I love you

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  1. JSin

    JSin New Member

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    How do you respond if you don't? Is there something I can say that will not cause an akward pause and long discussion?

    Ladies, any thoughts on what you've heard or would like to hear?
     
  2. fcheerleader

    fcheerleader New Member

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    i normally say it back anyway its just words
     
  3. kiz

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    look into her eyes and then kiss her. :dunno:
     
  4. BradUF

    BradUF Guest

    uhh thats not cool...
     
  5. timberwolf

    timberwolf New Member

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    Definitely not "Well...look at the time..."
     
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    Tell us the situation. Give us some background info so that we can see how you should respond to that.

    Like are you testing the waters w/ this girl to see if you like her. Or you just dont even like her. Cuz I could just say, if you dont even love her back, why hang out with her. Is she a fuck buddy? What is it?
     
  7. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    I don't say it back under any circumstances (and I'm married).

    You should only say it when you are feeling it. In hindsight, I have told several girls I loved them when I didn't.

    Never say it because its what you think she wants to hear.

    There is nothing wrong with a cocky response like "I know" or "Awww" and give her a hug.
     
  8. zooenthusiast

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    just don't say "i love...spending time with you". that's the worst response.
     
  9. OoOlAlA

    OoOlAlA New Member

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    Just kiss her. That works. DONT DONT DONT lie and say you do.
     
  10. JSin

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    Me and my ex broke up because of distance and we're still close and act like a couple whenever one of us visits, and although she never says it sober, whenever she's drunk she'll say it and then wait for me to say it back and then ask if I do love here, and when I say I don't know or no, she gets all sad and depressed. I can't think of anything to say to speed bump that comment and move on.
     
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    I hope you're joking.... :hs:
     
  12. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    that's called a lie though
     
  13. MattThom01

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    Yeah, it's just words to you, but what about to her? Don't say what you don't mean.

    If she's a smart girl, she'd figure out really quickly that you were duping her.
     
  14. lauren

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    "aww" then a hug or kiss and change of subject.
     
  15. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    ouch :rofl:
     
  16. sk0rcher

    sk0rcher The universe is watching

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    :rofl:
     
  17. lauren

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    im serious. dont even entertain 'talking' about it. doesnt matter what side youre on, if one person is in love and the other isnt, no good can come about talking about it.


    just something you have to wait out.
     
  18. Socrates

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    and "I have a dream" is just a few words.
     
  19. JSin

    JSin New Member

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    word.

    And money is just paper.
     
  20. Sandoz

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    Loser.

    Anyway, it all depends on who's saying it and the context.

    Lots of young/teenage guys have told me they loved me, but most of the time they only think they love me, but are really just terribly infatuated. If I think that is the case, I sit them down and try to explain it to them. Or if I'm in bad mood I'll just laugh in their face (happened once... not pretty...).

    Usually when I get into the relationship I define the terms clearly early on. If it's just about fucking, I make that rule obvious early on, so if he tells me he loves me, it's over.
     
  21. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    man, if my SO responded by "aww" or gave me a fucking kiss or hug and said nothing I would lose it.
     
  22. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Umm, no. I'd rather us discuss our situation. Because most people don't say "I love you" unless they think the other person feels the same, so if I said it to him and he didn't feel the same I'd like to see where the fuck we are going (it's a girl thing)
     
  23. Falconer

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    I assume this thread is about saying it for the first time.
     
  24. bandwagon

    bandwagon Copy/Paste

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    "I know" in a cocky funny way.
     
  25. Miss Red

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    I think that the kiss is the best way. I said it to an SO before and he said "I wish that I could tell you the same". I felt pretty shitty....
     

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