i need help making my girl orgasm

Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by Señor Crackalackin, Mar 31, 2005.

  1. yes, i am going to admit it, i can't make her cum. she's been masturbating for years and has never been able to have an orgasm. i'm the only guy she's ever been with and i can't do it. any advice/links/anything?
     
  2. your both trying to hard. Relax- you have to mentally into it and not just physically- and sometimes, it really IS hard to have an orgasm. Try clitoral stimulation. Most girls cant get off any other way but by g-spot which from what it sounds like to me- is way beyond your league at this point right now. Especially if she's never had one before- it might take awhile so go slow and dont give up. It'll happen. Oral sex works for me.... try it.
     
  3. Lad

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    Like he said.... Relax first off. Tell her theres no overbearing need to cum. Hell even stage it to where if she is giving you head, stop her and tell her, that you want to make her feel good. Start from her head and work your way to her feet, AVOID her groin. You can tease it with your breath or what not, but dont touch it. Then roll her over and work on her backside from feet to the base of her head. Then back down. Turn her over again, and then by that time she should be plenty relaxed. Then work over her breasts. play with one in one hand while gently making out with the other, and use your other hand to start warming up her nether regions. DONT penetrate with your fingers, keep it all external. When she begs for you to move further south, or after maybe 15-30 minutes of breast playing (women can cum off breasts alone) move to her groin. Kiss the insides of her thighs and basically pull a big big circle starting from her inner thighs rotating in towards her clit. Then when you work the clit, work the slit. Just use your tongue now though. Lube up her slit, but make sure to mainly focus on the clit. Then slowly insert your pointer finger inside of her. Once your finger is hilt deep (work it in about 1/2 inch at a time) then make movements like youre beckoning someone to come to you. While you curl your finger slightly, you withdraw your finger. Dont completely withdraw it, go to the tip and put it back in. Slowly, but not too slowly. Make sure youre still making sweet mouth love to her clit. Keep doing this and she should cum withing 3-20 minutes. If it takes longer then that..... Well keep going lol, till she pops or gets bored. :p If all fails, hmmmm...... Try toys. If that fails :dunno:
     
  4. Fairy

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    listen to this guy, he knows what hes talking about. i would know, him being my hubby and all:mamoru:
     
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    Word is if she can't make herself then the chances of you doing it are slim to none. Sounds like a lot of this is in her head. She needs to relax and want it to happen, but not try for it to happen. Deep isn't it.. hah


    btw, your thread title is terribly missleading as to what you're looking for. Unless of course you want someone to come over and lend you a hand :rofl:
     

  6. you mean- like SHE said.......... :wavey:
     
  7. Lad

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    oops. sorry :o Normally im not that stereotypical.... like SHE said!......
     
  8. weakone

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    :werd: You need to stimuate her g-spot. I can't have an orgasm without inner penetration of some sort. And you need to ask her what she likes, what she wants, etc. She may be one of those women who just can't orgasm. But you need to try everything and seriously, just relax. I couldn't orgasm for a while because I was trying so hard to. Then when I relaxed and got more into the mood, the orgasms were amazing. :)
     
  9. King Ralph

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    What's your address?
     
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    Haha, I read the title and was thinking '...ok!'
     
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    she's been masturbating for years and can't even give herself an orgasm??? that's the problem, not you. she doesn't know the sensation, the feeling of an orgasm. for some it's really natural, for others it's very difficult. my suggestion, have her run a really warm bath, get some scented candles, a sexy light smut erotica that girls love (it's more comfortable to read porn than view it for most), and have her slip into the tub and just fantasize. then have her run her hands all over her soapy body, seeing what feels good and what erogenous zones of hers are the most sensitive. have her slowly work her way toward her vagina and start playing outside, just stroking teasing pulling all over the outside. she'll notice a slight/alot of swelling in her outer lips as she gets more and more aroused. once she's played there for about 2 -5 minutes have her go to the top of the vagina and have her play with her clit. touch it, roll it around, lightly pinch it, do anything that'll feel good. if she can't find it she's either not aroused enough, or it's simply a very small clit (not to say that you can't derive pleasure from it). once she's found the clit have her play with that and see if she can reach orgasm. she might not be able to. as someone mentioned, they have to have something inside them as well. have her slip a finger or two inside her vagina simulating sex. see if she can find her g-spot once she's thoroughly aroused. (i'm sure you can find an article on how to find it). if she's getting aroused but can't quite push herself over the edge have her try the bathtub shower head and see if she can get off from running the hot water over her vagina and clit.

    she may not come the first time she tries all this, but she'll know more about how her body works, reacts, and what she likes. she can help relay this to you and let you know where to start. maybe she has a super sensitive neck and you've been neglecting it. or maye she's really sensitive behind her knee caps. maybe she has sensitive forearms or some other generaly neglected area.

    take some time with it, let her figure out her own body. if she can't give herself an orgasm, it's gonna be very very tough for you to do it.
     
  12. i don't want anyone to lend a hand :o
     
  13. tried stimulating her g-spot. she said it feels different but nothing really happened
     
  14. punkerjim

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    let her get on top and do it for herself...

    i have heard that there are some women that just can't do it though... although none of them have ever had that problem while they're with me :naughty:
     
  15. i'm thinking about adding a vibrator to the equation the next time we mess around. is that too extreme? it's not a dildo or anything, just a small one for clitoral stimulation. i'm worried she might get a little freaked out by it though but i guess there's only one way to find out
     
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    My feeling is that if neither her or you can get her off alone adding anything else to the equation is going to do nothing. Like I said, I think this is all in her head. Either she isn't turned on enough (or at all), or she's thinking about it too much. Work on her mentality during the sex and find out if she's even turned on or not.
     
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    This is the ONLY way my wife can get off. She has never had the big "O" any other way in her entire life. I have dayum near killed myself trying oral, missionary, from the back, g-spot with my hand technique:noes: and the only thing that works is her on top.

    Oh well.........I can make her squirt while she is on top:x:
     
  19. Jonnie Boomboom

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    Ian Kerner wrote a book for you.

    She Comes First.

    Its a quick fast read.... will be the best $20 you spend for your relationship.
     

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