i saw my serious of a year GF kissing an old bf.

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  1. littleweber4

    littleweber4 New Member

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    so all of a sudden we start gettting in to arguments when were drunk. she gets mad and goes to this kids room with her lady friends. long story short, they left and i saw them kissing. but i snooping around out side, and i saw it through a window.

    i feel like a sleeze ball for not trusting her, but now i know that actully happend. i was heartbroken when i saw this. i dunno how to go about talking to her. i cant tell her i was outside the window. is this grounds for breaking up

    please help!!!
     
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    kristaliah New Member

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    are you serious?
     
  3. littleweber4

    littleweber4 New Member

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    i am not a guy who is into casual dating. i found so much good in her, and i could of seen my self down the road in 5 ,10 yrs with her. how should i go about talking to her??
     
  4. deuceforty

    deuceforty between rupture and rapture

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    she wont be with you for that long..

    you may like her, but dude seriously, you SAW her kissing her EX boyfriend..

    it doesnt matter what you want, shes done with you
     
  5. Victoriono

    Victoriono New Member

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    Yes. Stop being a pussy. Dump her.
    I wish i could just shake you and scream; WAAAKE UP, THERE ARE MORE WOMEN IN THIS WORLD.

    Your case is not a special one.
     
  6. BlackIce72

    BlackIce72 New Member

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    Shit bro I wouldn't say a word I mean shit what would happen if she ACTUALLY broke up with you?!

    Then she'd like, be hooking up with other guys and shit without caring about what you think!









    Wait.
     
  7. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    Dump her... once the relationship has lost trust, it will never be the same. Every time she goes out, you will be questioning if she is hooking up with another guy.
     
  8. fluentinsilence

    fluentinsilence New Member

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    This has got to be a troll thread.

    If not, how is it possible people are this ignorant and oblivious to what obviously must be done?

    To the OP, if you're still clueless as to what to do, you deserve all the 'walking on' that comes your way.
     
  9. MattThom01

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    Let's see....getting into arguments when drunk, not trusting her, and she's kissing an ex.

    Relationship's already over.
     
  10. littleweber4

    littleweber4 New Member

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    im 21, and finishing college, same with her. is it worth thinkning about "taking a break" and let things settle for the summer , since she is going to be on the west coast for an internship, and im in philly.

    its hard for me to think about just getting rid of her, we have experienced a lot together.

    and the kissing was after she got pissed at me for no reason casue she was drinking. and she was still under the influence. i am in no way justtfying her actions cause of alchol.

    she says that i am smuthering her. but as soon as i try to give some distance, she complains that im ignoring her. i cant figure out what to do!!!!!
     
  11. Boosh Dag

    Boosh Dag Guest

    have some fucking self respect
     
  12. greenpillow

    greenpillow New Member

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    Kids room?! Kiss?! WTF.. was it a kiss goodbye or a make out session?
     
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    BlackIce72 New Member

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    Dude believe me a LOT of us have been there and I know how much it sucks.

    I know that feeling in your chest that just pulses and gets tighter and tigher sometimes. And I remember just not wanting to eat anything-- or just forgetting to eat... forgetting to do the normal things throughout the day that makes you not think of her.

    But dude in a few months you'll look back and laugh about wanting to stay with her.


    What's most personal is most universal. Your pain is shared with everyone here.

    That being said, man up.

    A single rose seems like the most beautiful thing until you've been exposed to the entire garden it came from.
     
  15. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    hmm, drunk and ran off to the ex. Yeah, they likely fucked.

    dump her.
     
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    :rofl:
     
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    well said
     
  18. MattThom01

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    Don't bother taking a break. That's just a way of breaking up while still allowing her to use you if she gets bored or lonely.

    This girl sounds like she has no idea what she wants...lose her and find someone else.
     
  19. Captain Jack

    Captain Jack I know I know nothing

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    You pussy! You act like you owe her something!

    NEVER try to find the good in women!

    dump her please.
     
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  20. littleweber4

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    this blows!!!
    im going to be talking ot her in an hour. i talked to sevral close friends and they said the same thing as all of you. do i tell her i was out side when i saw them kiss??? and no they didnt fuck, i was watching.
     
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    Don't worry about telling her you saw her.

    Here's what you say:

    "We're done. Goodbye."

    It's that simple.
     
  23. Bruticus

    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    Agree.
     
  24. biuealien

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    Yeah man. You have to dump her. Trust is broken and how do you know that if you guys get into another argument again, she's not just going to go out and start making out with some other guy?
    No man, you don't need that. Even though it might be hard you have to do what's best for you. Right now, what's best is that you tell her "peace!"
    Tell her that you saw her making out if you want. Doesn't matter since you're going to be breaking up anyways. She might try to cry to you and say she's sorry, but seriously man... don't let her come back to you.
     
  25. Xin

    Xin OT Supporter

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    I'd say if you truly wanted to work things out, to sit and have a good talk with her and see what she says, but since she's doing some internship over the summer and you're leaving on a really bad/rocky note I'd just take that as a sign to let this one go. Chances are by the end of the summer you'll probably of met someone new anyways.
     

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