First up, I'm 21 (22 in June) and I've been single all the way through college. I graduate in May and the only thing I did was a couple nights with one girl, but we decided it wouldn't (it really wouldn't have) and went our separate ways. Beyond that I haven't even been out on a date. Spending 3 semester abroad also contributed to that. Right now, somehow, I've got two women I'm interested in and seem to be interested in me. I'm not suave, debonair, nor even all that good looking so how the fuck this happened is beyond me. So girl #1 goes by the name of Torie. She goes to my college, but she's a Freshman. Still got all those great bright eyed ideas of what she wants to do in college and whatnot (kinda makes me miss all that enthusiasm I had back then), but she's not simple. She dated a guy for the last 2 years of high school, but August of last year and the first weekend he was away at college he cheated on her and the broke it off. She's been single since, but apparently they hooked up again over Spring Break (a couple weeks ago). we've been on a date and it went well, but when I asked her out again she said she'd rather do it just as friends because of the complications with her ex. I've no idea what to do here. Girl #2 doesn't go to my school, but rather a local community college. Met her via MySpace actually, but she's extremely relaxed and I feel really comfortable around her. Girl #1 is by all means incredibly intelligent and certainly smarter than me in a number of areas. That sort of intellectual ability is huge to me and it's not something I've found a whole lot of. Her sheer conversational ability and the fact that she's got the same wit and sly humor that I enjoy make her incredible to me. I've just got no idea how to deal with the ex. The only problem with girl #2 is that between work and school she's pretty much busy all the time. We've talked a lot and it just seems no matter what we can't both have free time at the same time or at least not right now. Also, for what it's worth, classes end in 5 weeks and I move out of town in 8. Chances are that I'll be going to a school not too far away so a relationship, if created, could continue if we were both committed to it. I post this here because I've got little to no experience. I had a 'girlfriend' for 3 weeks in high school, but it really wasn't. I don't have a lot of dating experience, I don't know the social norms and whatnot of my school for dating (it's a conservative school, but I'm not all that conservative), and I just feel completely out of my element. I'm the guy that went to the library on Friday because I had stuff that needed to be done for Monday instead of going to the party. Help?