I want what I can't have.....

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  1. Chris90210

    Chris90210 New Member

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    but once I obtain her I usually do not keep things going because I am no longer interested.... This is a sad truth I found out while watching scrubs:o. How does one overcome this problem?
     
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    You don't really...
     
  3. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Yeah, I hate to see it...but the only people I've ever known who always had this mindset either just stuck with it, or finally grew up and realized sometimes there isn't always something bigger and/or better to move onto.
     
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    How old are you? Sometimes age mellows us.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    it's not that u like her, rather, u feel validated by her interest in you. once you've gotten that validation she has nothing left to offer so u move on

    the only way i know of to get around this is to get so much validation (fucking a lot of hot girls) that you gain perspective. i.e. whether or not you enjoy being around a girl will become more important than the validation she can offer you by showing sexual interest.
     
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    :werd: that's what I was going to mention

    I think all of us think that way some point in our lives and then someone tells us to "lower our standards" when it's sometimes not the case

    I think it's something that one has to adjust to almost, we may get it but then get "bored" or "lose interest". Maybe one shouldn't have this set ideal of a person but just let things flow naturally.
     
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    20:o
     
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    That being said, I think you 'grow out of it'. Im intention is not to call you young, but give it some years, there is a good chance that your mentality and priorities will change and you will settle down a bit. At 20, I wanted what I couldnt have as well, I would conquer and then move on to the next. Now 26, my priorities have changed so my actions have as well.
     
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    well I can't wait. For the past year I would get something going that I would enjoy. I would be happy but I wouldn't stay with it.
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Watch "Scott Baio is 45 and single" :rofl:
     
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    Thats probably not bad advice....it helped put a couple things into perspective for me
     
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    I have never heard of this show
     
  13. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Just came out on VH1. I caught myself watching the first episode last night really late and was actually surprised that it's not so ridiculous. The themes he's dealing with are close to what you are doing (minus the hundreds of gorgeous Hollywood women he's slept with). Basically he's trying to learn from his past bad relationships and figure out how he can have a normal relationship that actually progresses instead of him hitting an emotional wall and immedately moving on to find another woman.
     

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