Ok, I have a revelation to make. I'm a virgin. I've kissed a girl and had one short relationship with a girl. I'm 23 years old. I don't think that I'm "unattractive" in fact I've seen much uglier men than me have girlfriends so... I'm 6 feet, 175 lbs. Ok, that's a bit heavy but I'm working on it. I was 190 lbs at the start of january thanks to a massive burnout, but I've reduced my weight to 175 thanks to my new workout programme. I've also reduced my resting heart rate from 80 to 60 beats per minute! I'm proud of that accomplishment! In fact, I get a lot of "looks" from women when I walk on the street. Hey, I don't look like Brad Pitt, but there's got to be some market out there for an average looking guy. Next, I could say I'm shy, but that doesn't fully describe me. My personality type in INTP, if anyone knows what that is. I used to be extremely shy, as in I was unable to talk to anyone, would look down all the time and would stutter whenever forced to speak. However, I've made a lot of progress in this field. I now usually get along well with people. I don't have any close friends, ever, but I am on friendly terms with just about everyone. I always sit around by myself in class, on purpose since I like to meet new people and I also like to listen in class. People seem to think of me as having good social skills. That is due to my ability to pick up body signals and understand people easily. Also, note that I was vice-president of a student body for a while, but quit due to the politics. So, I'm not shy with day to day social interaction, and I like to constantly challenge myself with talking to random people and such, but I'm unable to have any sort of depth in relationships. Why? Because I'm shy, and scared. Scared of being rejected, scared I'll make a mistake, scared. I mean, just getting myself to this point took years of efforts and I seem to have hit a wall. Also, I do not look shy at all. I have a good posture, long hair, and I always have that "I'm important but I care for you" look on my face. I learned that from one of my boss. So anyways, here's a typical example of me interacting with a woman. It's an actual example that happened recently. It's this girl at my gym: ok she's the gym manager. I was talking to my trainer, who works at the gym, when one day she passes by and she looks at me in the eyes for a few seconds while doing so. My trainer notices and makes me a sign to tell me he noticed. I take my "of course she's looking at me, I'm hot" expression. I don't talk to her. Next time I get to the gym. She greets me with a giant smile and says "how are you", the sort of how are you saying she wants to start a conversation. I'm like "good" and walk away. The following same thing happens, but as I'm walking away, she repeats "how are you", I repeat "good" and walk away anyways. The next time, I'm at the counter with my trainer and chatting. She comes in the conversation, asks me what I do, I say "student in software engineering". She says "interesting". Then she asks me for my phone number pretexting that she might need me to fix her computer. She then walks away and does something else. Of course, I don't give her my phone number. At this point, I either appear completely oblivious or completely uninterested. Then the following times, she still tries to engage conversation, offering to give me various things, or to do things that would imply me going to her place. After a while, (about 2 months later), she now appears slightly mad at me. So, that's one example of a situation that has happened much too frequently for me. The slightly uninterested look seems to work wonders on raising the interest of girls towards me, but damnit, I need to be able to close the deal. My behavior seems to raise the interest in girls so much, that they intimidate me. I always come out mad at myself. Either that, or it took me 3 months to work up the courage and she's already with some other guy by that time. Also, there are very few women in my environment, so I can't practice a lot.