the herps)
     
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    I'm certainly not planning a stay-with-her-forever strategy, but I'm not planning an exit strategy either. We're just living in the moment and having some safe fun :dunno:

    ...I gave her a huge facial last night :mamoru:
     
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    :rofl:
     
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    wait, so you're suggesting that it's a bad thing that she was honest? or did i read that wrong?
     
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    Sounds that way to me.
     
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    using a strap on??? they have strap ons for on the thigh, regular ones, ones for the head, etc... that would be fun.
     
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    I used a toy on her last night and she LOVED it. We're to take a trip to Adam & Eve to see what excites us soon
     
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    Tie her up and spank her ass/pussy with whatever toys you find acceptable.

    Canes are fun. :)
     
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    I ended it with her a few days ago, actually. I couldn't get it out of my mind and it made me uncomfortable, thus inhibiting me too much. Oh well. Good ideas though :cool:
     

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