I used to suck at talking to new ppl, but i found the secret of endless conversations

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  1. Thanatos

    Thanatos New Member

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    I always just ask questions and totally refrain from talking about myself, i ask them about their life and there interested i talk about myself if they ask...

    for all you antisocial ppl that is the key and it has helped me alot

    ppl like to listen to themselves talk about themselves


    also being a good story teller helps but i suck at that

    sorry random

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  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    You just learned this?
     
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    Good show mate. Glad you figured this out, cause it's gold.

    It also helped me to view conversation as a tennis match. It's all about volleying ideas back and forth (like a tennis ball) and if you don't return the balls and you keep accumulating them, the game dies. Same with conversation.

    Pretty soon it becomes second nature too. You don't actively think that you are in a tennis conversation match. It just happens.

    I DO kinda suck at telling stories as well, but I think I have a good solution that I'm eventually going to try.

    I'm going to sit down one day and actively think of all the different "stories" from my life that I can tell that I think people would like (either funny, serious, etc.). One by one I'm going to go down through the list and work on them to the point they become second nature to me and slowly introduce them when the ocassion arises. As I get used to one, I'll move onto another and keep doing that until I'm pretty comfortable with the idea.

    Can't vouch for how this will work, but I'm going to try it eventually. I'm also thinking about joining toastmasters for this reason. It'll help me think more on my feet (which is really my issues) and get used to speaking at lengths.

    But for now, I'm pretty happy with my convo skills. I've come from a bashful shy kid who always held back to someone who can hold my own in a conversation fairly well.
     
  4. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    Just gotta watch out and vary your stories though........there was a point after undergrad that all my stories were about drunken stupidity and adventures with my equally drunken friends and I found that it made me seem like an insane alcoholic that if you were around me, you would most likely end up in trouble and running from cops, etc.....
     
  5. Falconer

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    How do you stay awake when they're prattling about all the boring stuff in their lives? :mamoru:

    It's not getting people to talk, it's finding interesting people to talk to.
     
  6. Tony Stark

    Tony Stark John McCain has an illegitimate mexican baby

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    the problem is that too many people take this advice too far, and then the girl complains to her friends that she went on a date with the Riddler
     
  7. Mortixer

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    yeah im an awesome story teller. It seems like my life is something out of a book with the crazy mis adventures i have had. For me its finding ways to get them to open up. I have ton of stuff i like that something im a bit embarrassed to bring up because well it may be considered overly nerdy and i get a little obsessive.
     
  8. Falconer

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    Be interested in what you're talking about.

    If you're seeking approval, like "yeah... um... well, I kinda like to play some video games sometimes... cuz... yeah... they're fun..." the chick's gonna be like "boring."

    But if you're like "omg, it's awesome. You should come over and play one day!" she'll be more into it.
     
  9. Thanatos

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    you the mod here and you are goin to troll me?
     
  10. Thanatos

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    ya i dont think alot of ppl my age know about this charm of asking questions
     
  11. Thanatos

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    im not saying i dont answer their questions or discuss their ideas
     
  12. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Troll schmoll!

    This is the oldest trick in the book. Let a girl talk about herself the whole night while you pretend to listen and she thinks you are the sweetest and best listener ever.
     
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    :rofl::rofl:
     
  14. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    I thought the oldest trick in the book was "Nice shoes, wanna fuck?" :rofl:
     
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    It's not a bad idea for conversation in general... but IMO hardly hardly hardly the secret of endless conversation

    Want endless conversation? CREATE memories instead of talking about them.

    Far less boring as well. And, more importantly, it will make boring people more interesting!
     
  16. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    :rofl: beer's been on a roll lately since she got a house.
     
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    Oldest trick in the book is "just the tip".
     
  18. SleepyDay

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    IDK about you, I hardly ask questions. I'm a more of an in the moment guy, I talk about what's going on around us. If I want to learn something about a girl, I'll learn on the ride. You know?
     
  19. Thanatos

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    well ya im an in the moment guy, but if you are having are hard time its a good method, idk
     
  20. SleepyDay

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    It's harder for me to ask questions though, it seems TOO boring. You know?
     
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    question: is having a lot of conversation over the phone, say for hours every night, a bad thing? i think it messed up stuff I had because we came to know eachother way too much without the face time
     
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    Friendzoned.
     
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    dude that shits hella lame. i did that a few times in highschool and realized that a: huge waste of time and b: it would increase their attraction to you if you gave them limited amounts of your time c: id rather be whacking off to some nice porn
     
  25. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I prefer statements. I always seem to enjoy it more when each person is just reciprocating. Rather than being interviewed

    One thing that is easy for me to do is try and force conversation cuz I am nervous. Then I find myself on what is called a question train, aka a motherfucking, how-did-I-get-on-this, question train.

    Where are you from?
    Georgia.
    What is that like?
    Hot.
    Cool, do you like hot weather?
    Sometimes.
    Do you mind if I leave now to remove my balls and trade them in for a fail?
    Not at all.
     

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