I need help on a girl.

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  1. Tehrod

    Tehrod New Member

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    Okay I like this girl and she's better than me. I mean this in the way that she's prettier(out of my league) and smarter than me. This raises the question of whether or not I should even bother with dating her. I know that if I knew the answer to that question I shouldn't be asking because if I liked her enough it shouldn't matter. It's just sometimes I feel totally intimidated by her because she is so smart...so basically, is there something I should know about dating smart girls before I go ahead and do it?
     
  2. NJGuy

    NJGuy "Fuckmefuckmefuckmefuckmef uckmefuckmefuckmefuckm OT Supporter

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    yes
     
  3. aznh2oman

    aznh2oman OT Supporter

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    i would say that you should at least try to go on a couple dates with her. this way you will get a feel of how smart she is and if she even cares. if not then you will always be asking what ifs.
     
  4. Solus Emsu

    Solus Emsu ****** U N R A T E D ! ****** -----THAT'S HOW I RO

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    One of these two will happen:

    1.
    You will not date her. You will regret not dating her. You will see she eventually ends up dating someone else. You will regret even more not dating her. You lower yourself even more.

    2.
    You date her. You continue to feel that she is out of your league. She sees this. She tells you that she is not interested in you anymore. You begin feeling bad about your self and your self-esteem goes down even lower to the point that you will see yourself being able to only be with a ugly and fat girl that works at a Hardee's till she either has kids or dies from a heart attack.


    I see either one of those things happening for you.

    Now. There is a third possibility that goes like this:

    3.
    You take that negative attitude about yourself and go get what you want.
    She sees that you are happy with who you are and that the fact that you are not as smart as her does not bother you. She sees that you are attractive because you feel attractive. All goes well. And even if she stops wanting to see you, you brush it off and say "her loss" and move on to the next girl knowing that you can get hot, attractive girls that are smart.


    The problem will not be in your looks or your intelligence.
    It will be in how you see yourself and your confidence.



    (Edit: No offence to anyone working at Hardee's. )
     
  5. thegreatlanfrit

    thegreatlanfrit New Member

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    So true.. and soo much easier said than done. god knows i have a hell of a time with it. and the reminders help.. it's easy to forget and slip back into the negative attitude.
     
  6. cobramadness

    cobramadness OT Supporter

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    You only live once...

    Rock out with your cock out...as someone recently posted in another thread.
     
  7. Bruticus

    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    If you think she's out of your league and she is 'better than you' then you'll never get her. Get over it, get some selfesteem and get whoever you want.
     
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    SHe's just a human being... she's probably as completely insecure and messed up as any other woman I've met. Go say hi.
     
  9. skelm

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    Wow.. So long as you think like this then you will _never_ get her.

    How do you know she isn't thinking the same thing about you?
     
  10. Sionell89

    Sionell89 I grew up when I wasn't looking

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    I'm with everyone else on the negative attitude. Ever think about RISING to her level? Ever think about going for the gold? About developing yourself so she WOULD want you?

    I mean, with your attitude, why would anyone date you? What do you have to offer?
     
  11. ebbnflo

    ebbnflo REAL- LAOT Hermit

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    If you think you could never get a girl like her, you are probably right.
    You could take a chance and try. What I am concerned about is that, because you are insecure, and feel like she is better than you, you will always worry that she will be looking for someone more "up to her standards" and will cheat on you, or drop you at any minute, which may cause you to become overly possesive and jealous, and you'll end up losing her anyway because of that.
    The point is, that you need to evaluate the reasons WHY you are feeling not so confident and work out those issues as best you can, before you get too involved with anyone, IMO.
     
  12. lets go

    she is not out of you lead..... you are the man got me.... come on soldier get it together and get your head in the game.
     
  13. Socrates

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    What the hell?
     
  14. JaxFlJon

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    :rofl:

    What he said!
     
  15. Socrates

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    Just buy her a lot of things and constantly tell her how pretty she is.



    Juuuuust kidding.

    As Poco said, she is probably just as insecure as you are. She is used to guys oggling over her and trying to "pick her up."

    Why not show her you aren't intimidated by her beauty and intelligence (even though you are, and even though I say this, i'm sure your wuss-signals would be showing all over the place.), and see how long it takes her to be begging for your attention.
     
  16. NCS

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    man just DO IT and stop the self pity
     
  17. Camron James

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    :bowdown: Well said. And 100% true.

    Edit: maybe some recent events have caused me to become jaded and more pessimistic. But whatever. I'll get over it eventually.
     
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    lack of coherence and punctuation ftw.
     
  19. Socrates

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    The best part was he put "lets go" as the title, like some super-motivated optimistic inspirational speaker.
     
  20. Hunt

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    :bowrofl:
     
  21. lauren

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    werd an werd.

    unless shes concieted. then you probably have no chance.
     
  22. poopies4u

    poopies4u Active Member

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    same thing happened to me... you're already fucked... what solus emsu said is dead on
     

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