I officially have a friends with benefits thing going now

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  1. evh

    evh Active Member

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    I've never done this before, it's kind of odd.

    Correct me if I'm wrong guys, but this is how I came to my conclusion:


    text conversation:

    me: uh, do you wanna have sex tonight?
    her: uhm, really?

    me: yeah, just for fun
    her: mmm maybeee

    me: alright, sounds good
    her: we shall see
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    <6 hours later. now night time, i get a text>

    her: not tonite.
    me: okay no worries, i'll see you later this week
    her: ok


    that's pretty much a fuck buddy/friends with benefits, right? we were fucking over the summer, almost started dating, but it didn't happen. i spent the night at her house many times, got introduced to her family, etc.


    as she put it, we shall see.
     
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  3. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Wait, have you fucked yet?
     
  4. evh

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    yeah, many times.
     
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    uhh, i dont think thats fuck buddies. i think more like almost getting into a relationship but then go sour somehow.
     
  7. evh

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    well yeah, it kinda did.... but we're still both down to fuck.

    wouldn't that be a FWB?
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    And you have both talked about this being a friends with benefits situation?
     
  9. k624ash

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    it seems to me from the texts that is is unlikely to happen
     
  10. evh

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    not explicitly. do you think i should bring it up? if so, how should i approach it? she wanted to get lunch and catch up and talk... maybe then?

    that is, if bringing it up is necessary... which in my opinion, i feel it isn't. we both are sexually attracted to each other, that is obvious and without any doubt.
     
  11. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I think unless you talk about it openly it's not going to happen :dunno: How do you do it? I don't know, it depends on how close you two are. Just have to bring it up, in person.
     
  12. evh

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    why do you think that though?

    the way i see it, i asked if she wanted to fuck later... she said maybe (which implies thought going into it).

    she had the decency and respect to hit me up hours later and say not tonight (which to me implies that she wasn't in the mood, for whatever reason).

    objectively, it looks to me like I have a FWB. I guess i won't know until i actually fuck her again under these new relationship-rules.
     
  13. vodkacollins

    vodkacollins New Member

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    are you both aware of these rules? or are they rules in your head only?
     
  14. evh

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    nope, they are rules in my head, you are correct.

    i want to fuck her first, then bring up the FWB. what do you think?
     
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    just curious why the fucking needs to come before the rules conversation. are you worried she wont agree, and you want to get one last fuck in?
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :confused: Sounds dumb honestly
     
  17. BoomBoomBoy

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    Then you're fuck buddies. :rolleyes:
     
  18. evh

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    she doesn't like talking about sex. she was abused as a child, i'm pretty sure it has something to do with that.

    being physically sexual with her is sometimes a challenge. i'm aggressive in nature, and it's like any physical touch is seen as a threat by her because of what she's been through.

    i just don't want it to backfire.
     
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    my only question then...how do you know she doesnt see the fucking as starting up the relationship with you again?

    if you want to just be FWB, you need to make that clear from the start
     
  20. evh

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    ohh i forgot to add in the text conversation... (i left it out by accident)


    me: uh, do you wanna have sex tonight?
    her: uhm, really?
    me: yeah, just for fun
    her: mmm maybeee
    me: alright, sounds good
    her: we shall see

    you do have a point though, and could be right.
     
  21. vodkacollins

    vodkacollins New Member

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    her responses dont make it obvious either way. not to mention, they are texts, and tone is debatable.
     
  22. evh

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    she's a little whore if that helps.
     
  23. vodkacollins

    vodkacollins New Member

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    haha, not really

    whores sometimes want relationships too
     
  24. evh

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    :rofl:
     
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    always fuck first, ask questions later.
     

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