Cliffs near bottom for those who are lazy. Sat morning there was a BBQ and my ex. was there. When I was telling my girl about the BBQ I just mentioned it to my girl and it wasn't a big deal to me so I didn't think anything of it. Later that night we were out with my friends and a friend said I should buy him a beer and I said yeah right you owe me a beer, don't be stupid. My girl asked why I was mean to him and I said well you know he should after what he did with Yvette (my Ex.) he should owe me a beer. Her response was this Why do you care about that? why it should matter? I said "what he did was messed up" she got all sad or upset and pulled away from me and so I had to do the mandatory kiss ass move and pull her to me. "no, not like that I don't care about her I care a lot more about you than I cared about her. I mean look at all I did for your birthday, I never did anything like that for her" She just said "buying me things and planning something nice doesn’t mean you don't care about her" well I thought it was over but later in the night my friend asked for a beer again and again I said the same thing but this time my girl didn't say anything. yesterday morning she called me and when we were talking I could tell something was bothering her so I pushed and found out this whole EX. thing got to her. She said something along the lines of "I knew your ex. was going to be at the BBQ in the morning but you didn't have to tell me about it or how the dog you got her was there and was cute but not like my dogs. Your comparing, I didn't want to hear that. Then you're holding a grudge with a fried over her and told me so two times....that means you still think about her and care about her so I’m feeling weird about her being an issue" I couldn't say much so I just said "no she is not an issue it was about him I still think he fucked up so it was about him, believe me she is not an issue" My girl just said I don't want to talk about it now but yesterday she is an issue you told me about her which i didn't want to hear and then brought her up again twice at night when you were with me, i just wanted you to know how I felt. Then she just said she would call me later and hung up. That night she called me and I could tell she was still feeling weird about it so I tried to bullshit for a little to make her comfortable but it was an awkward conversation. She giggle a little a few times but I could tell she forced it, after about 10 minutes she just said she was going to go and she would call me later. I said we’ll can we talk about Sat. first? She just said I’ll call later. I asked if later that night or today and she just said "Later....good night" Cliffs>>> Saw my ex. mentioned it to my girl and talked about a dog I got the ex, my girl thinks I was comparing so I’m assuming she thinks I do that with her too. I just casually mentioned it when she asked me about the BBQ. At night I made a comment that a friend of mine should owe me beer after what he did with my ex. and my girl got upset but seemed to get over it when I said that she meant more to me than my Ex. did. I mentioned that same thing later in the night but there was no reaction so I figured that it was not a big deal because it’s not to me and I thought she understood what I had said. Yesterday my girl told me that I made her uncomfortable and that basically she thinks my Ex. is an issue but she really is not but my girl didn’t want to talk about it. How do I make her see that I could care less about my Ex. that I was just still upset with a friend. I'm thinking that I should go over to her house tonight and force a face to face then just tell her what I meant and that bringing up my Ex. was the quickest way to explain why my friend owed me a beer. My Ex. Is not an issue and I don’t even think about her. Should I bring flowers or anything like that because my girl is upset or will a sit down be enough? I don't think it should be a big deal and I need her to believe me when I tell her that I don't think about my Ex. & that she is not an issue?