FRK I love sex but am not very into intercourse

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  1. bpa00

    bpa00 New Member

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    first post in this forum... :noes:

    I don't really dislike fucking, but I can really take it or leave it. I really really really love sex and especially giving a girl incredible orgasms, but for some reason the intercourse part of it isn't that appealing to me. I LOVE kissing a girl all over, fingering, eating out the pussy, or even tossing a girls salad. I also really enjoy the more kinky things such as bondage, whips, candle wax, nipple pinching/clamps, etc in either a dominant or submissive role (not really a hard core s&m guy but I do enjoy a little pain). I definitely like getting off, but more so from a bj (69 esp) or just getting myself off after we've made love for a few hours (while thinking about what we just did).

    When I see a super hot girl, I imagine myself kissing her all over and eating out her pussy, but rarely do I fantasize about banging her...

    I dunno... Maybe it is just that I've never had un-protected intercouse and the condoms rob most of the feeling... I am above average in size, so I don't think that is a factor... I think my attitude is kinda wierd for a guy though??
     
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    z284pwr OT Supporter

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    We should get together and have a bbq or something, haha, I am like the exact same way, well, I only do that fantasizing part about my S.O. not really any other girl, but yeah, same basic thing.

    However, I think I am this way because my S.O. isn't really vaginally "stimulus" so the sex thing doesn't really do a lot for her, so clitoral orgasm is all she can really get, so i have pretty much become how you are, into lots of oral, tying up, etc. etc.

    So don't feel to bad, you aren't alone. :wavey:
     
  3. red97gst

    red97gst New Member

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    yeah man

    once u have sex raw dog, it's a whole different ballgame
     
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    BaneBoi ƒł٤şħ Ąđđίçŧ

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    Different strokes man... as long as youre both getting off, who cares how you get there. :)


    I agree, but he still might end up prefering other shit to penetration.
     
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    I wouldn't say it's the condoms. While it is true that they do detract from the act of sex (disclaimer: acknowledge the consequences of unprotected sex beforehand) I have had many more encounterd without condoms that with them, and I am virtually the same way. I find foreplay and making love so much more energizing than the actual sex. There are some psychological issues in my head, I will not explain them, but they expain my dilemna. I will have sex with a girl if she expects it, but if I can have a great night of fooling around, some BDSM, and get off through other means, i get more out of that than sex.
     
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    so you've had some type of trauma surrounding intercourse.

    there are two answers here. either you try and fix your issues to better enjoy this part of a sex life (do a lot of soul searching, meditation, talk to those who are close to you ; or see a shrink). OR if you are truly conent with this part of you as a person - and this is a question that many people often trick themselves about - then embrace it and be who you are.
     
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    no trauma, other types of issues. but I have no problem with the way i think and feel. Just relaying to bpa that he is not alone in how he feels.
     
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    oh shit sorry i mixed up both of you and thought you were one person in this post :)

    for bpa - don't worry man what your'e describing doesnt sound strange at all. for a long time i felt that way, and some days i still do.

    i'm probably even stranger though - i have a heard time getting friends and girls to understand that i dont like blowjobs
     
  9. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    come again?
     
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    yeah they are overrated IMO..... although i personally wouldnt say i "dont like" them.....

    but yeah diff strokes for diff folks
     
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    I hear u.

    I use to be in monogamous relationships, but have been on the fling so I use condoms to minimize catching anything, but her affection.

    It's worse than jacking off since I miss the wet velvet feeling.
     
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    AMen to that brother. Damn been doing wit with my wife for 7 years straight cause she was on pill. Now for the first time I gotta use condom I cant feel shit and I hate it. I miss that nice wet warm feeling.

    I rather masturbate now. Go and hide in a room and let it out!:wtc:
     
  13. JubjubRSX

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    definately condoms suck....me and my girl used to use them then got off them had to go back for a night i was like damn this blows! u know not a fan of riding the crimson river with out a jimmy
     
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