i need help convincing my SO

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  1. cosmocrat

    cosmocrat New Member

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    My boyfriend thinks I lie when we're having sex.. or he's going down on me and I tell him I'm cumming. I'm not exactly a "squirter", so it's only a feeling of a climax without all the result... how can i make it clear that I'm not just "faking it", and that I'm really... really enjoying myself?:rolleyes:
     
  2. Venom X

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    Most guys should be OK even if the woman is faking it.
     
  3. cosmocrat

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    he just wants to make sure im not just cutting the sex short because its not up to par. but.. it is. period.
     
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    tell him he is very good, and to judge on ur facial expressions and wat ur body is doing... ;) lol
     
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    Theres nothing you really can do. Hes going to either believe you or hes not. Hes an idiot for not knowing when your cumming/came
     
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    My girlfriend is the same way. Drives me nuts. Like I just can't tell if she's having a good time or not... but she always claims to... previously the girls I've been with were all like clawing at my back and shaking and "more.. yes..." and all that...
    but the current one is very very quiet... I'm starting to worry about my ... well... performance, but she doesn't complain and says she's having a good time.

    For you, being the female... try like I dunno, getting all worked up about it.
    Just relax and let yourself go with it... cause, first hand, i can tell you it will drive him totally nuts.

    My soln... I'm going to try and get her to squirt something fierce... haven't tried that yet...
     
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    Sounds like he may have trust issues that go far beyond you and have much to do with his past. Not everyone squirts, in fact, most women do not. For him to have that hope and assume that is the only way you can cum is total ignorance on his part.

    I dont mean to cut on the guy but he sounds extremely inexperienced, or else he'd know most chics dont squirt. Tell him porno usually isnt real.
     
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    Does it really matter? Fake not fake... as long as you want the sex from and are having fun. Thats all that should matter.
     
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    Darrin Eat. Sleep. Arrest People.

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    i prefer the moaners, gets me off wayyyyyyyyyyy more than the quiet ones :)
     
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    doesnt sound like anything you can do. He needs to get help for his insecurities though.
     
  12. cosmocrat

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    yeah.. I'm not quiet.. by ANY means. I'm louder than him... talk/moan/scream more than he does. I think he just likes hearing that he's good time and time again, as an ego-boost??
     
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    okita1 Great spirits have always encountered violent oppo

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    could be fishing for compliments if your all loud and shit, dunno
    but there are times when i cant tell, and times when its obvious
    put a little bell next to the bed and ring it everytime you cum :noes:
     
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    I would go the opposite way on him then. Dont say anything about it. If he says he doesnt think they are real, tell him that maybe they arent but they feel real to him. Sounds like he is insecure, and boosting his ego isnt going to help.
     
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    yes... it really matters.

    :o i'm a perfectionist, and i want to make sure that he's getting the best ever. of course that takes practice, but up for any and all challenges :naughty:. however, it requires communication... i'm not one to ask something i don't want to know. if i want to know, then that means i'm ready for both positive feedback and constructive criticism ;)
     
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    tell one of your friends that he's good in bed, and you always come..

    and have them tell him that ("So I hear you are good in bed") You have a reason to lie to him... but why would you lie to your friend?

    I dunno.. just a thought.
     
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    now that you mention that... i'm brought to believe its all just an ego boost. My boyfriend are notorious for our relationship amongst him friends for having "great sex", for what he;'s told them, and I've confirmed. Just when its the two of us.. he seems to doubt. he probably just wants compliments. (which he diserves :naughty: )
     
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    How long have you been together? I respect my boyfriend enough to know that he doesn't like me faking it, so I don't. He trusts me.
     
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    Soooo hot...:wackit:

    :naughty:
     
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    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    Her mosa? ITS MY MOSA!!!
    Umm, usually when you do cum it at least gets wet down there
     
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    okita1 Great spirits have always encountered violent oppo

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    :) i guess she could just yell out ding ding ding, that would work also
     
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    start faking it?
     
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    thanks babe, i'm glad you concur ;) :kiss:

    :boink: ;)
     
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