I really want to ask this girl on a date...

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  1. Minkish

    Minkish Tomorrow's as close as yesterday

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    So I've been thinking about asking this girl in one of my classes (150 person lecture) out on a date. Problem is, I've never talked to her. She sits pretty much all the way across the room and we've made some passing eye contact a few times :dunno:

    She's pretty cute, and I want to see if she's a cool girl, but I don't know how to approach the situation without coming off as a major creep. Any advice?
     
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    I wouldn't go straight up and ask for a date (unless you look like a model and can pull ass easily). Find a way to start a convo and go from there. And then try to include her in something your doing. You want it to be something that you were already going to be doing, and even if she doesn't go, you're still going to go anyways. For example, lets say you have a convo going and its going really well, say something like "I was actually on my way to grab some coffee from the star bucks on campus, lets continue this as we head that way." Then you kind of pull her into an instant date. She won't even know it.

    You want it to look like you are not pursuing her.
     
  3. Minkish

    Minkish Tomorrow's as close as yesterday

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    Yea, I was thinking of something like that, but it poses some problems for me. First, the only time I could start a convo with her is when we're walking out of class. Second, we don't go in the same direction after class. Third, any sort of coffee shop or any place we could go is in the opposite direction from the way she appears to be heading.
     
  4. Minkish

    Minkish Tomorrow's as close as yesterday

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    Come on, I know someone has some advice.

    Only 2 more classes before finals, so if I'm going to make a move it's gotta be this week
     
  5. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    2 classes before finals? you might be fucked.

    id sit next to her next class and ask her to study w/u
     
  6. Minkish

    Minkish Tomorrow's as close as yesterday

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    assigned seating in this lecture hall :greddy:


    Is there any chance if I just go up to her after class and say something direct and ask her to coffee?
     
  7. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    assigned 150 ppl? are you fuckin kidding me? lol!
     
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    Establish eye contact during class, approach her after, build attraction, get her to go for coffee with you.

    The two in the middle are going to be the challenge :hs:

    It's not easy when you don't have an obvious reason to be talking to her (such as sitting next to her). But, you know, all you can work with is what you got.
     
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    Dude what is happening is your making too many excuses. Grab your sack and be a man and get what you want. And don't pull there is assigned seating for 150 people. Or you can keep making excuses to us for the next two periods and then live the rest of your life never knowing what could have been.

    Get out there and TRY!
     
  10. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    yea if she rejects you she never liked you anyway. and by trying at least you figure it out instead of never knowing.

    its not better to not know and be wrong then to know and be in the wrong
     
  11. Minkish

    Minkish Tomorrow's as close as yesterday

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    yea, im actually not kidding about the assigned seat shit. They do it so they can take attendance, which apparently is part of our grade, which blows.

    I agree that I've been making excuses, and I've been hitting myself for it. I really just don't have any clue how to start to talk to this girl without her thinking that I'm stalking her
     
  12. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    actually stalkers tend to NOT speak to their victim..... so she might already think that... ;-p
     
  13. Minkish

    Minkish Tomorrow's as close as yesterday

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    lol, maybe.


    I was thinking about saying something along the lines of this to her:

    "Hey, I'm in a rush so I'll make this quick. I've usually got some pretty good instincts when it comes to reading people, and you seem like you might be pretty cool. What's your email so we can talk a little more and see if I'm right about this one?"
     
  14. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    What's the purpose of that part?
     
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    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    yea thats what i was thinking ware_ru
     
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    - add her on facebook (chicks these days live and die by their facebook friends lists so she wont think much of it)
    - look for mutual friends use them (party, group outing, stuff like that)
    - and like the others said, just strike up conversation with her, if you hit it off then great, things will naturally develop from there, if not then it was probably for the best

    - facebook is also great for checking on relationship status (helps save some face if you know she already has a boyfriend)
     
  17. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    no.
     
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    Tetragrammaton New Member

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    great post, will read again
     
  19. Silmatharien

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    still sounds a bit weird.
     
  20. Minkish

    Minkish Tomorrow's as close as yesterday

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    :dunno:

    trying to sound like I have a reason for wanting to talk to her other then just wanting to bone her because she's hot

    If you have something that you think would work better, I'd love to hear it
     
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    Minkish Tomorrow's as close as yesterday

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    Nope, not gonna do that.

    1. I don't know her name.
    2. I'm not going to stalk her to find out her name, friend her out of the blue, and look like a desperate asshat who does his game through facebook.
    3. I don't have a number three.
     
  22. Minkish

    Minkish Tomorrow's as close as yesterday

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    I know, but it's the best I could come up with for now.

    Suggestions welcome.
     
  23. Minkish

    Minkish Tomorrow's as close as yesterday

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    come on, who's got something?
     
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    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    well we can have all the advice you want, but if you dont actually just do something advice isnt going to do you any good. Inaction happens to be the same as failure here; they have different inputs and the outputs the only thing that matters. And unless you start talking to her, the outputs are the same, as in nothing.
     
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    IMO, I say next. I think you are focusing too much on 1 girl, and that will fuck you over sooo much in life.

    Also, you are making too many fucking excuses. Shes walking the opposite direction from the coffee shop? Who fucking cares!? If she is interested, she will walk to the other way!

    The problem is you've never talked to her, classes are pretty much over, and you seem nervous. What is going to happen is you're going to be scared shitless when you approach, you will look nervous so she will get nervous, and she will be defensive and say no. Trust me, I've been there.

    If you want to accomplish this, you have to be cool, calm and collective. You need to make it seem like this is something you do all the time and that rejection doesn't bother you (basically, be confident and think you are the shit).

    walk up to her and say something like "Hey, excuse me. Not to be that guy that hits on you after class.......but yea.....I'm gona be that guy (make sure to smile while saying" then introduce yourself. then maybe "yea, I just thought 'man this girl is cute, i have to come meet her" and then take it from there.

    I am usually against this style of approach, but in your circumstance its really all you have left. Just make sure you are not nervous, don't have your hands in your pockets, and maybe good eye contact.
     

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