I think I have come to realize that I really only care about 3 things

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  1. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    (I mean self improvement things, but I couldn't fit "v. self improvement things" in the thread subject)

    1. Building wealth

    2. Being physically attractive

    3. Being very good in bed


    #1 - duh, I want to retire ASAP. My cock literally gets hard at the thought of the moment when work becomes an option for me.

    #2 - probably based in insecurities since for most of my life I have always been the skinny pale weak kid (oh herro there BDD, even tho I've made improvements). I want women (specifically my SO) to be blown the fuck away by how I look. Sometimes when I see a super hot woman my heart skips a beat and all blood redirects to my penis. I want to elicit that reaction in women (minus the "blood going to the penis part, I'm not interested in that kind of woman). I realize women aren't as visual as men (which is why there's PUA) but still. I also don't ever want anyone to see me and my SO and think "wow, that guy must be rich to get a girl that hot." I want other women to see me and think "damn, I wish my husband was as hot as that guy." You can tell when they're thinking that. It's awesome. Insecurities, right? I never really got physical validation growing up so I guess I'm craving it now :dunno:

    #3 - probably somehow rooted in insecurity, but I always want gf/wife/whoever to enjoy sex with me. Not that I've ever gotten any complaints, but I also want to be the best lover anyone has ever had (so that would be an insecurity, right?). I don't think I could date or marry someone who didn't think I was the best they'd been with because I know that subconsciously, and then later consciously, they would be resentful and missing out. I mean, most people have sex and/or fuck, but I want to EXCEL at it. I don't want some boring ass sexual relationship. I like the chick to say "DAMN i've never been FUCKED LIKE THAT before" (in a good way, not like I did some weird ass Japanese porn sex position with tentacles or something)

    Besides, how fucking awesome would I be if I was rich, super hot, and awesome in bed? :bowdown:

    Of course there are other things I want in life, but these are the 3 big "self-improvement" ones.

    It struck me when abomb (or was it Xapuim?) was talking about how the Jersey Shore crew, despite being phenomenally huge douche bags, it was cool how they strove to be super sexualized (or something like that, he phrased it better than me).

    Pretty much everything I do is aimed at one of those 3 things.

    - I run my own business. I save money. I invest.
    - I go to the gym. I try to eat enough calories to gain weight when I'm not sick. (I used to tan fairly often but I stopped for the most part because I am afraid of skin cancer). It's really tough for me, I'm like ridiculously fucking pale and have been made fun of for it for my entire life. I hate going out in the summer and if I have to go to the pool or beach, I will start tanning beforehand so I'm not completely reflective. For some reason I can't figure out, my gf says she likes my pale skin. Boggles my fucking mind but I guess that's awesome for me. Maybe some pale dude was really nice to her when she was a little girl and it got implanted in her mind as a good thing. I frequently worry that one day she'll see me next to some guy with nice skin and it will suddenly click "wow, he does have gross skin."
    - I fuck my gf and make her cum

    Judge me, Vag. Am I setting sail to fail aboard the insecurity boat?
     
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  2. 2397

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    do it
     
  3. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    wat
     
  4. untoastytoast

    untoastytoast The Glory Days

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    seems to me like you're going about gaining happiness/self-esteem in the wrong way, but that's just my opinion.
     
  5. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    add a #4, be less crazy.
     
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    What wat?

    You listed three things you want to work on. I'm saying do it because it's what you want right now. Do you want us to convince you otherwise?
     
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    Are you someone I'm not supposed to entertain with a response? Be honest.
     
  9. Sixers

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    Sounds like your GF only likes you cause you have money and probably spoil the shit out of her...
     
  10. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    Sound like some superficial things that everybody wants to have. :dunno: they don't make you any special or different from an average guy if you ask me. I would think you are a more interesting person if you had something like "I'd like to contribute greatly to my society by...." in your list.
     
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    did this stem from the "would you date me" thread

    i also think that if you pride yourself on those 3 things, you're probably always going to be insecure about your SO and her "if she really liked me" factor because those are pretty superficial :dunno:

    it's already apparent because you overanalyze in a "if she REALLY liked me she would/wouldn't..." which for the most part, holds a lot of merit in a lot of situations, but you'll always get an underlying fear of being used, which would result in more of the above overanalyzation.


    k i'm not sure what the fuck i just typed, just woke up, but hopefully it made some sense :o
     
  12. Falconer

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    Oh, it was supportive!

    No, I just had no idea what you were talking about since I mentioned many things and not one specific thing that I would think would yield a response of "do it."

    Gotcha now :bigthumb:

    And I am doing them.

