I'll make it short but sweet: Day #1 I had suspicions she was cheating (acting strange, lying about where she's been, playing head games, etc) Day # 2 I knew her cell's voicemail PW (helped her set it up) and checked out what she had on there. 3 VM's were 3 other guys, 2 of which were thanking her for "last night" Both a day apart Day #3 I broke it off. Big arguments, lots of drama. In the end she got prego by one of the guys and married him Am I an asshole for spying like that? I'm not possessive in any way shape or form. I usually respect people's privacy since I had none growing up, but I had to be 100% sure before I confronted her about what she was doing.