I think my gf is cheating on me. ver. together for 8 years **6 months later update** ****6 months later update on last page****** original post below I am surprisingly calm right now. My gf (technically fiance, we got engaged 6 months ago) and I have been together for 8 years. High school sweethearts. During that times we've had our ups and downs but nothing serious. We seemed to work pretty well because we were sort of oposites in many ways. She is a very driven person (type A personality all the way). She is currently finishing up her 3rd year of law school. I on the other hand am very laid back (boarder line slacker if you will). Even though I am 3 years older than her I am still working on finishing up my BA. Enough back ground. This summer she got a job at a law firm as a summer law clerk. She developed a major crush on her direct supervisor (I know this because she told me, we are open about stuff like this). I thought it was annoying but I trust her completely so it didnt really bother me too much. At the end of the summer we very nearly broke up. She said my lack of motivation was too much for her. We talked and decided to give it another chance and since then, I have made a genuine effort to be more motivated (regarding school and life in general). That was in August. Since then things have been a little on the tense side, but things seem to have been getting better. That brings us to about a week ago. In a shamefull moment I snooped in her email. I noticed a couple emails from that day from her old supervisor. (she accepted an offer to work their full time after she graduates fyi) It wasn't anything juicy or incriminating, but they obviously emailed back and forth pretty regularly. At this point I was getting suspitious. I checked it again the next day and noticed that all the emails from him were erased (but none of the other ones). At this point I do the lowest of the low and look through her call log on her cell. There are 4 calls to the supervisor in 1 day. At this point I need further proof because there could be a logical explanation for this. I log onto our online cell phone statement (we have a share plan). First of all I notice the password is different. It didnt take me long to figure it out though. Apparently they talk 5 or 6 times every day. Mostly they are only 1 minute calls. But every couple of days they talk for 45+ minutes. Sometimes there would be a 30 minute call from him, then a 1 minute call from me and another 30 minute call immediatly after. And she didn't say anything about being on the phone to me. I'm not sure if she is physically having a relationship with him or just emotionally. To be honest I'm not sure which one hurts more. Anywho I have 2 exams and 1 project due this week so I'm not sure when I'll talk to her about it. If you got this far thanks for reading. I just felt like talking to someone about it.