    :bowrofl: you obviously don't know me.

    I have a little money but my gf doesn't know how much. I clip coupons and shop at sales. We split the check when we go out. I spoil my gf in other ways but with money is certainly not one of them :rofl:

    My gf is super frugal too so it's cool.

    I have a "i'd like to contribute greatly to society by" list, it's just that isn't self-improvement stuff, which is what this thread is about.
     
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  13. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    Isn't there really any non-materialistic thing that you want to be better at? Those would count in "self-improvement" too in my opinion.
     
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    For the most part, I share those goals. I'm naturally skinny, so I just do my best to stay in shape and look good without a shirt on.

    As far as the money issue goes, I think it would be important to me to not have to live paycheck to paycheck. Granted I'm a broke ass college student right now, so I have to for the time being, but I hope to be more secure within the next couple of years.

    I have a fourth self improvement goal: To have a talent. Granted I don't know you personally and you could have 17 million talents, but when I was right out of high school, all I did was play video games and drink. I've since picked up golf and guitar. They are much more fulfilling than the previous two and I'm assuming making me a bit more interesting of a person to a girl I might be interested in.
     
  15. Spaceering

    Spaceering I bite.

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    I'd kill myself before i ever would retire :eek3:
     
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    dude, not gonna lie, thats pretty much the exact way I feel about 'life' when it comes to what I care about.

    Money/acquiring wealth being first and foremost.
     
  17. Ep

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    all the things that won't mean shit in your long term happiness in life
     
  18. XaPU!M

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    Being fit and healthy and therefore probably living a longer easier life with a shitload of money won't make someone happy later in life?
     
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    Why do I take you for a mid 30 year old whose been divorced?
     
  20. Falconer

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    Well, I mean I want to get more proficient in a few foreign languages, and I guess that's self-improvement, and I'd like to become less of a procrastinator (which would probably help the "make money" thing), but not nearly as much as I want the 3 things on this list.

    I'd like to donate millions of dollars to fund medical research that has been held back by science-hating politicians, but donating millions of dollars first requires me to have much more than millions of dollars, and I'm not quite there yet.

    I'd also like to contribute to society by becoming president, but that will never happen because I'm not (insert whatever reason here... connected enough, religious enough, a Freemason, a reptilian (just watched "Religulous" yesterday :mamoru: ), charismatic enough, etc.) plus I couldn't even change enough stuff as president so I'd have to become a dictator or king instead :o

    Everyone's broke in college. Don't worry about that for now. Just don't be like most college kids and be like "ZOMG A CREDIT CARD THAT COMES WITH A FREE T-SHIRT!!!" and end up getting yourself into debt. Education debt is fine, however.

    Guitar is awesome. I've played since I was in 4th grade. In fact, I have nerve damage in my right forearm from playing for hours a day for years on end (my wrist shakes back and forth on its own if I hold it at a certain angle :hs: ) So, I really don't play that much anymore because I'm afraid of making it worse :wtc:
     
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    intersesting.....

    here are mine:

    #1 wealth

    #2 physical health (why im so focused on eating right, gym, mountain biking, etcc)

    #3 finding someone that i can truly feel i can spend the rest of my life with w.o feeling like im setteling.
     
  22. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    Why not be like that? I mean fuck, a free t-shirt is a free t-shirt. Get the card, get the shirt, cut up the card, wear the shirt.

    No debt + free t-shirt FTW :bigthumb:
     
  23. giz

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    I wouldn't put any of those in my top 3
     
  24. Swipe

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    These seem really superficial, but it really boils down to why you want these things. If you want money to just bring pleasure to yourself, which is what it seems like, then that's superficial. If you want it to provide for your future family, assuming you want one, then it's not so selfish. Being good at sex is a two way street really and I see being attractive as being on the selfish side no matter how you look at it.

    So, yea, the three things you care about most seem selfish. Honestly though, I don't think that's very far from what the average person wants. I don't know if this means your selfish or just self interested. I don't think these things will bring you happiness if that's the end goal here. I've never had a lot of 'wealth' in the conventional sense, but I've achieved the latter two (which are both based completely on the external perspectives of others by the way) and while they are not a source of happiness (which is generated internally) they definitely make living life and achieving that internal state easier.

    Consider yourself judged sir.
     
  25. THoC

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    i really see nothing wrong w. falcs 3 goals.

    who the hell doesnt want to be rich, good looking, and great in bed?

    the great in bed one is an iffy one since its relative to the person you are with i guess.


    then again i consider myself selfish. i always come first in an decision i make.
     

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