I think I did it, did I do it?

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  1. Seachicken

    Seachicken New Member

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    I asked this girl out about 7 months ago while we were in highschool and got friendzoned. Anyway, we continued to be good friends until highschool ended in November of last year. I was rather bumbed at losing contact with her and feared that I wasn't going to speak to her again until we met at a party of a mutual friend last night. We spent almost the entire party talking soley to one another and around half way through she suggested we go see 300 soon (no mention of anyone else coming) and I got her mobile number.

    It may seem kinda silly to ask, but am I in? There was no mention from her about dating (which I find odd if she is interested in me considering she knows exactly how I feel) and no real physical contact over the course of the night.


    Also, if we do end up dating it'll be interesting because my ex and I went through a similar friendzone and then dating a year later phase, what on earth is with that?
     
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    I wouldn't say you're "in" yet, but when you two decide to go see 300 maybe refer to it as a "date" and see how she reacts. If she's single and you're single, you have nothing to lose by seeing if the interest might be there this time around.

    I was in a very similar situation about 6 months ago, but I hadn't talked to the girl since sophomore year of high school which was almost 8 years ago. We didn't end up dating but we were able to rekindle our friendship, so either way I came out on top, good luck.
     
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    Seachicken New Member

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    I might just give that a try.

    :oIt's not exactly a well kept secret I'm besotted with this girl and about 7 different people came up to me over the course of the night telling me to make a move, I didn't try though : /
     
  4. Yail Bloor

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    The question shouldn't be "am I in with her" it should be "is she in with me?"
     
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    Seachicken New Member

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    I forget my mannerisms aren't universally understood, "in with her" in this context means is she interested in me as something other than a friend, being "in with me" would be my wishing to date her, which I do.
     
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    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    If she's interested, she has veiled her intentions.

    We don't know if she wants to go as friends or as a date.

    You should invite her on a date, and make sure she knows its a date. Then if she shows up for the date, you know she is interested (unless you make the date extravagant and she may come just for the free entertainment).
     
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    Friendzoned.

    She made the date (asked you to take her to the movie) and she gave you her number (whereas you should have asked.)

    You've learned nothing.

    In order to pick up a woman, you want to talk to her for a little while (party? 10-15 minutes TOPS) and then ask for her number. Then you walk away and talk to other women. If they seem cool, ask for their number, repeat.

    You were intensely focused on her and had your "date" right there at the party. Now you're going to PAY for her to see a movie, where she DOESN'T have to talk to you. You're a sucker. A free movie. Free lunch. Nothing personal, but you're an idiot with cash and she's using you until a real man comes along and asks her on a date, takes her home and screws her.

    Friendzoned.
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

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    You might not be friendzoned just yet....but you have to choose your next steops wisely. She gave you her number which is good. Now what you need to do is have the plan. If the plan is seeing 300 you call her and say "hey, lets go see 300 _______ at _____pm" as if that's her only choice. Maybe pay for her ticket if she agrees to go because that's obviously a first date move, and if she refused then you would know.
     
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    what makes me think this is bad is you spent the whole time talking to her. she won already, there's no more challenge.
     
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    Excellent point and perception.
     
  11. Seachicken

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    It seemed very mutual at the time to me, we were both talking a fair bit because we have a lot in common and there was a lot to catch up on.

    I'm going to try calling it a date when I phone and see what happens.
     
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    I hate how human beings make shit so complicated and have to turn everything, even love/dating/sex, into this competitive type shit.

    God, that is so stupid.

    Nuclear bombs, computers, automobiles..it doesn't matter. We're still just a bunch of dumb fucking animals with a herd mentality.
     
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    It does make it seem like she's an enemy who I need to trick to win
     
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    Your idealism will get you nowhere.

    If you want to date chicks, you will have to deal with these realities.
     
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    :werd:

    even if you think the game is stupid you have to learn to play it. that's how life works.
     
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    by ALL MEANS, keep pushing forward. call her, ask for a date, etc. anything you do to gain experience is good in my book. i'm just predicting what i can from black and white text.
     
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    What if the realities are a huge fucking turn-off?
     
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    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    Men take what they want. Boys take what they can get (while whining about how life is unfair).
     
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    gabacho numero uno New Member

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    Uh huh. Now how is it that men take what they want if whats there to take ISN'T what they want?
     
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    :dunno: Not according to some in this thread. Meh...
     
  21. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    This makes no sense. If you don't want it, why would you take it?

    A man sees a woman he is interested in, so he talks to her.

    The boy sees a woman he is interested in, and he lets his fear prevent him from approaching.

    So he settles for a woman he isn't that "into" because she is much easier for him to be with.
     
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    This is so true.
     
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    Yail you're not following my meaning here. Meh..nevermind.
     

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