My father and I have never had a great relationship. We have always been on speaking terms and we have never been genuinely mad at each other. We have had our moments, but it usually faded away after a day or two and things were back to normal. But I can sense something when I talk to him. Almost as though he is worried about me or feels he did a bad job raising me or something? I'm about to move out of town here in about 2-3 weeks and I don't want to leave without dealing with this first. I want to be able to sit him down and just tell him that I love my life. I want to tell him to stop worrying about me and focus on his own life. I want to tell him how good of a job he did of raising me. I want to tell him that I love him and I thank him for everything he has ever done for me. But I just don't know how. My life is pretty much controlled by social anxiety and it's quite pathetic that it controls me to the point where I can't even talk openly with my own parents. How do I do this? I've thought about asking him to come for coffee with me, but chances are I'll get overly emotional like I usually do in such situations. I can never seem to raise the issue over a lunch conversation. THose are usually limited to him complaining about his day at work. I have considered just not talking to him about it, but I feel then that its like a balloon thats being over inflated waiting to explode. I just don't know what to do. My mom is cool even though we don't have an open relationship. We love each other and all, but she is too tied up in her own life to really be overly concerned with myself. SOmetimes she will get really nosey into my friends' business, but eh, shes my mother, she does some weird things. Like all mothers.