I personally like my gf to have meat on her bones. She is a tall woman, and she has the frame for it. She has had a couple kids (6 and 11) and still carries some of that extra weight from it. And I was perfectly fine with that. Fell in love with her at that size. BUT, she has gained maybe 20 lbs in the last few months. It's really effecting her self confidence (can't get in her old clothes and the like) and she is afraid that I'm going to "love her less" and find her less attractive. MY problem is that I want her to lose the weight. I want to be supporting about her weight lose, but it's really difficult since her self confidence is in the crapper. Everything I say to her has the potential to get twisted around into me "thinking" that she is too fat. Am I screwed here? Will I have to just keep my mouth shut and only help her by eating her salads?